I think I may have lost family over this election.
I have no kids and am very close to my niece. She is like a daughter to me and always has been. She is married to a guy I always thought was wonderful. I knew he was going to vote for Trump and I have tried to sway him - but it is family and you make allowances to keep peace and maintain relationships.
Then yesterday, he liked a post on facebook that showed Hillary's face on a bullseye target and I lost it. I told him it was beneath him and that I was ashamed of him and that it was one thing to not like Hillary, but this was unAmerican and an embarrassment to every American.
No response. As a matter of fact, no one else that was commenting on the thread has even responded. They were all pro Trumpers. I don't think I changed any minds or anything but I could not let this indecency go unchallenged.
There must be some way to reach these people. I know you will find it hard to believe, but this is a kind, decent hardworking man. I just could not believe it. How can we reach these people? Not for this election - but just on the basis of basic human decency. I am so aggravated I could scream. My best friend tells me you cannot fix stupid - but we have got to.
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vote for HRC. So, good luck and I'll think about you on Wednesday morning.
That's what you should have said. 
You could apologize, saying that you may have been a little harsh in your criticism. Then you say that violence is never the solution and the bullseye on Hillary shocked and saddened you beyond your deepest fears.
Your nephew-in-law may not know how devastating to our country that a presidential assassination can be; he needs a history lesson and you probably are the only person, right now, to give it to him. 
I've become a believer in what my dad told me when I was old enough to understand. There're 2 things you should never argue, politics and religion as you won't convince them to see your way. I'm aware there are exceptions to every rule but the chances of changing someone's opinion is slim to none. There's no way...none, they could convince me to vote for Trump no matter what they say.
And, I too have friends and family that wouldn't vote for Hillary for love or money but that's okay with me, let them vote for whom they like and I'll vote for whom I like. They will always be friends, we have to agree to disagree and don't discuss politics. I won't let someone who votes different than I sway me on my opinion of or how I feel about them. 
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I feel somewhat blessed in that all my my closest friends and family members are apolitical. If I want to bore them, all I have to do is bring up politics and their eyes begin to glaze over as though I'm reciting prime numbers backwards from 1000 (fun to listen to for the first seven seconds, not so much afterwards).
As for co-workers and acquaintances, all that needs said is "you're a much better person than what you sound like at this moment. Be that better person for all of us to see!" It's a rhetorical trap, but it works every time. 
Be sure to point out it was made in China. I don't understand the Trump lover. Especially veterans. Here the Trumpenfuhrer calls STDs his "own personal Vietnam," says his time at military high school was just like the real military . . . maybe harder, shows up for his physical when called up to serve and presents the doctor with an x-ray of a bone spur on his foot. After being rejected for medical reasons he goes skiing. Then, of course, there was the scam military charity with $30 in the bank and 1 member he used to raise millions of dollars for veterans. After pressure from news agencies, he donated a million and no one knows what happened to the rest. It's hard for me to accept the fact there are Americans dumb enough to fall for this character's schtick. Did I mention the giant "Veterans For Trump" sign that went up a couple of miles from me?
on Double Secret Probation (i.e. I unfollowed them) on Facebook for the duration of the election. Luckily, my immediate family members are all voting Hillary, with the possible exception of my older brother who really has no interest in politics. (Although he does vote which makes him part of the uninformed electorate, so probably a Trump voter. 
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A week or so after the election I'll probably re-follow my SC relatives on a trial basis. If they are still spewing hate, back on probation they'll go.
"Gee, I'm so glad I let politics destroy my relationship with my family."
I have a lot of republicans in my family, and they aren't haters. In fact, our extended family is quite multicultural. Unfortunately, they still buy the trickle-down-economics-type shit and simply have different philosophies about governance than I do, but I'm not going to stop loving them for believing this.
When it comes to difficult relationships with family (and I've had my own difficulties, I assure you), it's best to ask yourself if you would take that same course of action if you only had six weeks to live...or if the other person only had six weeks to live. You might find your perspective quite changed.
