How To Deal With Trump Supporters On Thanksgiving

[liberal N proud]

Blogger writes tips for coping with the Trump supporters on Thanksgiving.

First….
If you’re a drinker, I strongly suggest you start drinking early.



Second….
Wear comfortable clothes.


Third….
Find an ally.
You really need at least one person in the room to be on Team Sanity with you.

Fourth….
Prepare for emergencies.
Before the day even starts find a safe space and give yourself a good pep-talk.

Fifth….
Don’t lose hope.
Here’s the thing. We will survive a Trump Presidency. We really will. Oh, it’s going to be four years of hell alright, but we WILL survive it. And if we can survive the Apocalypse called Trump, we can survive one day with our misguided relatives.

If all else fails, take a deep breath and start over at number one.

Happy Thanksgiving, Lefties!!


Mindy Fischer is a lefty-liberal, freelance political writer. Follow her on Facebook and on Twitter.

Full descriptions at link http://mindy-fischer-writer.com/2016/11/deal-trump-supporters-thanksgiving/

[sarcasmo]

1. Canceled on the Trump loving in laws, done with that Shit.

[Bettie]

2. I have an agreement with my husband

We get to leave if I can't stand being around his gloating sisters and their excessively religious spawn.

[marybourg]

3. Stay home. Poach a chicken breast.

Make a chicken sandwich. Feed the cat a turkey treat. My plans.

[DURHAM D]

4. Just very calmly explain what is going to happen to Medicare and SS.

That should keep everyone sober.

[John_Doe80004]

9. for those concerned about SS / Medicare / Medicaid

i have posted a change dot org petition that is asking Trump to keep his campaign trail promises of no cuts to SS / Medicare / Medicaid

it is posted under General section of DU.

Note: Trump has back pedaled and done a 180 on SS/Medicare/Medicaid on his website already and is now considering deep cuts to all entitlements.

[DURHAM D]

11. Trump will sign anything that lands on his desk.

Paul Ryan is in charge now.

[John_Doe80004]

35. and i will either prove or disprove

my hypothesis, that severely gutting entitlements without first bringing back good paying full time jobs with benefits and training people to do those jobs, will crash the economy in a very hard way possibly ushering in a new great depression.

I hope i am completely wrong.

[Maru Kitteh]

36. You think a petition is going to do anything?

I don't.

[Initech]

28. Or show them Trump's anti first amendment stance.

They'll shut up once they realize how much their freedoms will erode when Trumpenfuror takes office.

[n2doc]

48. They won't believe you

They live in their own special world of Breitbart Truthiness.

[RKP5637]

5. I would be a no-show. I'm fed up with catering to Trump types. Fuck them!!! n/t

[John_Doe80004]

6. i can tolerate trump supporters

after all they are just full of hot air!!!

Now Trump / Pence on the other hand along with a Republican congress absolutely terrify me with the policies they can enact / repeal making our life a living hell and completely crash our economy.

lets hope what few democrats are left can filibuster the shit out of most of it and use the same tactics against Trump that R's used against Obama.

time to organize, peacefully protest, and be active in the petition process,,,

[tenderfoot]

7. Thankfully, not a worry in my family this time around...

not one Trump supporter to be found. My MBA libertarian older sibling voted for Hillary.

[boston bean]

8. I am not going anywhere and i am not having any trump voter over.

[MiniMe]

60. I'm there with you

Well, not with you, but I plan on hunkering down with my favorite beverage and watching football. My blood pressure just can't take being with anybody who would be a tRump supporter.

[ReRe]

10. Whew!

If the last 12 days have proved anything since that Gawd-awful day, it will be an explosive Thanksgiving this year. One is swearing a move to Iceland. Good luck to everyone this holiday.

[NRaleighLiberal]

12. Just my wife and I at the beach - with our two dogs.

As far as I know, both my dogs are Democrats



Seriously, I can't - and won't - knowingly have anything to do with Trump supporters. Support of him indicates a serious moral or character flaw - or both.

[hamsterjill]

18. Thank you!

I have been "cleaning house" of sorts. Re-evaluating a lot of friendships that I've had with Trump supporters, and what I have discovered is a lop-sided friendship. Seems I've been there for them, but I'm not so sure they have been (or would be) there for me. I have come to realize what you said in your post. I'm just different than them and have no desire to be around them anymore.

What I thought was going to be angry and hurtful on my part has actually felt very cathartic. No arguments, no explanations, no goodbyes, just rather a letting go.

I'll be with family - enlightened family - on Thanksgiving, and for that I truly am thankful.

[NRaleighLiberal]

21. I've similarly pruned my Facebook contacts. And I am being dropped by some on Twitter

since I've been pretty obviously anti-Trump.

I am 60 and at this point don't feel like I have to take any shit from anyone. I can't come up with a single legit excuse for being a Trump supporter.

I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving!

[hamsterjill]

24. Mine has gone further than Facebook.

Mine has extended to a couple of lifelong friends and a couple of family members that I rarely see anyway. Like you, I cannot justify why or how anyone could have supported Trump. I'm in my late 50's, and as you stated, at a point where I'm not asking anyone's permission to be me! I'm comfortable with who I am and what I stand for.

Hope you enjoy a great Thanksgiving as well.

[Ligyron]

31. It hit me like a bolt out of the blue...

" ...with Trump supporters, and what I have discovered is a lop-sided friendship. Seems I've been there for them, but I'm not so sure they have been (or would be) there for me."

after reading what you wrote it occurred to me that the only Trump supporter I know or put up with, a sort of adopted half step daughter type I took in long ago is exactly that.

To a T - as in Trump...

[hamsterjill]

46. When I sat down and started analyzing things

I've known one person since I was a baby and have continued our friendship out of family loyalty. When I sincerely took a look
at that relationship after a discussion with her where she defended Trump, I saw things very differently. I literally made a list of the times we've interacted over the last five or ten years, and every one of them had been HER having a crisis. The times I'd needed her ear, etc., she was always too involved in keeping her husband (at the time) happy.

I made the decision to just disconnect. No drama, just permission to go forward and search for more sincere friendships.

[lunasun]

50. These kind of user people you should drop pronto regardless of politics

They will only really miss you the next time they need you has been my experience

[hamsterjill]

58. That's absolutely right.

But I think I was still of the mindset of trying to "go high". I knew she needed a sounding board at times, etc.

I'm no longer capable of handling that now that she has admitted to supporting that monster, nor am I interested in putting forth any effort when I run into these types. "Going high" for me from now on is going to mean avoiding the negative. As I said in an earlier post, I don't want to fight with them. Don't want the drama or the expense of energy. I just don't want to be around them.

Hope your Thanksgiving will be enjoyable!

[Ligyron]

59. I have almost the same situation you describe going on minus the disengagement (so far).

Me and the ex "adopted" this individual and supported her, gave her a place to live, fed her, hell, I even paid for the boob job she just had to have even though they were fine to begin with, IMHO. The girl is a clothes horse.

Happily helped raised her two kids too but when she graduated college, got a job and moved out, and for awhile there, pretty much the only time we'd hear from her was when she needed something.

My ex is still very engaged with her, almost to the point of co-dependency, and we love the "grand babies" so we decided just to not to talk politics and she doesn't either when we're together.

But all one has to do is go to her Facebook page and there it is...

Now, every time she has a "crisis", (like once a week) off goes the ex but when the ex has a problem does this individual ever jump at the chance to finally pay back some of the love she was (and still is) freely given?

I really feel like I need to point this out to a few enablers.

Anyway, too long a rant, thanks for pointing out the issue and the therapy session, lol.

[Kilgore]

13. My Plan

[Initech]

29. I'm going full Bluto.

[Kilgore]

32. I'm with ya!!

Have been wanting to try my hand at Buzz Bombs

http://punchdrink.com/recipes/niesen-buzz-bomb/

Cant think of a better time to do it!!

[Initech]

38. Better than taking Xanax!

[smirkymonkey]

37. *snort*

Perfect! Sounds like a plan to me!

[DesertRat]

57. Lol

[yeoman6987]

14. So much other things to talk about

Parade, football, children in the family, etc.

[meow2u3]

15. You mean without slipping something in their drink?

[duffyduff]

16. We don't talk politics at family gatherings--EVER.

That has been the rule for years. It works beautifully.

There is a lot to talk about in this world without having brawls.

[TimeChaser]

17. My family's politic views

run the gamut from liberal to socialist. My condolences to anyone who has to deal with trumplettes this week.

[world wide wally]

19. Maybe we should just freak them out and one-up them

Just say you agree and you are going to buy a gun so you can start shooting Mexicans, Muslims, black people and faggots. Then you are quitting your job so you can volunteer to build that wall. Lobby for nuking Europe and you are going to start suing anyone who disagrees with you. Grab your Auntie's pussy and just say it was locker room fun.
Then ask if that at least qualifies you to run for congress.
That should at least cause them to stop talking to you so you can focus on drinking.
It will probably help to learn a few Russian cuss words too.

[lindysalsagal]

22. Or walk in with a KKK hood on. That will do all the talking for you.

[Ligyron]

27. But you know what? It's hard to do any serious drinking with those things on.

[treestar]

41. I'm liking this

Lol. ThT would be what they deserve.

I've seriously thought of saying since they are middle class fuckers that the home interest deduction should be done away with and also child tax credits. Right wingers have told me people should not have children if they can't afford them. No tax deductions follows that line.

[Hugin]

52. Seriously, I tried the frothing-at-the-mouth right-wing bomb-throwing anti-everything blow-hard gig.

For about a month not too long ago.

A few of my more liberal associates immediately saw right through it... But, the rest? Totally freaked out on it. Especially, oddly enough, the most traditionally conservative people I'm around.

It was cathartic and, well... Very liberal-a-ting.

I was ranting about privatizing everything, squashing any hint of empathy, or tolerance. Total up-by-the-bootstraps Randian Objectivist jive.

I became a regular Trumpanzee.

However, I discovered... It hurt people. People I least expected. Finally, one of the quieter of them talked with me and said that she and several others were hurt. They'd always felt safe around me. I had inspired confidence and self-esteem in them before. Now, they were losing that. I had been empowering before and now there was doubt. I felt bad.

So, I reverted back to the affable empathetic tolerant me.

However, I learned... I will NEVER give in to the genuine type of person I was portraying. This is why I'm on the Give Trump No Quarter (Just like the Repigs did to President Obama) bandwagon.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

20. Stab them in the eye with a serving fork?

OK, that's kind of harsh. If you don't want to do that I guess the thing to do is refuse to discuss politics at all.

[justhanginon]

23. I was kind of hoping it would involve a baseball bat and mace.

I guess maybe just drinking would be better idea .

[RB TexLa]

25. Skip it.

Life if much easier when you stop talking to family and don't have to do any of this shit anymore.

[Texasgal]

26. I just don't care anymore.

I plan on having a nice day with my family and having no politics discussed. My beautiful loving husband just died and I have no patience for anything other than some good food and a few laughs. In the end I still have to get up, go to work, maintain this house and provide a good and loving home for my dogs.

Live life well. Be good to one another, you never know when it'll end.

[DesertRat]

30. I'm so sorry for your loss, Texasgal

You are so right, we never know when it'll end. We agree not to discuss politics at our family gatherings too. I hope you have a peaceful holiday.

[rusty quoin]

34. Yes Texasgal...you are right. I'm sorry for your loss.

My wife has been my life for so long. If I lost her, I would try to be like you. I feel so bad you lost him. Keep on keeping on girl.

[treestar]

42. If you can afford this attitude

I venture to guess you are white.

[Amaril]

55. That was unfair, Treestar......

......and unnecessarily harsh. Texasgal literally just lost her husband within the last few weeks (I remember reading her post about it), and is walking through the very fresh grief of that loss. Everyone processes grief differently, and her "I don't care anymore" has less to do with "white privilege" than it has to do with anguish.

[treestar]

61. I was not aware of that

nor taking it personally. Sometime to me sharing that kind of personal information - we can't know if it's true and a way to deflect any criticism of the underlying opinion.

So taken in the abstract, the idea we can just ignore it and live our lives and not pay attention or worry is the idea I am objecting to. I think it an interesting idea and would like to address it in abstract, rather than having to ignore it out of politeness on personal grounds. Maybe another post would have been better.

I thought too of doing that - just tuning out on politics. After all, it will be stressful to see the Orange Toxin in that office and hear about what he says and does. And the racists who support him. I am white but despise white racists, especially the middle class ones who are "soft" racists, claiming they should not be considered such.

But then we can't tune out. The hope the old white racists belong to the older generation and won't be here in the future seems not to be a thing. There are plenty of young ones.

[Kali]

56. WTF?

[Warren DeMontague]

33. That's not my problem. I'm gonna have a room full of pissed off liberals all on the exact same page.

I'm at the point where, fuck, I just don't feel like talking about it.

[MFM008]

40. Drown them in gravy?

[leftyladyfrommo]

43. I am working so I don't have to deal with people.

I'm a pet sitter. Only animals that day.

[seaglass]

44. I am not convinced AT ALL that we will survive a Trump Presidency with our democracy intact.

The signs are not good.

So you can imagine what I am feeling about hosting Thanksgiving with a bunch of Trump voters coming over.

The only reason I am hosting T-Day is because my dad died in September and I did not want to leave his SO alone on her first T-Day without him. I cannot wait until the day is over.

[liberal N proud]

49. I disagree with number 5 as well

I fear for the future of the USA.

[JHB]

45. Six: pay attention to your audience...

...which is not necessarily the person talking at you. There are usually bystanders for these things. Persuade where you can, plant seeds where they might grow, but don't find yourself just banging your head against a brick wall.

[HughBeaumont]

47. As luck would have it . . . .

. . . at the house I'm going to, we're all on the same page about Plutocrat Pol Pot.

[Paladin]

51. In as calm a voice as possible, I'm going to say that I don't want to talk about the election.

Those who don't respect my wishes will be met with silence.

This is a war, folks. If it has to start around our Thanksgiving dinner tables, then so be it.

[lonestarnot]

53. I say no drinking, or stay home. Drinking makes things much worse and more hostile. They call it

firewater for a reason.

[sagetea]

54. Yeah...

I was tolerant in 2000, I'm not anymore, nope, they voted for hate and fear...that is toxic to me, don't need it in my life. The only one I would care about is my dad, and he died so, I don't care.

[kebob]

62. With His Broken Promises

And there's still two days left!