Every 9 Seconds

[sheshe2]

Myths & Facts about Domestic Violence

Myth
Domestic violence doesn’t affect many people.

Fact
•A woman is beaten every 9 seconds.
•The American Medical Association (AMA) and FBI estimate 3-4 million women are battered each year in the U.S.
•Domestic Violence is the single greatest cause of injury to women.
•The FBI estimates violence will occur during the course of two-thirds of all marriages.

Battered women are exaggerating; it’s not that serious.

•An AMA report shows that every five years as many women are killed by their intimate partners as men, and women killed in the Viet Nam War … 54,000.
•More than 75% of the women killed in Iowa were murdered by their intimate partner.

Domestic violence only occurs in poor, urban areas.

•Women of all cultures, races, occupations, income levels, and ages are battered – by husbands, boyfriends, lovers and partners.
•White, Black and Hispanic women all incur about the same rates of violence committed by an intimate partner.
•Approximately one-third of the men counseled for battering at Emerge (a nationally recognized batterers treatment program) are professional men who are well respected in their jobs and communities. These have included doctors, psychologists, lawyers, ministers, and business executives.

If a battered woman wanted to leave, she could.

•Many women do leave abusive partners, more than 50%.
•Leaving a battering partner may be the most dangerous time in that relationship. Women are 70 times more likely to be killed in the two weeks after leaving than at any other time during the relationship.
•Social, economic, cultural, religious, or legal issues often keep battered women in an abusive relationship.
•Many women want the violence, not the relationship to end. They may take many steps to try to stop the abuse; leaving the home may be their last resort.

Husbands and wives are equally violent.

•95% of domestic violence is reported by women – perpetrated against by their male partner.
•When men are battered it is typically by their male intimate partner … battering occurs in gay and lesbian relationships at the same rate as heterosexual relationships – approximately 35%.
•80% of all violent crimes committed outside the home are committed by males … it is highly unlikely that women, generally peaceful and non-violent, would make up half of partner violence.

Read More:http://www.dvipiowa.org/myths-facts-about-domestic-violence/

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The statistics are staggering.

[lunatica]

1. All of it is true

I know from first hand experience.

[sheshe2]

3. Yes, me to lunatica.

[lunatica]

5. Anyone who claims it doesn't happen to strong women

doesn't know weak men very well. By weak I mean weak self-control. Weak character. Weakness issues. Cowardice. weak self-esteem. Just plain all round weakness of control over their lives so they abuse and hurt those around them as punishment. It's quite possible that Trump is just such a person.

[sheshe2]

6. 100% agree with all that you said, lunatica.

Every 9 seconds...

[spanone]

2. K&R...

[mcar]

4. K&R

For sad reality.

[cannabis_flower]

7. However

more female-on-male domestic violence is not reported. Many male domestic violence victims are too embarrassed to report it. Not disputing that there is more male-on-female domestic violence. Men who are abused also are less reluctant to just leave. Usually they work and don't feel trapped economically.

Also, sometimes the woman will hit the man, and the man responds by hitting back with disproportionate force. Not condoning that but I have seen it firsthand in more than one case.

[sheshe2]

9. There is a hell on a lot of male on female domestic violence that is not reported.

I know that for a fact since I never did. Do not play this game with me.

[cannabis_flower]

11. Yes, agreed

I am female so don't think I'm saying it because I'm some kind of male apologist. The 95% REPORTED is female. I'm thinking it is probably more like 75% of the violence is male.

[Wounded Bear]

8. K & R ......for visibility..nt

[sheshe2]

10. Thank you Wounded Bear.

[Xipe Totec]

12. About that 95% statistic of man v Women being battered

I am one of those men who were battered by his spouse.

Knocked right in the face by a direct blow.

I lifted the phone and called the police.

They answered, but I just hung up because she was begging for me not to go further.

I've often wandered what the road not taken might have looked like.

Whether my sons might have been better off if I had filed charges against their mother when they were pre-teen, instead of waiting until they were adults.

I am ashamed that I was a coward. That I was afraid of facing life by myself with two young boys, and left the at the mercy of a horrible monster.

Because I felt they would be better off with a mother, even a bad mother, than with no mother at all.

[brer cat]

13. Too much victim blaming

goes on. I think people in general simply don't want to talk about dv and therefore never gain an understanding of the issues. I weep to think of all the women who were trapped because they had no one to turn to.

Thank you for your untiring devotion to education and awareness about dv.

[sheshe2]

22. Stats are already coming out...

With the abuser and chief women will be going underground again. They won't come out because they feel they won't be believed since he approves the message. Our Prez elect approves the message of abusing women. Look at the graphic and check off what he has done. Yes, it is about spousal abuse, yet it is all about an abuser and he is one.

[smirkymonkey]

14. K&R

[radical noodle]

15. K&R for truth

And it's not only physical abuse but emotional abuse as well. Even if he doesn't put a finger on his wife, if he threatens and intimidates, and one lives in fear of what will happen next, it is abuse. Women need more services to rely on, a place to go with kids and pets that would be in danger.

[sheshe2]

16. The graphic says it all.

Verbal abuse is just as debilitating as physical abuse.

[radical noodle]

17. Yes. Too bad so many people don't consider that abuse

the man is just "in control" or being the "man of the house."

Great post. This problem seems to be increasing not declining.

[sheshe2]

18. Oh. The verbal?

Is just as debilitating. I got both.

I survived. Issues, yet survived.

[radical noodle]

19. My first husband was a verbal abuser

and a pathological liar and drunk. I cannot explain to this day why I stayed with him for nearly 20 years. I'm glad you survived. I did too and am in a better place now than I dreamed I'd be when I was living with him.

[sheshe2]

20. I stopped after the first...

Mine was both. One night police were called to the house. His dad heard it on the police scanner. Yet never tried to help me. Sssssh quiet. Sssssh don't tell. Ssssh don't speak.

Ha! I was done.

That was it.

[radical noodle]

21. Good for you!

I wasn't that smart and wasted too many years. That's what I tell women in the same circumstance I was in... that they will cry for the wasted years.

[sheshe2]

23. Sssssh