This is the 21st century. So many of them are living in the past.
I'm reminded of my grandparents who were literally Hollywood liberals. My grandfather was "tolerant" of everyone, he worked in the aerospace industry and accepted anyone who could set up the machines and do the math.
My grandma had gay friends, Jewish friends, black friends, and Mexican friends she called "Spanish." She grew up in San Francisco, in a fairly affluent household. Her father was fascinated by airplanes and cinema, interests he passed on to my grandma and her sister, which is how they ended up in Hollywood. My grandma spoke fondly of immigrant housekeepers and cooks her family employed, of Chinese laundrymen, of black laborers and handsome young military men, etc..
But it was merely tolerance. She could say the damnedest racist things, and she was oblivious to many less overt forms of discrimination.
My grandma passed away before I met my wife, but my grandpa called my wife a "Mexican Girl." It was okay to date a Mexican girl from his White California perspective, but when we announced or engagement he was upset. He did not attend our big Catholic wedding. To his credit, he got over it. But he reverted a bit when he had to move to an assisted living /nursing home. The only staff he was tolerant of were the Filipino men. My grandfather was a military officer during World War II and it was clear in the nursing home that he was comfortable with the Filipino men because he considered himself the white officer and them the enlisted men, men who could be trusted. Everyone else was suspect; white men doing "menial" labor, immigrant women, Mexicans... etc.
That's the kind of stuff that should be left in the 20th century, along with the more overt forms of racism, sexism, and homophobia.
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