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Trump was in Florida during his third straight weekend vacation, and while stopping in what is being described as his first 2020 campaign rally he once again proved that he is incapable of thinking of anyone but himself.
While descending the stairs of Air Force One, Trump walked ahead of his wife Melania. Reaching the bottom, he didnt wait for her, instead he immediately hopped into the waiting car. Seconds later, Melania seems to realize that Trump took the seat closest and wasnt going to move over. She then had to walk around the car and get in the other side by herself.
What a lovely person Trump is.
This isnt the first time Trump has left his own wife hanging. During his inauguration, Trump strode alone into the White House leaving Barack and Michelle Obama to wait behind for Melania so she didnt feel abandoned.
More, including video, at: http://www.ifyouonlynews.com/news/trump-caught-being-a-major-ahole-to-melania-again-video/
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)I am torn between feeling sorry for her and feeling like she made her own bed. Actually, I feel sorry for her. Nothing could be worse than being the wife of Donald Trump.
Stuart G
(38,365 posts)Us pig lovers know that our friendly animals..the pig culture as one might say..acts a whole lot better than that selfish idiot who we are talking about..The pigs share their food and try not to bite. I do not think we have heard a lot of.."pig bites".................but
Trump bites all that are close, and will continue to do so.........thank you for reading ...
Hortensis
(58,785 posts)which certainly can't be said for 45.
Alice11111
(5,730 posts)Can u imagine having that wild boar lard ass jump on you?
She must despise him.
TexasBushwhacker
(20,044 posts)to keep his hair causes impotence.
rzemanfl
(29,540 posts)You are not correct, at least as far as this 69 year-old is concerned.
TexasBushwhacker
(20,044 posts)But impotence is listed as a possible side effect.
rzemanfl
(29,540 posts)too. I have a full head of hair, not that it matters.
Crash2Parties
(6,017 posts)He can simply avoid one by being a a**hole. The other, not so much.
SummerSnow
(12,608 posts)rzemanfl
(29,540 posts)SummerSnow
(12,608 posts)rzemanfl
(29,540 posts)Leaking air.
Leaking hookers.
Leaking WH info.
And, of course, your basic leaker.
SummerSnow
(12,608 posts)Hekate
(90,202 posts)fierywoman
(7,641 posts)KewlKat
(5,624 posts)KewlKat
(5,624 posts)Charles Bukowski
(1,132 posts)My sympathy for her = nil
Cha
(295,926 posts)politicat
(9,808 posts)When surviving the abuse means agreeing with whatever notion the abuser wants, one will say the sky is soup and the sea is cheese if it means keeping the asshat happy.
Dysfunctional relationships are complicated and people in them are just as prone to the sunk cost fallacy and magical thinking as anyone else.
You need not have sympathy, because if she wanted out and wanted to maintain her child's well-being, she has the financial, social and legal resources to do so. She might have to live on the UWS and might have to trim the recreational shopping, but filing for divorce will not shove her into a 2 bedroom, 1965 singlewide in southern Indiana. But given that she's seen how he treated the other exes and their children, she may be making a rational decision to wait it out and say whatever he wants to hear.
Charles Bukowski
(1,132 posts)I could be wrong, and it's all speculation either way, but she's basically living a separate life from Dump in NYC. That's a sign that she wants as little to do with the pussy-grabbing freak as possible.
I'll tell you what isn't speculative though - - her racist birther past, and for that, she can eternally kiss my ass.
politicat
(9,808 posts)Actually, I'm not sorry you don't recognize it, because that means you likely have never experienced it, and I wouldn't wish emotional abuse on anyone. I do wish you could see your way to empathy without having direct experience. But if you can't, that's on you.
Living with a narcissist requires a form of Stockholm Syndrome. It's a survival strategy. Abuse rarely looks like something out of a 1980s PSA. Most abusers are bright enough to know they can't leave marks, especially when their target is someone who is in the public eye. Plus, there's a significant percentage of abusers who get off on the intangible forms -- control, financial manipulation and psychological brainwashing -- far more than they get off on physical or sexual assault.
I don't forgive anyone's voluntary bad behavior - especially not the racist birtherism - but look, if she was in full agreement, don't you think she'd be doing everything she could to look supportive, instead of this exceptionally minimal, half-hearted "if you insist" act? She's not stupid, and she knows that the office of the First Lady comes with a degree of soft power. She made that statement once.
Kimchijeon
(1,606 posts)Maybe she figures she can just wait it out and hang in there until he kicks the bucket.
not fooled
(5,791 posts)letting dump's forces use her hookergate lawsuit to try to stifle the media? Same law firm that Peter Thiel used to destroy Gawker...
*tool*
KeepItReal
(7,769 posts)"It was you that chose your doom,
You built a maze you can't get through.
I tried to help you all I can...
But I can't do nothin for ya, man!" - Flava Flav
Fast Walker 52
(7,723 posts)George Eliot
(701 posts)Cha
(295,926 posts)ncgrits
(916 posts)Bettie
(15,998 posts)she probably read it becasue it is set in her mind in her native language, as she probably learned it as a child.
bettyellen
(47,209 posts)I
Bettie
(15,998 posts)it's on autopilot in English.
But, mostly, she always looks like she doesn't want to be there.
Of course, she is there becasue she actively chose to be, so very little sympathy for her plight. She had to have known who and what he was before she married him.
bettyellen
(47,209 posts)It was more theatrics. Honestly if she had a good relationship w Donald where they conversed often her English would be much better in general. She is known not to talk much, I'm guessing he likes that.
Bettie
(15,998 posts)Trying to be nice. Reflexive, I guess.
Tanuki
(14,893 posts)because she was the daughter of a Communist party member in the Soviet era, her family was officially atheist, and she was never baptised or confirmed. Given that background, odds are that she is our first atheist First Lady. I don't see why anyone but the morons who voted for her husband would think that her performance yesterday revealed anything about her spiritual side, if indeed she has one. Actions speak louder than words. After reading the prayer she claimed that she would always be truthful, then turned around and lied that her pervert husband would make the country safer and more prosperous. And after reading Jesus' words about forgiving those who trespass against us, she immediately made a malicious little dig about ignoring whatever is being said about her by "the opposition."
BTW, I am not fluent in Spanish but had two years in high school and another in college. I guarantee you that on a day's notice I could learn to recite the Lord's Prayer flawlessly in Spanish. I am not sure why this would pose any struggle at all for someone who has lived here for 20 years and married to an English speaker for more than half that time.
Bettie
(15,998 posts)just trying to be nice.
We need to stop doing that, because they will never cut us the slightest bit of slack on anything.
yuiyoshida
(41,764 posts)He probably treats all women like crap, even his own daughter.
Amimnoch
(4,558 posts)from his point of view.
Ilsa
(61,675 posts)Bikini bottom in front of his jet and a couple of expensive cars says it all, for me.
AgadorSparticus
(7,963 posts)This is wrong. Just wrong.
nocalflea
(1,387 posts)Billy Bush made him do it
Alice11111
(5,730 posts)Different standards, evn though it was afer the fact. Plus, it ruined his career because he, with little experience, but truly disgusting, in his role as an interviewer, egged this perp on, while the perp becomes Pres of US. This is his pattern. Now, Perp-in-Chief.
One Repub when i was trying to get some votes told me, all those women lied. Me: Even it that were true, but his lips, he himself said it. Her: FAKE NEWS. They made that up, locker room, that was a private conversation (forget the inconsistencies). Her: look at what bill Clinton did to all of those women, plus he and hillary murdered 22 people.
nocalflea
(1,387 posts)The fact that Bush was such a suck-up that he basically invited Trump to assault that actress is indefensible.
For Melania to excuse her husbands behavior by blaming Bush,just shows you what a true Trumper she really is.
flor-de-jasmim
(2,124 posts)Alice11111
(5,730 posts)She is trapped.I Saw a clip of her really smiling at the crowd at the rally, and he was holding her hand and looked at her, like the first time he noticed she was there...but she was useful for the moment.It was the First time she's smiled sincerely in ages.
She can't stand him. She does not look at him with affection. He punishes her, and ignores her. Everyone in the family treats her with disrespect.
The Obamas treated her better than anyone.
spooky3
(34,303 posts)liquid diamond
(1,917 posts)erpowers
(9,350 posts)She deserves this bad treatment because she knew who he was before she married him. There was ample evidence, before she married him, that Donald Trump was a terrible guy. When Melania met him, at a party, he had been married twice. Trump, separated, but still married arrived at the party with his date. Upon seeing Melania, he lost interest in his date and asked Melania out on a date. I think most women who care about a man's character see a man's dumping the woman he arrived at a party with to go out with someone else as a character flaw. Melania could have decided at that point not to date Donald Trump. However, she did go out with him. Even during the time they were dating he made some boorish comments. At that point she could have decided to break off the relationship. Instead she decided to marry him. She walked into this eyes wide open. She knew how he treated women and how she would be treated, but she chose to marry him. I have no sympathy for her. I do have sympathy for women who accidentally walk into bad situations. This is not one of those cases.
Ilsa
(61,675 posts)during the campaign, but she had no sympathy for us. She didn't care that we were going to have to put up with this asshole for four yours. I feel sorry for her, but it is less sympathy than when my dog throws up on my rug. What she's done is more aggravating.
TrekLuver
(2,573 posts)Cha
(295,926 posts)term is already in the shitter.
Secondly yeah he respects his wife as much as he respects the truth.. wonder what his asshole female fans think of the way he treats her?
Let me guess.. "oh swoon trump is just what we need.. who cares how he treats anybody. He's such dictator.. swoon "
Link to tweet
http://www.democraticunderground.com/10028676020
appleannie1943
(1,303 posts)They are taught that man is head of household. Wife should be subservient and bow to all his wishes. That is God ordained. Then they have fits about Sharia Law. They don't see the comparison.
Alice11111
(5,730 posts)all of a sudden, they want those wives they have ignored, right there by their sides. Then, the husbands really NEED their support, pretence that their wives believe in their honesty, even love, reassurance that the husbands will have their families, not to mention the prop purpose. Ever notice how they are always holding the wives hands on the way to the courthouse, even though it may be the first time in years.
appleannie1943
(1,303 posts)not fooled
(5,791 posts)but just wait 'til malevolent little elf Beauregard, Kobach et al. get rolling with voter suppression at the Federal level.
The coup will continue unless we can stop them or overcome their machinations.
malaise
(267,823 posts)Last edited Sun Feb 19, 2017, 07:29 AM - Edit history (1)
mentioned it in a post. I switched after that and then later I saw her cringe when he touched her.
TexasTowelie
(111,313 posts)I can understand why a man might proceed woman down a set of stairs so that if she stumbles he would be able to break her fall. Navigating a set of stairs is dangerous enough, but doing it in a set of high heels presents additional challenges.
However, once they are on the ground his behavior is boorish. Maybe I'm old-fashioned, but a man is supposed to open the car door for a woman and close it for her, then walk to the far side of the car and get in. The exception to that rule is when the woman has already indicated not to do so because they believe that behavior is sexist. In that case, chivalry yields to the preference given by the woman.
malaise
(267,823 posts)The thing about yesterday is that she was walking ahead of him but as they approached the bottom of the stairs he shoved past her - it was obvious.
He always walks ahead of people - fugging 'old cruff' as we say here
kacekwl
(6,994 posts)Let her hold on to you if needed. But you would have to stay close for that.
TrekLuver
(2,573 posts)so he's just fucking clueless. Also it's common courtesy to at least wait for the person...and we see examples over and over again how often he won't even wait for her...he gone.
My co worker has narcissistic tendencies and she does the same thing..doesn't wait for people no matter who you are. Even her boyfriend...ditches him at the car doesn't wait for him/us ....it's very odd and everybody notices.
Bengus81
(6,907 posts)she would have gone blowing right by him. Gawd he's a POS!
Ilsa
(61,675 posts)Then, after finding out she's "damaged", he would have found someone to blame.
Alice11111
(5,730 posts)Charities event. He prodded her several times before she finally did. Obviously, he did not give her any warning, even though it was written into his speech. He made the joke on her. She smiled, but I could see her crying inside.
The whole plagiarism thing was his fault. As David Gergan pointed out, you have levels of writers going over and over those things in a competent campaign. She naively said, she admired Michelle Obama. (Yes. She was an idiot to give that speech.) Then, he so obviously ostracized her for it.
Maru Kitteh
(28,303 posts)We know he was violent with the other two.
malaise
(267,823 posts)He would never have had a first date with me - no money in the world could make me go out with anyone so uncouth and contemptuous of women.
Maru Kitteh
(28,303 posts)newspaper around. Everyone knew about his 'lifestyle.'
Not feeling sorry for her in the least!
Rhiannon12866
(203,030 posts)I read about her at one point and I think her father has an illegitimate child, and the article said there's a resemblance. If her father exhibited the same kind of behavior, that was her role model. Plus, she's not that proficient in English. She may not have read about him, just believed what she was told. I'm not saying I feel sorry for her, but seeing their behavior, her behaving like a prop and his blatant rudeness, it's painful to watch.
3catwoman3
(23,820 posts)Somehow I missed that in all the other crap about him.
Maru Kitteh
(28,303 posts)so whether or not he hit her (seems quite likely to me) just being that violent is an act of terror and intimidation.
http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2017/01/02/get-ready-for-trump-s-vindictive-side-golf-course-tiff-with-biographer-is-just-the-start.html
Alice11111
(5,730 posts)Its like you can see her thinking, what a shit liar.
Hi Malaise
malaise
(267,823 posts)Butterflylady
(3,523 posts)Alice11111
(5,730 posts)LittleGirl
(8,261 posts)it's like she's only there for the Presidency and then once this is all over, separation and divorce. because how could she? eww.
Freddie
(9,232 posts)She was probably going to see a divorce lawyer on Nov. 9 and now she has to wait 4 years or his removal from office. Doubt if she forgave the "grabbing pussy" relevations considering she was pregnant with his child at the time.
She was planning a life as the pampered kept wife of an extremely wealthy man- not being First Lady.
LittleGirl
(8,261 posts)all I know is that she smiles looking at him and that's about it. It's an act (to me).
Alice11111
(5,730 posts)She has no interest in politics. Doesn't speak English well, and hasn't put any effort to improving it to be first lady (I brush up on my Spanish before i go to Mexico just to talk to normal people.) She resents it. She didn't prepare the White House, upon arrival, as most first ladies do. Maybe she thinks she doesn't have the resources for a custody battle and he has threatened her into staying. Between child support, a limited prenup (which might be broken or negotiated), she could live fine.
In some ways, she has more power now, but i bet he's promising her something more if she stays. Plus, it would be sort of low life for a First Lady to drag the country through a divorce. However, she knows she can't trust him. I wouldn't be surprised if she doesn't already have lawyers, as she should. He has probably intimidated her about that too. Maybe that's why she sued the press, but i think he made her. They are obviously totally disconnected, but for events he expects her to appear for...like when other people's wives are there, especially after the Japanese debacle.
Nwgirl503
(406 posts)because pics can be misleading. And as much as I despise this man (despise doesn't even do my hatred justice), I still understand nerves and can almost get myself to give him the benefit of the doubt.
But I tell you what...if that'd been me and my husband and that gif of our interaction at the inaguration or the video of him not waiting when he walked up the WH stairs to greet the Obama's had been ME....some fucking shit would be going down tonight. I tell you what. Test me mother effer. Leave me behind again. Watch I don't push you down the damn stairs. Watch you don't have an "accident" when no one is looking.
TexasTowelie
(111,313 posts)I can see why the man would lead going downstairs in order to break a fall, but when going upstairs then the guy should be behind the woman to catch her if she stumbles. It's not like Melania is going to catch that 270 lb. oaf if he stumbles. His behavior on the ground exemplifies his ego and her subservience to him.
malaise
(267,823 posts)in the pic Cha posted. He should be behind her there, like Obama
TexasTowelie
(111,313 posts)If Trump stumbled and fell on Melania she would have likely fallen and been injured herself.
Rhiannon12866
(203,030 posts)He gives her certain directions to augment his performance and when she's done whatever she was choreographed to do, he goes on with his agenda and just forgets about her. That's sure what it looked like yesterday, she did her part and then just got out of the way.
Alice11111
(5,730 posts)Maru Kitteh
(28,303 posts)They are only there to gratify him.
He's just, RUDE.
democratisphere
(17,235 posts)dubyadiprecession
(5,620 posts)She won't even let Trump kiss her on the lips.
Alice11111
(5,730 posts)Just enough not to embarrass country more.
3catwoman3
(23,820 posts)...ANY part of himt to touch ANY part of me. I would not even want to be in the same room.
In_The_Wind
(72,300 posts)C_U_L8R
(44,897 posts)I've never seen someone so fucked in the head. Pathetic
madokie
(51,076 posts)My apologies to turds
MineralMan
(146,192 posts)I didn't notice.
GreatCaesarsGhost
(8,584 posts)the president always sits on that side for security reasons. The guy upfront would be the closest to the president. Maybe Melania doesn't get it yet.
mcar
(42,210 posts)Egomaniac.
Blue Owl
(49,934 posts)n/t
appleannie1943
(1,303 posts)Either he has something he blackmails her with or she puts up with him because she likes the money. Take your pick.
WinkyDink
(51,311 posts)appleannie1943
(1,303 posts)So he won't dump her. She is over 35, his cut off age for women. I am not saying she deserves it but she has a way out. But she probably signed something that would leave her without the money she is used to.
brewens
(13,400 posts)one assumes she's a good sport about the golden showers after she found out about that!
Aviation Pro
(12,053 posts)Wait until the tapes are released, the mood in the WH and the gilded cage in NY will be gothic.
onecaliberal
(32,489 posts)The other two left him for a reason.
Bengus81
(6,907 posts)To bad he's got the millions to make them sign a non-disclosure.
onecaliberal
(32,489 posts)Drag out every piece of dirt in public. He would have been toast years ago he never would have made it anywhere near the primary.
elehhhhna
(32,076 posts)him. The Soviets play along game. Where she's from again?
aka-chmeee
(1,129 posts)She's only a bird in a gilded cage,
A beautiful sight to see,
You may think she's happy and free from care,
She's not, though she seems to be,
'Tis sad when you think of her wasted life,
For youth cannot mate with age,
And her beauty was sold,
For an old man's gold,
She's a bird in a gilded cage.
Docreed2003
(16,817 posts)liquid diamond
(1,917 posts)The only reason this woman gets any sympathy here is because she is female. Fuck that. Gender be damned. She is a piece of shit like her husband. Enough of these threads!
HipChick
(25,485 posts)Rollo
(2,559 posts)nt
Kath2
(3,054 posts)Happily, happily divorced!
She needs to divorce him. I would love it!
underpants
(182,279 posts)She actually walks behind him
still_one
(91,965 posts)muntrv
(14,505 posts)Renew Deal
(81,802 posts)He looks like he's gaining weight.
OxQQme
(2,550 posts)and divorce him.
The fallout would probably make you a national hero.
Maybe even a world hero.