Dealing With Narcissistic Personality Disorder

[StevieM]

This is a great read.


~snip~

I want to talk a little about narcissistic personality disorder. I’ve unfortunately had a great deal of experience with it, and I’m feeling badly for those of you who are trying to grapple with it for the first time because of our president-elect, who almost certainly suffers from it. Here are a few things to keep in mind:

1) It’s not curable and it’s barely treatable. He is who he is. There is no getting better, or learning, or adapting. He’s not going to “rise to the occasion” for more than maybe a couple hours. So just put that out of your mind.

2) He will say whatever feels most comfortable or good to him at any given time. He will lie a lot, and say totally different things to different people. Stop being surprised by this. While it’s important to pretend “good faith” and remind him of promises, as Bernie and others are doing, that’s for his supporters, so *they* can see the inconsistency. He won’t care. So if you’re trying to reconcile or analyze his words, don’t. It’s 100% not worth your time. Only pay attention to and address his actions.

3) You can influence him by making him feel good. There are already people like Bannon who are ready to use him for their own ends. The GOP is excited to try. Watch them, not him. President Obama, in his wisdom, is treating him well in hopes of influencing him and possibly averting the worst. If he gets enough accolades for better behavior, he might continue to try it. But don’t count on it.

4) Ultimately, he will betray anyone who tries to get close to him. It might take a while, though, so we can’t count on that.

5) He only cares about himself and those he views as extensions of himself, like his children. (People with NPD can’t understand others as fully human or distinct.) He desires accumulation of wealth and power because it fills a hole. (Melania is probably an acquired item, not an extension.) He will have no qualms *at all* about stealing everything he can from the country, and he’ll be happy to help others do so, if they make him feel good. That is likely the only thing he will intentionally accomplish.


Read More: https://andrewtobias.com/dealing-with-narcissistic-personality-disorder/

[Honeycombe8]

1. Explains a lot. nt

[PoliticAverse]

2. Link that bypasses Tobais's blog...

https://qz.com/852187/coping-with-chaos-in-the-white-house/

[gordianot]

3. We are all in serious danger.

Those who are critical of him and yes his supporters.

[Eyeball_Kid]

4. Excellent assessment. Thanks for posting it.

[Warpy]

5. He will also isolate himself completely

except for 3 of his children. Any pushback or attempt to educate him on boundaries he doesn't dare cross will be seen as proof of disloyalty.

Once he's isolated, I think he'll be gone quickly. Right now, the GOP is still laboring under the illusion that they can control him with well applied flattery. They can't.