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NYT went to Chaffetz district. Read this. (Original Post) kpete Mar 2017 OP
The choices people make. Cattledog Mar 2017 #1
Empathy is not one of your strong suits, is it? Wounded Bear Mar 2017 #2
tks WB - I was afraid of what I might say...you are a better person asiliveandbreathe Mar 2017 #4
This message was self-deleted by its author Jake Stern Mar 2017 #18
That's an academic question. Eyeball_Kid Mar 2017 #7
This is a common family unit in Utah. Wellstone ruled Mar 2017 #16
now there's a progressive thought! how about an income requirement for breeding! unblock Mar 2017 #8
I'm with you... Mellomugwump Mar 2017 #13
It blows my mind how easily some people can judge the lives of others. Warren DeMontague Mar 2017 #21
I guess it is judgmental... Mellomugwump Mar 2017 #23
Well if the minimum wage isn't a livable wage, that right there is a problem, I should think. Warren DeMontague Mar 2017 #25
How could they thwart Heavenly Father's plan like that? TransitJohn Mar 2017 #15
Or, maybe they just wanted children. Warren DeMontague Mar 2017 #22
$13/hr is a little less than twice the federal minimum wage. Warren DeMontague Mar 2017 #20
This sounds heartless. n/t jrthin Mar 2017 #26
Phones? Hell the magic underwear is $20 a set underpants Mar 2017 #3
Please read your comment - now put yourself in the Hunters shoes.. asiliveandbreathe Mar 2017 #5
I just meant it as a joke underpants Mar 2017 #9
"Allies"- Wealthier families providing social support packman Mar 2017 #6
they do have 2naSalit Mar 2017 #10
10%... Stand and Fight Mar 2017 #19
Thanks. 2naSalit Mar 2017 #24
That is not a fair comment zeusdogmom Mar 2017 #11
I will bet you a dollar packman Mar 2017 #12
Maybe the "social support" could have offered to help him with his studies so shraby Mar 2017 #14
Also that "social support" could use its influence packman Mar 2017 #17

Cattledog

(5,914 posts)
1. The choices people make.
Sun Mar 12, 2017, 12:00 PM
Mar 2017

$13 hr job, 3 kids, wife doesn't work. Ever think about holding off on kids while you both work to save some money, get some stability?

asiliveandbreathe

(8,203 posts)
4. tks WB - I was afraid of what I might say...you are a better person
Sun Mar 12, 2017, 12:13 PM
Mar 2017

than I - so eloquently put! So, it is the Hunters fault for trying to live - life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. I need to get on board with "if you see something, do something"...be well..

Even the comment about the Mormon faith below is way off base...I will say something..tks..

Response to Wounded Bear (Reply #2)

Eyeball_Kid

(7,430 posts)
7. That's an academic question.
Sun Mar 12, 2017, 12:18 PM
Mar 2017

1. The kids are already here.
2. The article suggests that these folks are already practicing "resourcefullness."
3. The thesis of the article conveys the frailties of present-day "conservative" political philosophy. This family apparently denies that other solutions to their economic dilemma DO exist, and that it's politically feasible to implement them. But their representative in Congress, HandSlap Chaffetz, does not listen to solutions. He listens to the pure cosmic evil that oozes from HILLARY'S EMAILS.

 

Wellstone ruled

(34,661 posts)
16. This is a common family unit in Utah.
Sun Mar 12, 2017, 02:03 PM
Mar 2017

If one understands the Social Religious and Cultural Norms of Utah(Theocracy),yes you come away shaking your head. Utah leads the Nation in Personal Bankruptcies,mostly due to Medical Bills.

Mellomugwump

(93 posts)
13. I'm with you...
Sun Mar 12, 2017, 01:36 PM
Mar 2017

I believe you can be progressive but still scratch your head and wonder about the decisions that people make.

I'm progressive, and yes, I think these people should get more help, but I also believe in personal responsibility and can't figure out how people make the decision to have kids in those circumstances.

But then, I'm a 48 year old woman who never had children because I considered it an awesome responsibility to be taken very seriously and not ventured into until you're financially and emotionally secure enough to handle it. If you have depression issues, you'd better get it figured out before you have kids who end up feeling like they're the reason you're so unhappy. If you don't want your kids to smoke, you shouldn't smoke. If you don't want your kids to abuse alcohol, you shouldn't abuse alcohol. If you want your kids to eat right and exercise, you need to eat right and exercise.

In my 20's, my husband and I were fairly financially secure but he had alcohol problems, and I wasn't going to bring kids into that environment. Then I divorced, finished college, started a career, remarried and couldn't see myself dropping my child off at daycare everyday, and I couldn't see myself staying home after working so hard to get a degree and start a career.

So, it was never the right time for me. It just blows my mind how easily people make the decision to have kids, or don't make the decision but have an oopsie and have them when they're not ready.

Mellomugwump

(93 posts)
23. I guess it is judgmental...
Mon Mar 13, 2017, 10:55 AM
Mar 2017

I can't imagine living under that kind of stress, but as you pointed out, that's my choice. And regardless, I think we should be providing more assistance to families, and NOBODY should have to worry about health care. That should be a right of everybody loving in society.

It appears that those on the right believe country means preserving our whiteness by having a wall to keep everybody else out and a strong military in order to bully the rest of the world.

Other than that, everybody's on their own and may the greediest win.

TransitJohn

(6,932 posts)
15. How could they thwart Heavenly Father's plan like that?
Sun Mar 12, 2017, 02:03 PM
Mar 2017

They've got to procreate to populate their own planet they'll be gods over in their afterlife.

Warren DeMontague

(80,708 posts)
22. Or, maybe they just wanted children.
Mon Mar 13, 2017, 05:57 AM
Mar 2017

Some people do, you know. Even ones without high paying 6 figure income jobs in corporate America.

Edited to add: it doesn't absolve them of doing a better job the next time they go to the voting booth, and hopefully retiring that shitwit, red district or no.

Warren DeMontague

(80,708 posts)
20. $13/hr is a little less than twice the federal minimum wage.
Mon Mar 13, 2017, 05:46 AM
Mar 2017

There are a lot of people in this country- the ones doing the grunt work that makes our civilization possible, in many cases- working hard and full time for as much or less pay than you seem to think the level is at where "responsible" people shouldnt have families.

Millions of people work hard for minimum wage or close to it. If that isnt enough to support a family, the minimum wage is the problem, not the people earning it.

 

packman

(16,296 posts)
6. "Allies"- Wealthier families providing social support
Sun Mar 12, 2017, 12:16 PM
Mar 2017

Ain't that nice - sort of owners patting their pets on their heads for being nice doggies.

Sorry, don't have much use for the Mormon Church which allowed/allows anyone to become a "Bishop" who makes a sizable $ donation (Mitt Romney)

2naSalit

(86,534 posts)
10. they do have
Sun Mar 12, 2017, 12:41 PM
Mar 2017

their own welfare system, that's one of the ways these better off folks know them. Tithing is a mandatory 10% or maybe more, I don't recall how much. And the church also urges couples to go forth and multiply in mass quantities, gawd will help them suffer through it if they aren't sanctimonious enough to get rich... wealth is a marker for holiness in that cult.

zeusdogmom

(990 posts)
11. That is not a fair comment
Sun Mar 12, 2017, 12:53 PM
Mar 2017

From my understanding the Mormon Church reaches out to help members of their stake who might need a hand up as they work to improve their situation. They try take care of their church members and that is a good thing. My local Lutheran congregation provides similar support. Any one of us at any point in our lives may need assistance. That assistance can be financial, physical, moral, emotional, etc. - depends on the need at the time.

Yes anyone who voted for Trump and the Republican congress critters made a very stupid choice. One we unfortunately all have to live with. The question is how do we deal with this in a way which produces positive change.

 

packman

(16,296 posts)
12. I will bet you a dollar
Sun Mar 12, 2017, 01:10 PM
Mar 2017

A Mormon capitalist/business person would not extend an extra penny or concrete financial support - but would pray over the souls of his poor fellow church member - if that penny would never come out of their pocket.

Example - Mitt's vulture capitalism.

Admit it - The church, ANY church, will do anything to keep that leash around its member's necks. A person, a family is too valuable a resource to loose as a future source of money or voting power.

shraby

(21,946 posts)
14. Maybe the "social support" could have offered to help him with his studies so
Sun Mar 12, 2017, 01:45 PM
Mar 2017

he would understand his subject better and be more apt to pass his test. Just taking the time to go over the material with him may have made the difference. A kind word is not enough many times.

 

packman

(16,296 posts)
17. Also that "social support" could use its influence
Sun Mar 12, 2017, 02:05 PM
Mar 2017

To increase general wages to provide a decent living wage for the people of that state and religion.

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