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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsI want to apologize to everyone here at DU.
In my last post I lashed out. I was wrong. I was not angry with anyone here. Something horrible happened at my job. I was stressed out. I work with the disabled. I witnessed abuse and reported it. Nothing was done. I reported it a second time and this time I warned them if nothing was done I would walk. They did nothing so I walked. I am out of work. I am a man of strong principles and I will always do the right thing even if it hurts me. I am taking further action. I am very protective of the people I care for.
This is not an excuse. I should not have lashed out here. I was wrong and I apologize. It will not happen again. I hope you will welcome me back.
Unlike Trump I can admit my mistakes and apologize.
Wounded Bear
(58,648 posts)It can be a difficult thing to stand up for your principles.
I hope all works out well for you.
SHRED
(28,136 posts)Can you report them?
nini
(16,672 posts)Put those principles to work and protect those people.
LesterKasai
(132 posts)MLAA
(17,285 posts)Sounds like the abuse at work is really weighing on you (I applaud you for caring and acting) . Since you mentioned working with the disabled, maybe there is some kind of oversight agency you could report it to.
NCTraveler
(30,481 posts)with a limited voice.
FakeNoose
(32,634 posts)Apology accepted, I'm sure it wasn't that horrible anyway.
I hope you find something in your line of work. So many are forced to leave their field now because of low/no opportunity. Don't get discouraged.
Maybe you can report the abuse problem of your former employer to the authorities?
Lotusflower70
(3,077 posts)For standing up for those who can't stand up for themselves and for admitting a mistake. I am sorry for your rough times. Sending positive energy your way.
unblock
(52,205 posts)everything in you o.p. is commendable.
the situation sucks, but continue to do the right thing.
in the end, that's more important and memorable than the temporary discomfort.
i once quit a job after the boss asked me not to hire homosexuals.
i honestly don't remember whatever sacrifices i had to make while abruptly unemployed until i found my next job, but i'll always remember the satisfaction of telling him off.
hang in there.
lunasun
(21,646 posts)happening to you
lunatica
(53,410 posts)We get it.
Leghorn21
(13,524 posts)bury you in snark, and it always bums me out, so I take a hard pass.
Your situation as described in this post is unbearable, untenable, unjust and crazy-making. Please do keep us posted as to any action you take on behalf of your abused client - hats off to you for not just walking away completely.
All best wishes to you as your job search begins; may your next gig provide MUCH better care for its clients!! - you sound like a "keeper", shockey - please hang in and keep the faith as you move forward -
shockey80
(4,379 posts)I will let them handle things. Unfortunately the whole Home Healthcare system has major flaws. It's hard to find good workers and some companies don't give a dam. I never applied to the company I just left. I was part of a take over.
Mopar151
(9,982 posts)"Firing" them should be covered by your unemployment insurance.
ancianita
(36,035 posts)state level legal help for this situation.
Internal reports go in the circular file. Take it outside the workplace and you'll likely trigger an inspection and inquiry.
Batship
(28 posts)I didn't see your stressed-out post, but thank you for modeling an excellent apology. We're all only human. We make errors. I hope if I'm ever in a similar situation, I'll remember your excellent example and apologize without any reservation or fear. Thank you.
And good luck with your work situation! I hope things start looking up for you!
sinkingfeeling
(51,448 posts)dembotoz
(16,799 posts)happen too damn seldom
test like this are worthwhile i guess
hate going thru it at the time but when you look back.....
i am an old guy
i value being able to sleep at night
i try to live accordingly
Denzil_DC
(7,233 posts)I hope things work out for you and those you witnessed being abused.
WinstonSmith4740
(3,056 posts)My late husband was disabled by a stroke, and I work with learning disabled kids. When I see unaddressed issues, it infuriates me, too. Keep doing the right thing, stick to your principles, and if you need to vent to us, do it! What are friends for, anyway? If you think it'll help, go to whatever authority oversees your work and report it. We'll be here!
TheBlackAdder
(28,186 posts)shockey80
(4,379 posts)I have to be honest. I have always fought for what is right. I am 58 years old and it has taken a toll. I told my wife who has to put up with me, when I die I am going to die with a smile on my face. My wife is the best. My wife is from Brazil. I'm glad I found her.
stonecutter357
(12,695 posts)And does DU still prove the "American people have lost their way"? https://www.democraticunderground.com/10029213563 .
annabanana
(52,791 posts)stonecutter357
(12,695 posts)I have no grudge to hold... It's a simple question does DU still prove the "American people have lost their way ?
TNNurse
(6,926 posts)GitRDun
(1,846 posts)We have all had our screw ups in life.
I've definitely had mine.
Lol, I was definitely puzzled by your initial post because it seemed kinda early in your post count to be fed up.
Makes more sense now.
As you move on here in DU, take care to make sure you Teflon yourself against comments / replies that can get personal.
The written word (yours AND theirs) often does not translate as a conversation...and...sometimes folks say things online they wouldn't say if they were seated across a table from you. It's a peril of this medium.
My best to you going forward.
Brian
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)We all have moments.
Hekate
(90,658 posts)turbinetree
(24,695 posts)Mrs. Overall
(6,839 posts)I think all of us who oppose trump and his devastating policies have an underlying anger and stress that shows itself at odd times. I know that I do.
And compounded with your job issues and leaving your job--that's enough to make anyone lash out.
Thank you for apologizing.
phylny
(8,380 posts)I'm sorry about your job situation and hope it gets resolved very soon.
glad you took a stand
FM123
(10,053 posts)Being under the influence of great stress can do quite a number on us. Hang in there.
MFM008
(19,806 posts)I've gotten angry here.
Didn't mean it.
We all vent.
If DU is a family. We must forgive and start
Another day.
Mountain Mule
(1,002 posts)I sometimes feel like the American people have lost their way myself. As a disabled American, I cannot praise you enough for standing up for those of us with disabilities. You are all too right about how the home health care system can be taken advantage of by unscrupulous companies. There was a major scandal in regard to this just recently in my own small town. Best of luck in outing your former employer and seeing that justice is served!
Bernardo de La Paz
(49,000 posts)Thank you for pursing it further.
You are forgiven.
Maynar
(769 posts)I've been going through some crap myself this weekend.
Looking forward to your next contribution. We all have a bad day now and then.
CK_John
(10,005 posts)notdarkyet
(2,226 posts)Crazy all week on me and my girlfriend. The neighbors called the Pollice twice because they thought we were being killed. The first time the police wouldn't make him leave so we went to a motel. I got papers and the police came back the next day and stood by while he got his stuff and left. The cops thought I was being a bitch so I was not allowed to say one word. He threw all my food away, twice, hundreds of dollars,and tried to kill my brand new cooler pumps I just bought with sabotage which could have burnt the house down. Trump makes us all sicker and since there is no global warming 110 degrees is no biggie. I worked with handicapped adults for years so I wish you the best.
Sunlei
(22,651 posts)Personally had family members who needed home health care. Most of the Aides were wonderful & a couple outstanding but a few were horrible people.
If I were you I'd contact a good Lawyer about severance/unemployment benefits.
Plus then you can sue the shit out of your employer to force change for the better about the abuse issue.
canetoad
(17,152 posts)I read that particular thread but didn't comment. It's easy to burn bridges but difficult to rebuild them. I'm glad the people you care for have you on their side.
flying_wahini
(6,589 posts)Enoki33
(1,587 posts)are important and help define your integrity.
IrishEyes
(3,275 posts)A man who stands up for what is right, can admit when he is wrong and grow from his mistakes is the kind of man that I would like to work with. Good luck.
retrowire
(10,345 posts)This made greatest threads?
People so eager for this guy to "kiss the ring"? No apologies are owed for being pissed off. We all get upset, even at our own party.
nolabear
(41,960 posts)It's not making mistakes that tells character, it's what you do then.
I sympathize with the awful things you're going through. Seeing abuse and not being able to help is awful.
Hope you find good prospects soon.
iluvtennis
(19,852 posts)Liberty Belle
(9,534 posts)That could get things changed and protect the child who was abused.
If there is media coverage of your story, someone seeing it might even offer you a new job. i'll bet there are a lot of caring people who would want an honest person working for them.
Lyricalinklines
(367 posts)You've made a positive difference in the child's life forever because you cared enough and followed through. You're a hero.
We all make mistakes, not all apologize or offer followup. You did both.
Positive thoughts your way as you progress through it all.
anniebelle
(899 posts)I'd be a millionaire. I think it's just a human response to release your innermost hostilities on those around you. It takes a strong person to admit they were wrong and to apologize. Don't beat yourself up over this episode ~ just let it be your driving force to do what you think is right for those you are trying to help ~ they truly have no voice. My first child was born disabled and I lashed out at my family, friends, God and anyone I felt didn't understand my pain. It took me many years to realize it wasn't them I was hurting, but myself. Take care and if it does happen again, get up, dust yourself off and try to move forward ~ again.