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I might have defied ruin, but my young life changed dramatically that day. That first savage episode signaled the beginning of years of covert molestation. Throughout the rest of high school I was a loner, not a natural role for me. No longer did I hold the unofficial title of most disciplined on the team, the first to practice each dawn. I couldnt chance being alone with Coach again. I sat through classes, distracted by an image of hacking my breasts off with a razor blade. Overnight, I began going through life a solitary soldier. I didnt need anybody, for anything.
Mine is an age-old scenario. Coaches and priests and doctors and scout leaders and stepfathers and, yes, movie producers, have been preying on those they are supposedly mentoring for far too long. And this isnt the first time Ive told my story. I first gave voice to the details of the years of humiliation when I was 21; the sense of power it gave me was immediate.
For me, being silenced was a punishment equal to the molestation. Legal prosecution proved time and time again to be futile, but I could at least regain my own dignity each time I uttered my truth. Ive been speaking out, loud and strong, for nearly five decades now. It has been crucial to my own health. It has energized others to speak out, too. And I will continue to tell my story until all girls and women find their own voice.
https://www.nytimes.com/2017/11/09/opinion/diana-nyad-sexual-assault.html?smid=fb-share&_r=0
MineralMan
(146,286 posts)by everyone. People need to fully understand the destructive impact sexual assault has on its victims. Diana Nyad makes it crystal clear.
RandomAccess
(5,210 posts)was the way one remorseful predator explained it to Oprah. She went to a prison and interviewed sexual assault perps.
FM123
(10,053 posts)Stuart G
(38,419 posts)Also, her description of the repeated sexual assaults are horrifying in ways that allow the reader to feel shame that Diana felt, and just as important, the shame that others must feel who go through this. She points out that she listened to accounts of similar assaults. Recommend to all, but this description is graphic, and total.
mfcorey1
(11,001 posts)mopinko
(70,078 posts)ismnotwasm
(41,976 posts)Writing this stark and powerful about sexual assault tends to be tucked away.
This woman told me a story that Ive heard many times before. Her father began molesting her when she was 3. Three. How can we begin to wrap our minds around that? He continued throughout her teenage years, using the familiar threat of shaming her and even hurting her if she told anybody. This was their special secret, he told her. Those words chilled me to the bone: their special secret.
Our conversation in my hotel room was the first time that she ever told anyone what had happened to her. She shed bitter tears, and I held her frail body, crying also for all these long years she had lived with the burden of these unspeakable events. Theres the irony. These events we have suffered are at once unspeakable and yet need to be spoken.
An interviewer once asked me, as many do, Where did your confidence, your iron will come from? That person didnt know that just hours earlier the same day, Id flown into an uncontrollable self-rage. Approaching my door, clutching several bags of groceries, Id fumbled with the keys, lost hold of the bags and started a self-destructive rant as apples rolled down the driveway. The same words the coach had used while molesting me came screaming out at me, from my own mouth. You little bitch! You worthless little . That wounded young person inside believes, on some cellular level, that these words sum up exactly who I am at the core.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)That was fucking chilling. And enraging.
Society basically cheered the attacker on as a hero.
what
the
fuck
ismnotwasm
(41,976 posts)Horrific.
Amaryllis
(9,524 posts)chowder66
(9,067 posts)One thing that knocked me on my heels was her description of her self destructive rant. I identified with that but never even gave it much of a thought other than at the time it happens that I need to work on that issue.
I have some deep reflecting to do and am grateful that she expressed this. It's given me a path for more healing.
Just WOW.
Kaleva
(36,294 posts)Had to do some Google searching using the clues given in the article.
sarisataka
(18,600 posts)Kaleva
(36,294 posts)kwassa
(23,340 posts)Jack Nelson, an Olympic swimmer and coach who directed a quartet of American women to a surprising gold medal in the 400-meter freestyle relay at the 1976 Games in Montreal, died on Wednesday in Delray Beach, Fla. He was 82.
The cause was Alzheimers disease, said his wife, Sherrill.
Nelson was a widely known figure in swimming, a gregarious man with an infectious love of the sport, with a reputation for motivating athletes at all levels and a long list of champions who came under his tutelage. But late in his career, his reputation was tainted when he was accused by one of his most prominent former swimmers, Diana Nyad, of having repeatedly molested her when she was a teenager. No charges were filed against him, but Nyad, who would become famous for her long-distance ocean swimming, persisted in her accusations for more than a quarter of a century, as recently as this year in an interview with The New Yorker.
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Nelson was the swim coach at the Pine Crest school in South Florida in the 1960s, when he helped the young Nyad win state championships in the backstroke. It was later, when she was in her 20s, according to The Broward/Palm Beach New Times, that Nyad and another swimmer first accused Nelson of sexual misconduct, taking their charges to the Pine Crest headmaster, William McMillan. Nelson denied the accusations but left the school soon after.
Nyad has repeated the charges throughout the years, including once on a television talk show in 1989 and, long after the statute of limitations for bringing charges had passed, in statements to the police in 2007. Nelson always maintained that Nyads charges were baseless
https://www.nytimes.com/2014/11/11/sports/jack-nelson-swimmings-version-of-a-chess-master-dies-at-82.html.
cwydro
(51,308 posts)cwydro
(51,308 posts)So many of my friends have had this experience in one way or another.
Its criminal. Its sickening.
niyad
(113,259 posts)Phentex
(16,334 posts)As heartbreaking as it is, it needs to be shared.