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Its no secret that the allure of some men to fame and power reveals their thirst for inappropriate sexual behavior as well.
But lets not forget that Trumps life was full of these stories as well. Hes a self-admitted sexual predator and abuser. He must not be allowed to let the presidency protect him. How can anyone forget the precedent set when Bill Clinton was hounded into an impeachment over lying about a consensual sexual relationship?
He was actually deposed as president. I would love to see Trump in a deposition as well.
What do you think the outcome if the greatest liar that anyone has ever seen was himself deposed in a civil class action lawsuit by his victims from years of his well established sexual predation?
Theyre out there, plenty of women who were probably treated worse by Trump than by the women (and children) apparently abused by men like Roy Moore, Louis C.K. and Jann Wenner.
Its time for some justice for Trumps silent victims. Its time for the same GOPrs who impeached Clinton to show just how hypocritical they are for failing to support the impeachment of Trump, were he to do the exact same thing that Clinton was charged with.
Its a tsunami of relevation is happening right now and the victims are refusing to be silent. Someone knows who Trumps victims are, they should be encouraged to chose to speak up and tell the truth about him. They should be protected from the power of the most powerful sexual predator on the planet. They should be believed and the proper responses taken against Trump.
Its time for a reckoning.
Initech
(100,042 posts)They can't seriously look to sit on a national or even a global stage, look us in the eyes, and tell us about "deviant lifestyles" that "harm children" ever again while they go out and actively support accused child molestors Roy Moore and Donald Trump. If anything this is showing us that the accusers will often do what they accuse others of. It's sick, disturbing, and insane. The "family values" crowd really needs an ass whooping. They need to be made irrelevant.
NCTraveler
(30,481 posts)Calling that consensual is questionable at best. I personally don't care what Monicas motives were. The power difference that existed in their relationship in the workplace makes it impossible for me to accept it as "consensual".
MrScorpio
(73,630 posts)Was she pressured, or otherwise coerced into it? In spite of the power dichotomy, that doesnt necessarily exclude mutual consent in a sexual encounter.
Thats what a power exchange dynamic is all about, whenever its employed.
Monica would be the only person to determine that here.
NCTraveler
(30,481 posts)Are the reasons I dont care. Her consenting in that situation absolves Clinton of nothing. In the workplace, with power being that different, I will not justify or accept it. Its not accepted when a woman voluntarily performs the same service on a Hollywood exec considering the power difference implications.
MrScorpio
(73,630 posts)But Monicas consent makes all the difference between Clinton being put into the same category of a Trump or a Moore or not. The lack of consent denotes any lack of power exchange in a sexual relationship.
Monicas account is the more important one to me, precisely because she lacked power. If she says that there was mutual consent, that stipulates an exchange of power between herself and Clinton. If she had rescinded her consent, that would be a whole other matter.
My only concern is for the victims here, what they're telling us. They all know whether or not theyve been victimized or not. As we believe the accounts of people who say that theyve been victimized by their abusers and did not consent to how they were treated, we should also allow Monica the same courtesy if she says that she consented instead.
NCTraveler
(30,481 posts)I simply don't accept consent under such a situation and don't like it when it's promoted as such.
MrScorpio
(73,630 posts)We should automatically disregard her autonomy, merely because the man she wanted to screw WAS the President?
You cant get any more American than that. I was in Europe during the Lewinsky mess and I saw first hand how much it made us look like a global laughing stock.
Monicas an adult, she may have made a bad decision about who she wanted to screw. But at least she had a choice about making a bad decision. Women choose to screw powerful men all the time. As long as theres mutual consent and the absence of abuse and coercion, I dont see a problem with that.
Taking away her consent when she freely gave is just as bad as giving consent to victims who never gave any to their abusers. Show me where she was coerced and Ill see your point.
Others who abuse those without consent, for whatever situation are the problem here. I cant put Monica in that same boat, because she chose not to go there.
NCTraveler
(30,481 posts)It was in a work setting and there are few jobs in the world that would provide such a power difference. I don't excuse it and then throw some "America" crap out there.
MrScorpio
(73,630 posts)He was impeached for lying about it in a sworn deposition.
Legally, a consensual sexual relationship between the two was moot. It only mattered in this country because of our ridiculously juvenile and puritanical attitude towards sex AND the witch hunt by the GOPrs, who are the worst of the worst when it comes to that attitude.
Monica made a choice. Im bound to respect it.
TexasBushwhacker
(20,148 posts)He was dumb enough to respond.
MrScorpio
(73,630 posts)LanternWaste
(37,748 posts)"Calling that consensual is questionable at best..."
You then have evidence she did not in fact, consent, or was coerced into consenting? Otherwise, it meets both the legal and the formal definition of the word.
NCTraveler
(30,481 posts)It's not acceptable to me and shouldn't be to you.
Claiming that this is acceptable consent in society is to excuse sex that arises every day in this country between low level staff and CEO's. Many women in these situations do not say no. That does not mean I have to accept it. It also doesn't mean she didn't say no because she was looking for pleasure. I'm sure Monica simply likes having an old mans penis in her mouth.
I REALLY don't like the world that you are trying to set up.
NCTraveler
(30,481 posts)Having sexual relations with lower level female employees?
Sorry, my world is becoming more of a reality. We are making slow and steady progress in these areas. Its becoming more and more unacceptable, as it should.
Maybe it's like Louis CK said today. It's an age and understanding thing.
"These stories are true," he admitted. "At the time, I said to myself that what I did was okay because I never showed a woman my (penis) without asking first, which is also true. But what I learned later in life, too late, is that when you have power over another person, asking them to look at your (penis) isnt a question. Its a predicament for them. The power I had over these women is that they admired me. And I wielded that power irresponsibly."
TexasBushwhacker
(20,148 posts)Monica told a friend, before leaving for Washington, that she would be getting her "presidential knee pads". She told Linda Tripp it was no big deal because it was "only oral sex".
NCTraveler
(30,481 posts)And understand what Monica said. Not a bit of that means I must excuse Clinton.
TexasBushwhacker
(20,148 posts)His presidency would be remembered as a time when he turned the economy around and left a budget surplus to GWB. Instead, he's remembered as the one who git blown in the Oval Office and lied about it.
NCTraveler
(30,481 posts)JustAnotherGen
(31,783 posts)Must be the 'blind' item that has been floating around about the 'media guy'. It didn't make sense if it had been Ronan Farrow.
elias7
(3,991 posts)Why should he be exempt?