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Va Lefty

(6,252 posts)
Tue Nov 21, 2017, 12:42 PM Nov 2017

I think we're reaching a point with so many of these stories coming out about sexual harassment

apparently many more in the pipeline that they will cease to shock anymore. Accused will do a mea culpa (like thoughts and prayers after shootings) and everyone moves on. Not saying this is right but seems to be where we are heading.

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I think we're reaching a point with so many of these stories coming out about sexual harassment (Original Post) Va Lefty Nov 2017 OP
People are losing their jobs MaryMagdaline Nov 2017 #1
I can think of one predator who's not losing his job Orrex Nov 2017 #5
This entire subject is a SMOKE SCREEN for the tax bill. Hortensis Nov 2017 #12
And it's working like a charm Orrex Nov 2017 #17
DU doesn't just completely lose its shit, it's bein played Hortensis Nov 2017 #20
That's a better summation than mine Orrex Nov 2017 #21
The latest nuttery is that Conyers should resign based on his settlement. BannonsLiver Nov 2017 #35
nothing that happens on this website is going to affect the tax bill passing or not snooper2 Nov 2017 #23
Certainly true. I have made that point many times myself. Orrex Nov 2017 #27
I agree, being hit in the wallet will make men think twice about harassing women. nt Irish_Dem Nov 2017 #18
Given not one single conservative or republican gives TWO SHITS about ANY woman ANYWHERE Eliot Rosewater Nov 2017 #2
well when you see victim blaming here on DU nini Nov 2017 #3
+1 pintobean Nov 2017 #7
So true Lee-Lee Nov 2017 #31
The right is trying to go after Joe Biden now MariaCSR Nov 2017 #4
What bothers me is that while people on the left, or, at least, not RW apoligize question everything Nov 2017 #6
It would also help if we could differentiate Va Lefty Nov 2017 #8
This message was self-deleted by its author BannonsLiver Nov 2017 #38
I disagree, I think it is a watershed moment. Things won't be the same again, which is good. Irish_Dem Nov 2017 #9
I agree. Men are losing their jobs and won't find work again. Hamlette Nov 2017 #11
Yes, men will change to save their own skins. And then maybe it will become the norm. Irish_Dem Nov 2017 #14
Well, They Might Change RobinA Nov 2017 #32
There is good research that suggests change behavior first, then attitude will change. Irish_Dem Nov 2017 #34
Or they will further ostracize women Drahthaardogs Nov 2017 #15
There will always be a group of bad people. But we are talking about changing the majority view of Irish_Dem Nov 2017 #16
Uh huh, and I am a grandson of the Ludlow Massacre Drahthaardogs Nov 2017 #25
I know, humans are so slow to evolve. I don't get it. nt Irish_Dem Nov 2017 #29
Or they will set up rigid NDAs and arbitration clauses Orrex Nov 2017 #22
NDAs, arbitration, and waiving rights are just other forms of harassment. Irish_Dem Nov 2017 #24
That's a very interesting and effective way to frame it. Nicely done! Orrex Nov 2017 #28
Thanks Orrex nt Irish_Dem Nov 2017 #30
Is this a GOP strategy? If "everybody" does it, then it makes Trump's behavior Laurian Nov 2017 #10
It does play into the whole "both sides do it" narrative Va Lefty Nov 2017 #13
There was a story about Gene Simmons being accused. Initech Nov 2017 #19
I can't remember him ever not being accused of sexual harassment. Iggo Nov 2017 #37
Outrage fatigue. Happens for most things. Bonx Nov 2017 #26
I'm not saying it didn't happen but anyone can say it but how do you prove you didn't? blueinredohio Nov 2017 #33
And Trump will ride out the wave of outrage...it becomes the norm and he'll be exhonorated BoneyardDem Nov 2017 #36

Orrex

(63,154 posts)
5. I can think of one predator who's not losing his job
Tue Nov 21, 2017, 12:48 PM
Nov 2017

In fact, throughout the current firestorm of long-overdue revelations and consequence, Trump has been more or less overlooked by the media.

Wonder why...

Hortensis

(58,785 posts)
12. This entire subject is a SMOKE SCREEN for the tax bill.
Tue Nov 21, 2017, 01:16 PM
Nov 2017

What's happening with taxes is ENORMOUS -- if it passes, it will hit and hurt every one of us and everyone we know.

Please note that both MSNBC and CNN are doing near blanket coverage of sexual harrassment while our legislators create a phony multi-trillion-dollar debt from us to the billionaire class that we will be legally required to pay off for years to come.

Orrex

(63,154 posts)
17. And it's working like a charm
Tue Nov 21, 2017, 01:23 PM
Nov 2017

One vague, dubious accusation about a powerful Liberal Senator, and DU completely loses its shit for a week straight.

Pay no attention that hideously toxic tax bill behind the curtain!

Hortensis

(58,785 posts)
20. DU doesn't just completely lose its shit, it's bein played
Tue Nov 21, 2017, 01:33 PM
Nov 2017

and divided over yet another issue 90% of us actually agree on, with a few foolish reactionaries predictably shrilling like bagpipes.

Orrex

(63,154 posts)
21. That's a better summation than mine
Tue Nov 21, 2017, 01:36 PM
Nov 2017

A few DUers have indeed been curiously vocal and insistent throughout this.

Hmm...

BannonsLiver

(16,275 posts)
35. The latest nuttery is that Conyers should resign based on his settlement.
Tue Nov 21, 2017, 04:25 PM
Nov 2017

Sure, right after all the republicans who had money paid out on their behalf resign as well. Several posters here are desperate for Dems to self immolate while Republicans are being given a pass. Yeah, to hell with that shit.

Orrex

(63,154 posts)
27. Certainly true. I have made that point many times myself.
Tue Nov 21, 2017, 03:24 PM
Nov 2017

Every time that a call goes out for DUers to contact their Senators, I note that such efforts are almost guaranteed to be pointless, certainly in the case of my own state's Sentator Toomey is bought and paid for by corporate interests.

Regardless, it is disappointing to see DU so easily swept up in the engineered frenzy surrounding Franken, etc.

Eliot Rosewater

(31,104 posts)
2. Given not one single conservative or republican gives TWO SHITS about ANY woman ANYWHERE
Tue Nov 21, 2017, 12:44 PM
Nov 2017

let alone sexual harassment, we can count on them to use it over and over and over.

nini

(16,672 posts)
3. well when you see victim blaming here on DU
Tue Nov 21, 2017, 12:44 PM
Nov 2017

this is an uphill battle for sure.

I agree .. we are being desensitized to so many things.

question everything

(47,407 posts)
6. What bothers me is that while people on the left, or, at least, not RW apoligize
Tue Nov 21, 2017, 12:48 PM
Nov 2017

while admitting not recalling the events that way, the RWers - notably Trump and Moore just deny it.

I suppose the Foxers were an exception.

Va Lefty

(6,252 posts)
8. It would also help if we could differentiate
Tue Nov 21, 2017, 12:51 PM
Nov 2017

between feeling up a 14 year old and a hand brushing your ass for a couple of secs during a photo op.

Response to question everything (Reply #6)

Irish_Dem

(46,338 posts)
9. I disagree, I think it is a watershed moment. Things won't be the same again, which is good.
Tue Nov 21, 2017, 12:54 PM
Nov 2017

Men will fear for their jobs and income stream if they continue with bad behavior.

Hamlette

(15,406 posts)
11. I agree. Men are losing their jobs and won't find work again.
Tue Nov 21, 2017, 01:15 PM
Nov 2017

it has ruined lives. It will cause people to think before they mistreat others. I predict we reduce it to the point that we can drown harassment in the bathtub.

Irish_Dem

(46,338 posts)
14. Yes, men will change to save their own skins. And then maybe it will become the norm.
Tue Nov 21, 2017, 01:18 PM
Nov 2017

And then men may actually begin to respect women.

Change the behavior and the attitude will follow.

RobinA

(9,884 posts)
32. Well, They Might Change
Tue Nov 21, 2017, 04:07 PM
Nov 2017

to save their skins, but the respect part doesn't necessarily follow. You can bludgeon people into changing their behavior, but you can't bludgeon them into changing their minds. That has to come more organically. (see, race relations)

Irish_Dem

(46,338 posts)
34. There is good research that suggests change behavior first, then attitude will change.
Tue Nov 21, 2017, 04:22 PM
Nov 2017

We used to think it was the other way around.
Totally changed the way therapists do therapy.

I agree it is a slow process, but there are good examples.
Truman signed the order to desegregate the military, and Kennedy sent in federal troops to desegregate
schools. These things had a big impact.

But I agree, evolution is a very slow process.
Humans are quick at doing bad things, but so slow at doing good things.

Drahthaardogs

(6,843 posts)
15. Or they will further ostracize women
Tue Nov 21, 2017, 01:19 PM
Nov 2017

Like Pence does.

Don't assume that this will change for the better. You are dealing with unscrupulous people in the first place. It might actually make shit worse.

Irish_Dem

(46,338 posts)
16. There will always be a group of bad people. But we are talking about changing the majority view of
Tue Nov 21, 2017, 01:21 PM
Nov 2017

how women should be treated. We are hoping to make broad societal change and it can happen.

Edited to add:

I saw history in the making as a young woman. Women's rights, civil rights, environmental rights, etc. etc.
We stopped the Viet Nam war.

So yes, I am certain we can have a society where women are respected and safe.

Drahthaardogs

(6,843 posts)
25. Uh huh, and I am a grandson of the Ludlow Massacre
Tue Nov 21, 2017, 03:14 PM
Nov 2017

And when they won the right to unionize, they said it would never be lost.

Now we have Democrats who won't support unions...

Orrex

(63,154 posts)
22. Or they will set up rigid NDAs and arbitration clauses
Tue Nov 21, 2017, 01:44 PM
Nov 2017

"Sign here, young lady:"

I the undersigned woman agree to waive my right of judicial review in the event that I judge {insert powerful male's name here} to behave in a way that I deem inappropriate; in such an instance the matter will be referred to a third party for arbitration, with the result to be binding and not subject to appeal.


"Great! Now you can appear in this photo op with Mr. Celebrity!"

Irish_Dem

(46,338 posts)
24. NDAs, arbitration, and waiving rights are just other forms of harassment.
Tue Nov 21, 2017, 02:24 PM
Nov 2017

Just legal loopholes to allow men to continue with bad behavior.

Laurian

(2,593 posts)
10. Is this a GOP strategy? If "everybody" does it, then it makes Trump's behavior
Tue Nov 21, 2017, 01:09 PM
Nov 2017

seem less egregious?

These assholes have a scorched attitude toward gaining and maintaining power, no matter the consequences for society as a whole.

Initech

(100,013 posts)
19. There was a story about Gene Simmons being accused.
Tue Nov 21, 2017, 01:24 PM
Nov 2017

After he was banned from Fox for life? Does that surprise anyone?

 

BoneyardDem

(1,202 posts)
36. And Trump will ride out the wave of outrage...it becomes the norm and he'll be exhonorated
Tue Nov 21, 2017, 04:32 PM
Nov 2017

by his adoring crowds.

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