Elliot Rodger and the Price of Toxic Masculinity
I like this post from Dr. Nerdlove. I think he explains very well the toxic attitudes that pervade our culture. MRA and PUA groups are just channeling that toxic attitude. You see it in movies, in commercials, television, all the time: the idea that men are entitled to sex and women are the gatekeepers:
Let’s go back to his statement about how he’s been denied sex. On the surface, this isn’t very different from the complaints that a lot of men have. In fact, I hear similar laments from men all the time; they’re still virgins at 20, 30, 40, even 50 or older and they believe that this means there’s something inherently wrong with them. They’re legitimately in pain, feeling anguish and torment over the fact that they’ve never had sex, never seen a woman naked in person, never felt bare skin against theirs or the sweetness of somebody else’s lips. But there’s a critical difference.
And that difference is all about entitlement, pain and hate. You see it all over the language in Roger’s rant; he complains about how he’s been snubbed, about how he’s been “denied” sex, about how he’s been judged “unworthy” despite being “the supreme gentleman” and a “true alpha male”. He says that if he can’t have them, then the only thing left to do is to destroy them. In other videos from his YouTube channel, he complains about how unfair it is that women don’t like him, despite all the effort he’s put in...
...Because that is exactly what the cultural narrative of masculinity says: that manhood is inherently tied to sex. A man’s “coming of age” is linked to becoming sexually active – as early as possible. In fact, the idea of “man as sexual being” is so ingrained that a man who was sexually assaulted as a child is seen as being that much more manly and potent. If Chris Brown can get laid at 8, what does that mean for you if you can’t get laid at 15? At 17? At 20? The older you get, the more terrifying it becomes to reveal that you’re a virgin – surely this means that something’s wrong with you, right? It becomes a self-reinforcing loop of negative feedback – you’re still a virgin because you’re inherently damaged somehow and therefore other people won’t sleep with you so you stay a virgin for longer. And as a result: You’re not a man. You’re defective. The Red Pill forum of Reddit is all about dividing the world up into “alphas” – people who’ve taken the Red Pill, who’ve woken themselves up to the manipulations of women and have taken back control to prove that they’re real, virile men – and “betas” – sexless losers who suck up to women in hopes of getting a whiff of sex. PUAHate is full of men raging because they’re “incomplete”, about how they’ll never be “real” men because of how women deny them what they’re due.
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http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2014/05/elliot-rodger-price-toxic-masculinity/
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