48 Things Women Hear In A Lifetime (That Men Just Don't)

[yuiyoshida]

[downeastdaniel]

1. Yep, I'm a male and I never heard a one of those 48.

[IrishEyes]

3. Yes

I've heard many of them said to me or my friends.

[tblue37]

4. K&R for visibility. nt

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

5. I've heard almost all of them.

The only ones I didn't hear were those relating to how you look when you're pregnant/had a baby, but only because I didn't have kids. Otherwise every last one was depressingly familiar. Especially galling were the admonitions to smile. I hated that.

[CarrieLynne]

6. i've heard most but not all

I have no kids so i've not heard the ones about stay at home mom vs working mom

but even the last one....I'm 47 - a few years back I had a boyfriend who, upon viewing a pic of my 19 year old self said "wow i really missed the boat on that one" OO

hes lonely now...

[treestar]

7. wow

I especially like the last one.

[suzanner]

8. none about overweight

I expected a lot of those. I struggled with weight all my life, yo yo-ing over the same 30 or more pounds. I got- pretty much- daily remarks of fat shaming from childhood (family) and middle school (other kids) on. Even at my bottom weight, I got remarks: not thin enough. Now that I'm in my late 60's, I've been a stable 120 for some years mostly because I live alone and have control. People I meet are thinking I was always this way, so they don't see why I'm so distrustful or offish. But I thought these were pretty mild. I wish I'd had mild, well-meaning comments like that instead of what I endured.

[TygrBright]

9. Yup. Heard most of 'em. n/t

[zentrum]

10. "Come on Honey, smile----you

Look like someone's died."

[Feeling the Bern]

11. I'm a man. Twelve of those have been said to me here in China by both men and women

My abusive father said the emotional ones to me after he belittled and beat me as a child.

[raging moderate]

12. Dear Feeling the Bern, I 'm so sorry that happened to you!

Thank you for reminding us that abusers are looking for victims everywhere. And that the rest of us must unite against them and take care of each other!

[yuiyoshida]

15. Agree

[LittleGirl]

13. yep, I've heard most of those

sadly. I don't have kids so didn't get those but the 'why don't you have kids' one, especially painful when I really wanted them.

[Wernothelpless]

14. And we here these ...

from other women ...

[qwlauren35]

16. Ewww.

I cringed. I've said a few of those things. I try not to say "You're pretty". But that last comment - you USED to be pretty. For a woman who was, that must just be a sock in the gut.