Ex-wife told me Saturday she made a big mistake in divorcing me.

[Kaleva]

She also told me she had talked to her grandmother (who is 93 years old) and was crying as she told her how much she missed me not being home and her grandmother ripped her a new one for divorcing me in the first place. I thought that was funny as I could easily visualize the grandmother doing that as she is not one to mess with.

As part of the divorce settlement, she had the right to go back to her original name but she's going to keep mine. Also, I had agreed to sign a quick claim deed to take my name off the home but she wants me to keep my name on it now and she's keeping me as beneficiary on her life insurance as she is for mine.

Although divorced ,we still wear our wedding rings.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

1. Sounds to me like you're both still married to each other, my dear Kaleva...

Maybe not legally, but in all the other ways, you are.

Go home!

[nolabear]

2. Couldn't have said it better myself.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

3. Aw, thanks, my dear nolabear...

[seabeyond]

4. ah, kaleva....

take care of you.

thanks for keeping us up to date.

i am editing because peggy said so, i am saying it too. go home. if that is what you want. go home.

[PoliticAverse]

5. Best wishes to both of you. But what do you want ? n/t

[Kaleva]

6. I'd rather go home but....

being apart does seem to do us both good, relationship wise. When we are together, about every two or three days, it's almost like a date. We spend time sitting on the couch just holding hands. We go out to eat about once a week. We both look forward to our morning and evening phone time when not together.

[irisblue]

7. not every couple should live in the same place

is the way you living right now working for you? are you happier? is she happier? so emotionally together, physically together when you want might be best for the 2 of you.

[peacefreak]

8. Take it slow....

I don't mean to be a wet blanket, but maybe you should slow down a little bit. I've been reading some of the things she put you through during the divorce. How about you getting some counseling to really sort out WHY you got divorced in the first place & how to avoid similar situations if you get back together.
The heart knows. I wish you both all good things.

[Kaleva]

9. Not wanting to get into too much detail but she's on medication for a condition of hers.

I was well aware of this before we were married. I saw very early on that often it wouldn't do any good to argue with her when she had made up her mind unless it was something that I felt would do her great harm. Arguing against the divorce or for a more equitable division of our assets would have, IMO, turned it into an ugly affair from which there would have been no chance of return.

[dawg]

10. You owe it to yourself to try and make this thing work.

If you're anything like me, you'll regret it all your life if you don't do everything possible to fix your relationship with the woman that you clearly love.

Marriage means partnership and committment. For most people, it means romantic exclusivity. Other than that, it's all up to the two of you. You don't necessarily have to live together or even see each other every day. Find a way to make it work, or at least go down trying.

[Kaleva]

11. We are both disabled and being together 24/7 was a strain.

Me spending time on DU was a matter of contention between us. Living here in my man cave allows me to spend all the time I want here. And the time we are together, we are spending on each other.

[dawg]

12. Perhaps the two of you can find your own path.

Having a special someone is an incredible blessing, but it doesn't have to be a cookie-cutter "Leave it to Beaver" marriage. I hope the two of you can find a path that is right for you. I believe it is possible.

Of course, I'm a starry-eyed dreamer, so you have to take anything I say with a grain of salt. But I feel like I can see the love in the words that you write.