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bif

(22,697 posts)
Wed Dec 26, 2018, 10:56 AM Dec 2018

Arg! How I hate "Greek Goodbyes"!

My wife's family is all Greek. And they take absolutely forever to say goodbye at the end of a gathering. If it was up to me I'd "Ghost". But after spending 5 hours with her relatives, she has to say goodby to each and every one of them. And it takes anywhere from 45 minutes to an hour. I'd be perfectly fine with putting my coat on and saying a collective "Bye" from the door. Anyone else encounter this? A friend of my daughter's calls it the "Armenian Goodbye".

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Arg! How I hate "Greek Goodbyes"! (Original Post) bif Dec 2018 OP
It's the Italian goodbye, and... TreasonousBastard Dec 2018 #1
The Minnesota Long Goodbye geardaddy Dec 2018 #2
Maybe she appertains values every person around her. Renew Deal Dec 2018 #3
It sometimes splits down families. I've always been a 'ghoster' but the rest of the fam, not so much Gidney N Cloyd Dec 2018 #4
Lol! Cracklin Charlie Dec 2018 #6
The Jewish Goodbye (or The Cleveland Goodbye) luvs2sing Dec 2018 #5
This Thanksgiving bif Dec 2018 #7
After years of arguing.. luvs2sing Dec 2018 #10
I hate long goodbyes PJMcK Dec 2018 #8
The only "Long Goodbye" I want Harker Dec 2018 #9
I always preferred how they say goodbye in Germany Ron Obvious Dec 2018 #11
That was Austria. Aristus Dec 2018 #12
IIRC, the "German goodbye" is to rap your knuckles twice on the table JustABozoOnThisBus Dec 2018 #16
It's worse at a Native Alaskan gathering, I'd swear! akraven Dec 2018 #13
I'm Armenian and nothing beats the Mexican Goodbye LeftInTX Dec 2018 #14
I'm only a little bit Irish, but I prefer the Irish goodbye. smirkymonkey Dec 2018 #15
I'm not introverted but I just hate long goodbyes. bif Dec 2018 #17

TreasonousBastard

(43,049 posts)
1. It's the Italian goodbye, and...
Wed Dec 26, 2018, 11:03 AM
Dec 2018

the Jewish goodbye. And too many others to list.

I was raised in a German Lutheran family and don't understand any of this.

Gidney N Cloyd

(19,833 posts)
4. It sometimes splits down families. I've always been a 'ghoster' but the rest of the fam, not so much
Wed Dec 26, 2018, 11:18 AM
Dec 2018

What really astounds me is my brother inevitably whips out the camera just as the goodbye 'process' begins. He had hours to take posed or candid pictures but no-- now, when some of us are trying to make an exit-- THAT's when he turns into Matthew Brady.

luvs2sing

(2,220 posts)
5. The Jewish Goodbye (or The Cleveland Goodbye)
Wed Dec 26, 2018, 11:25 AM
Dec 2018

My husband and his family actually go down through the list of every attendee before heading out the door to ensure everyone has been properly goodbyed. As they grew older and memories began fading, it was not uncommon for his parents to get in the car, remember someone they had forgotten, and go back to say goodbye or remember after they got home and CALL the person to apologize for not saying goodbye.

Yes..my husband does it, too..yes..it drives me insane. 🤪. I say specific goodbyes to the hosts and anyone else I had a lengthy or specific conversation with or if I needed to follow up with someone about something specific. Everyone else gets the wave and “bye, all!”

bif

(22,697 posts)
7. This Thanksgiving
Wed Dec 26, 2018, 11:38 AM
Dec 2018

I told my wife that when I give her the signal, we should cut out. I recently quit drinking, and am uncomfortable at parties sometimes. So we said goodby to her brother and sister-in-law (the hosts) and to a few other family members. When we got home, her brother called to make sure everything was okay. He thought we were mad or got into a fight with someone!

luvs2sing

(2,220 posts)
10. After years of arguing..
Wed Dec 26, 2018, 02:00 PM
Dec 2018

hubster and I have it worked out. I tell him ahead of time how long I want to stay and let him calculate how to schedule in all the goodbyes so we both leave happy. I’m a true introvert, and he has learned to read and respect my getting peopled out while I let him say goodbyes to his heart’s content..and sometimes join him.

All the best to you in your recovery.

PJMcK

(22,031 posts)
8. I hate long goodbyes
Wed Dec 26, 2018, 11:40 AM
Dec 2018

It doesn't matter if it's a friend, a business colleague, family or lover.

"Bye. See you later."

That's it. Anything more is annoying.

It's nearly impossible to get off the phone with one of my best friends. He'll repeat our entire conversation then say goodby 8 different ways. It makes me crazy!

JustABozoOnThisBus

(23,338 posts)
16. IIRC, the "German goodbye" is to rap your knuckles twice on the table
Sun Dec 30, 2018, 12:30 PM
Dec 2018

then turn around and leave.

Short and sweet.

But I see the value of that "Austrian goodbye".

akraven

(1,975 posts)
13. It's worse at a Native Alaskan gathering, I'd swear!
Sun Dec 30, 2018, 04:21 AM
Dec 2018

Never got out the door in less than 2 hours AFTER saying good night. But it's fun, so what the heck.

LeftInTX

(25,258 posts)
14. I'm Armenian and nothing beats the Mexican Goodbye
Sun Dec 30, 2018, 04:25 AM
Dec 2018

When it comes to my in-laws I kinda wonder if Mexican Goodbyes even exists??

They have a habit of moving in with each other....

 

smirkymonkey

(63,221 posts)
15. I'm only a little bit Irish, but I prefer the Irish goodbye.
Sun Dec 30, 2018, 05:28 AM
Dec 2018

Which is basically to slip out the door unnoticed without saying goodbye to anyone. Also know as the "Irish Exit". I know it's a little bit rude, and I usually thank and say goodbye to the hosts, but other than that I am out of there. I am pretty introverted and when I want to leave I usually feel the need to go right away.

bif

(22,697 posts)
17. I'm not introverted but I just hate long goodbyes.
Mon Dec 31, 2018, 12:44 PM
Dec 2018

Especially when you've just spent five hours with those folks!

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