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My wife's family is all Greek. And they take absolutely forever to say goodbye at the end of a gathering. If it was up to me I'd "Ghost". But after spending 5 hours with her relatives, she has to say goodby to each and every one of them. And it takes anywhere from 45 minutes to an hour. I'd be perfectly fine with putting my coat on and saying a collective "Bye" from the door. Anyone else encounter this? A friend of my daughter's calls it the "Armenian Goodbye".
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)the Jewish goodbye. And too many others to list.
I was raised in a German Lutheran family and don't understand any of this.
geardaddy
(24,926 posts)Renew Deal
(81,855 posts)Gidney N Cloyd
(19,833 posts)What really astounds me is my brother inevitably whips out the camera just as the goodbye 'process' begins. He had hours to take posed or candid pictures but no-- now, when some of us are trying to make an exit-- THAT's when he turns into Matthew Brady.
Cracklin Charlie
(12,904 posts)This thread could get funny.
luvs2sing
(2,220 posts)My husband and his family actually go down through the list of every attendee before heading out the door to ensure everyone has been properly goodbyed. As they grew older and memories began fading, it was not uncommon for his parents to get in the car, remember someone they had forgotten, and go back to say goodbye or remember after they got home and CALL the person to apologize for not saying goodbye.
Yes..my husband does it, too..yes..it drives me insane. 🤪. I say specific goodbyes to the hosts and anyone else I had a lengthy or specific conversation with or if I needed to follow up with someone about something specific. Everyone else gets the wave and bye, all!
bif
(22,697 posts)I told my wife that when I give her the signal, we should cut out. I recently quit drinking, and am uncomfortable at parties sometimes. So we said goodby to her brother and sister-in-law (the hosts) and to a few other family members. When we got home, her brother called to make sure everything was okay. He thought we were mad or got into a fight with someone!
luvs2sing
(2,220 posts)hubster and I have it worked out. I tell him ahead of time how long I want to stay and let him calculate how to schedule in all the goodbyes so we both leave happy. Im a true introvert, and he has learned to read and respect my getting peopled out while I let him say goodbyes to his hearts content..and sometimes join him.
All the best to you in your recovery.
PJMcK
(22,031 posts)It doesn't matter if it's a friend, a business colleague, family or lover.
"Bye. See you later."
That's it. Anything more is annoying.
It's nearly impossible to get off the phone with one of my best friends. He'll repeat our entire conversation then say goodby 8 different ways. It makes me crazy!
Harker
(14,012 posts)is the one from Raymond Chandler.
Ron Obvious
(6,261 posts)Aristus
(66,316 posts)'Goodbye' in Germany was a crack across the head with a riding crop.
JustABozoOnThisBus
(23,338 posts)then turn around and leave.
Short and sweet.
But I see the value of that "Austrian goodbye".
akraven
(1,975 posts)Never got out the door in less than 2 hours AFTER saying good night. But it's fun, so what the heck.
LeftInTX
(25,258 posts)When it comes to my in-laws I kinda wonder if Mexican Goodbyes even exists??
They have a habit of moving in with each other....
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)Which is basically to slip out the door unnoticed without saying goodbye to anyone. Also know as the "Irish Exit". I know it's a little bit rude, and I usually thank and say goodbye to the hosts, but other than that I am out of there. I am pretty introverted and when I want to leave I usually feel the need to go right away.
bif
(22,697 posts)Especially when you've just spent five hours with those folks!