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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsWhen you find out something you did 20 years ago mattered,
And it will come when you least expect.
I get a FB mssg from name I don't know from Myrtle Beach.. We do not live there but visit often as we have a perm camper site there. So I ask Mrs K if she recognizes name. Nope. hmmmm. Mrs K comes back a few mins later and says,,wasn't your ex wife's daughter that name? Last name was diff cuz of marriage ,but yeah. I hadn't seen her in 20 years. She wanted to tell me her mom/my ex had passed.We started online texting and then I said,, Im old, dammit,,just call me.
Long story short. We are talking on phone, we are gonna go down and meet her and her family, it touched me so much when she reminded me how many times I stayed up late and just talked to her when she was a teenager, and always had time for her. Her mom passed from drugs,she was a DR. jumper back when you could do it, before the computer systems ,reason for our divorce.
But to hear this grown up woman, tell me, I remember "when you said", just touched me. I cant wait to see her. Her whole family talked to my handicapped daughter on phone last night. I have not seen her since she was 17,,now she 37.
Do the right thing every day,every situation. It make take a while,but someone will eventually say THANKS!!
ty for reading
Koz
spooky3
(34,302 posts)SWBTATTReg
(21,859 posts)just how much things CAN impact others. What a nice story and thanks for sharing w/ us on DU. Take care.
llmart
(15,499 posts)It's also nice for us to remember to tell someone from our past a memory about something nice they did for us that has stayed with us all these years.
So many people in my past did things for me that just made life a little better/easier for me. Some of them are dead now, but I still think of and talk about the thing they did or said to me that made a difference.
I go out of my way to tell people how they impacted my life in ways they probably wouldnt even remember
Mach1miles
(95 posts)❤️❤️❤️
in2herbs
(2,942 posts)pnwmom
(108,925 posts)lillypaddle
(9,580 posts)Good for all of you! Thanks for sharing.
panader0
(25,816 posts)So sorry about the ex, but so cool that you made such an impression on
her daughter.
Your last sentence is so true. Smile at strangers--it helps.
There's a DUer with a sig, something like "be kind, everyone you meet
is fighting a battle inside."
My step-son was three when I married his mom. We had three of our own kids.
When our relationship went south, he and I stayed in touch until she forbade it.
It was several years later, when he was a grown man, that we got back
together. My heart soared. Now I am the granddad of his kids.
Honeycombe8
(37,648 posts)You sound like a great guy. And she sounds like a great gal, to remember and call.
FailureToCommunicate
(13,989 posts)eventually says thank you.
You'll know... in your heart of hearts.
cilla4progress
(24,587 posts)Doing something good for no acclaim or recognition, out of kindness and empathy, is a reward unto itself. This is icing on the cake.
Respect, man!
Phentex
(16,330 posts)I hope you have a great time catching up.
justhanginon
(3,287 posts)All of a sudden I feel better about what was initially a crappy day.
Chalco
(1,301 posts)What is a DR. jumper?
kozar
(2,029 posts)wryter2000
(46,016 posts)I hope you have a great reunion.
MBS
(9,688 posts)You did good and you are so right that the things you do for people matter more than you know. A wonderful local columnist for the Boston Globe, the late Donald Murray, once wrote, you have more friends than you know. That simple statement has reassured me and encouraged me more than once. The corollary is (really the same statement viewed from the other side of the fence)is you do more good for people than you know.
Thanks for making my day.
Karadeniz
(22,270 posts)Someone who'd adopted one of my foster kittens 15 years ago. Kitty had passed and the purpose was to say thanks for fostering someone who'd become a beloved member of their family! Boy, made my day!!!!
kozar
(2,029 posts)Her kids are amazing,, She is amazing,,we talked laughed more than we cried and Mrs K and Tess loved them. And they all returned the love to us all. I felt complete!
Koz