Relatively rare: A movie I would love to see with my family.

[NNadir]

I am no longer the kind of "Must See" movie kind of person I was as a young man. I only go to art theaters for special occasions, but went to see a documentary yesterday, about which I wrote in the Science forum:

They've made a movie about the major league catcher assigned to assassinate Werner Heisenberg.

I must say the "coming attractions" actually made me feel like I did in my 20's and 30's: I have to see the advertised movie. I must see it.

Recently my family experienced the death of my mother-in-law, a good death inasmuch as the family was gathered around her, and she died peacefully. There was, however, some family wounds between my wife's three sisters; I've been around death and dying enough to not be entirely surprised to see this happen.

My first close experience with death was the death of my mother when I was a young man; some of the familial wounds never healed; I have a brother to whom I will never speak again, because the wounds festered for years until he became impossible for us to be in the presence of one another.

In that death, my mothers, and in my father's death some 16 years later, the issue of telling the dying person what the actual situation came up both times and I made different decisions in the two cases, and, as a result, learned that they both sucked, there is no way to do "the right thing" when someone you love is dying.

I am trying to teach my sisters-in-law that, that everyone hurts, and there is no right and wrong in these cases, without all that much success.

In any case, there is a new movie out that touches on this subject of honesty with the terminally ill person with the added wrinkle of involving a culture clash, an Americanized daughter of Chinese immigrants travels to China with her family to say goodbye to her dying grandmother.

I absolutely have to see this movie, but will wait until my son, who is working to improve his Chinese, comes home from his internship.

The movie is "The Farewell" Here is the trailer:

[blm]

1. Thank you

[zanana1]

2. That looks wonderful.

I'd like to see it myself.

[Fla Dem]

3. Yes, I've heard wonderful things about the movie. 5 Star reviews everywhere.

[NNadir]

4. I just got off the phone with my son; the one so interested in Chinese culture and language.

I'm going down next weekend to help him move back to New Jersey before he has to go back to his university.

It turns out that his landlady in Tennessee is Taiwanese/Chinese and she just went through the death of her mother and actually discussed this issue with my son, the Chinese way of death and dying, even before I discussed the movie with him and our plans to go together as a family.

I really can't wait to see it. When I told him about it; he told me he can't wait to see it either.