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donkeypoofed

(2,187 posts)
1. The only "men" who would be offended are other rapists!
Sun Aug 25, 2019, 07:22 PM
Aug 2019

Or "men" who have thoughts of rape. So who cares if they're offended, right? It's not like they're worth anything.

 

wasupaloopa

(4,516 posts)
3. Did you already know not to rape someone before posted this
Sun Aug 25, 2019, 07:45 PM
Aug 2019

or are you like the people you think need it?

 

wasupaloopa

(4,516 posts)
5. You obviously think DUer men are rapists because that is your intended audience.
Sun Aug 25, 2019, 07:55 PM
Aug 2019

So I wondered if you were like the rest of us potential rapists who need you to tell us not to.

dawg day

(7,947 posts)
7. Oh, come on-- it's a thought experiment-- a role reversal.
Sun Aug 25, 2019, 08:08 PM
Aug 2019

I suspect the OP posted it to make the point that most "rape prevention" guidelines are aimed at women-- Don't get drunk, don't walk alone at night, carry a whistle....

This is meant to say, it is not the job of women to prevent rape.
It's was not meant as a serious reminder for DU men, but an ironic point that society (and law enforcement, and schools, and helpful people) constantly put the responsibility for preventing rape on potential victims.

Women have been being told for centuries how to prevent rape by limiting their activities and freedom and ambitions.
And that doesn't work, and sets up any victim who "breaks one of the rules" to be blamed for her own assault. We know that.
This is a way to turn the tables and make people think about how rape is caused by rapists, not by women doing something "wrong" like drinking or walking.

I'm not sure that anyone should take offense at that. It's a thought experiment, and a good one. It made me remember receiving the "Don't do these normal things, women, if you don't want to be raped" type of pamphlet in the orientation materials at three universities and even a couple jobs. Now THAT was offensive.



abqtommy

(14,118 posts)
10. Statistics show us that many men are rapists. Since we know that, then
Sun Aug 25, 2019, 08:48 PM
Aug 2019

I see no harm in being reminded to avoid this destructive behavior, and I'm not offended. By the way, I often forward posts in DU to persons not involved here, or to other websites, so the audience affected by DU posts can be VERY large.

 

wasupaloopa

(4,516 posts)
6. See how stupid this op is? It's used to troll for people
Sun Aug 25, 2019, 08:01 PM
Aug 2019

who can be piled onto.

We all know not to rape someone. So it is not about rape is it?

dawg day

(7,947 posts)
8. No. It's about the very common practice of expecting women to limit their lives to "prevent" rape.
Sun Aug 25, 2019, 08:15 PM
Aug 2019

Why is that "stupid"?
And who are the people who can be piled onto?
Why is it trolling to point this out?

uriel1972

(4,261 posts)
12. "We all know not to rape someone..."
Sun Aug 25, 2019, 11:42 PM
Aug 2019

Well apparently we don't, as rape still happens.
It must be nice to live in a world where that is not a concern whenever you leave the house and at times even within your house.

 

LanternWaste

(37,748 posts)
16. Oddly enough, people (on DU) have complained about rape PSAs in the recent past
Mon Aug 26, 2019, 02:31 PM
Aug 2019

and stated emphatically that they were offended by them. Not offended by the "pile on" you allege, but by the very existence of rape PSAs.

And, as 15-20% of all American women have been raped at least once (Prevalence, Incidence, and
Consequences of Violence Against Women: Findings From the National Violence Against Women Survey by Patricia Tjaden), I don't think "we all know not to rape someone" is a very accurate statement.

Laffy Kat

(16,373 posts)
11. So nice to see it in this context for a change.
Sun Aug 25, 2019, 10:46 PM
Aug 2019

So sick of those "tips" aimed at women so we won't get assaulted.

NotASurfer

(2,146 posts)
15. Looks like a handy wallet card for incels
Mon Aug 26, 2019, 09:50 AM
Aug 2019

I mean, should you run across a group of them protesting about their gratification being a moral imperative superseding any and all rights and liberties a woman might have...

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