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LakeArenal

(28,817 posts)
Thu May 14, 2020, 04:55 PM May 2020

I'm reposting this from my friend LauraPourMeADrink:

It’s important to note:

As today, her dad passed from Covid he did not have when he went in in early May..

Truly my thoughts and condolences.

From K: LauraPourMeADrink.

“My dad is near death with COVID. He is on oxygen & morphine

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And the priest has been there. He has dementia but physically well and then went to hospital for a back problem on May 1st, he tested negative and on May 2, he was sent to a CT nursing home. He tested positive yesterday May 10 and they said death was now imminent.

I am 1500 miles away. CT has a 14 day self quarantine policy. Trying to figure out how to get up there.

My dad is a WW2 vet - South Pacific. He raised us 4 kids. My 94 yo mom has taken care of him but he fell and she couldn't lift him. Tremendous guilt like we all sent him into danger to his death.

Please takeaway, as Democrats, please, that these people in nursing homes are being literally exterminated in a different way. If you ever have any say so to help stop the slaughter by any means...asking for military medical help, state and local funding, an emergency revamp of facilities ASAP, PLEASE keep it in mind.

These great people don't deserve this horrible end. And when you have to hear your own mother cry, a good wife of 72 years, because she can't be there to hold his hand, you will never experience anything more heartbreaking in your entire life.

On edit: thank you so much. There are so many kind and loving people here. If you find yourself in a situation like ours, and you are lucky enough to be able to somehow afford it, store the dining room table, or bed and rent a hospital bed. Medicare may cover a visiting nurse. Don't do what we did. See if there's anyway they can stay home for a while. ❤️ to all”

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I'm reposting this from my friend LauraPourMeADrink: (Original Post) LakeArenal May 2020 OP
💕💖💫🌷🌿 MLAA May 2020 #1
I am so, so sorry for you, your family, and especially your mother and father. This is such tblue37 May 2020 #2
Thank you for letting us know. Solly Mack May 2020 #3
She's pretty frantic. So little we can do. LakeArenal May 2020 #4
I can't imagine it. Not being able to get to your family Solly Mack May 2020 #7
This is so heartbreaking. brer cat May 2020 #5
LauraPourMeADrink... demmiblue May 2020 #6
I'm so sorry. cayugafalls May 2020 #8
Your father will forever be in your heart.... Heartstrings May 2020 #9
Healing vibes on the way! SheltieLover May 2020 #10
I am so sorry Laura, for your loss. I totally understand your pain ms liberty May 2020 #11
I have no words onethatcares May 2020 #12
Sending warmest MFM008 May 2020 #13
That is terrible! BigmanPigman May 2020 #14
LauraPourMeADrink... Johnny Noshoes May 2020 #15
I mourn for all those in nursing homes, senior facilities and hospitals Fla Dem May 2020 #16
Same. Initech May 2020 #18
so so sad rurallib May 2020 #17
Deepest condolences to LPMAD, mother, and family. This is absolutely heartbreaking. Hekate May 2020 #19
I am so sorry. warmfeet May 2020 #20
I'm so very sorry, Laura. Alliepoo May 2020 #21
I am sorry for this loss of this poster's father Gothmog May 2020 #22
This is so tragic. CaptYossarian May 2020 #23
My deepest condolences for you loss Soph0571 May 2020 #24
My heart breaks for Laura and her parents. My deepest sympathies. stuffmatters May 2020 #25
I know he had a long, productive life, but his life was cut short due to govt incompetence and that' Karadeniz May 2020 #26
This is tragic lunatica May 2020 #27
That's so sad. The Velveteen Ocelot May 2020 #28
... UTUSN May 2020 #29
A Terrible Shame The Magistrate May 2020 #30
My heart breaks for Laura and her family Niagara May 2020 #31

tblue37

(65,336 posts)
2. I am so, so sorry for you, your family, and especially your mother and father. This is such
Thu May 14, 2020, 05:01 PM
May 2020

a horrifying tragedy.

Solly Mack

(90,762 posts)
7. I can't imagine it. Not being able to get to your family
Thu May 14, 2020, 05:21 PM
May 2020

at such a time. Unthinkable, really.

I know she's strong and I do hope for her to hold on to that strength in the hours and days ahead. She does have people thinking of her.

Thank you, again LA.

Heartstrings

(7,349 posts)
9. Your father will forever be in your heart....
Thu May 14, 2020, 05:27 PM
May 2020

These are trying times, wish there was more I could than just send a virtual hug....

ms liberty

(8,573 posts)
11. I am so sorry Laura, for your loss. I totally understand your pain
Thu May 14, 2020, 05:38 PM
May 2020

My FiL died on Apr. 4th of Covid. He was also in a nursing home, with dementia and cancer. He was death number two or three in NC, not sure which.

BigmanPigman

(51,585 posts)
14. That is terrible!
Thu May 14, 2020, 05:57 PM
May 2020

And also good advice for others in a similar situation in the coming months. I have thought of it myself...what if my mom needs to go into a hospital, then a care facility, would I be putting her in danger or helping her?

I am so sad this happened to you, your mom and family, especially when it wouldn't have happened during "normal times".

Fla Dem

(23,654 posts)
16. I mourn for all those in nursing homes, senior facilities and hospitals
Thu May 14, 2020, 06:10 PM
May 2020

who cannot have the comfort of having loving family with them as they pass from this life. And their families, that they cannot be at the bedside of their loved ones to tell them one last time how much they have been and are loved and to go in peace.

This is a terribly, terribly sad time.

Much sympathy to LauraPourMeADrink.

warmfeet

(3,321 posts)
20. I am so sorry.
Thu May 14, 2020, 06:28 PM
May 2020

It is killing so many.

My mother-in-law tested positive with Covid-19 yesterday. She is 82, has dementia, and is in a nursing home.

I am sorry for everyone.

Karadeniz

(22,511 posts)
26. I know he had a long, productive life, but his life was cut short due to govt incompetence and that'
Thu May 14, 2020, 07:24 PM
May 2020

Not right. We're so gutted that your family has had to experience this loss in this way. Sincerest condolences.

The Velveteen Ocelot

(115,681 posts)
28. That's so sad.
Thu May 14, 2020, 08:12 PM
May 2020

My deepest condolences to LauraPMAD. I just can't imagine how difficult and painful it must be - it's tough enough in normal circumstances to manage the situation of an elderly parent in a care home, but this would be absolutely the worst. I'm so sorry.



Niagara

(7,602 posts)
31. My heart breaks for Laura and her family
Fri May 15, 2020, 01:48 PM
May 2020

Sending you and your family the strength to get through this difficult time. I'm sorry for your loss.





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