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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsS#!T - my husband found one of his friends dead tonight
We've known him for over forty years and he is one of the guys my husband has played D&D with. The friend's daughter calls him "Uncle 'Ziggy'".
We should have known something was wrong since we haven't heard for him for a couple of days. The man has had multiple by-passes, stents, heart attacks, and strokes, and was a case study at one of the medical schools because of an injury to his heart as a child. He'ss been having repeated problems with his lungs filling with fluid and stays in the hospital to get his lungs clear, was tested for Covid but always negative. Last time they checked his heart they told him 25% of it was dead and it was working at 40% of capacity.
We knew it was not going to be very long, but this is horrible.
For years my husband has made sure he made it to medical appointments, that he got his medicine, got decent nutrition, and that his bills were paid. All his friends kicked in for the last - under $1000 on Social Security Disability did not give him much to live on.
My husband had to call 911, deal with the police who had to make sure there was no foul play (he was sitting in his recliner with his oxygen on), contact his daughter, help her set up transporting his body to the crematorium, and so forth. On Monday my husband will contact his landlord and make arrangements to pay for the apartment for a month so the family will have time to get all his stuff out.
Shit. He was only 63.
MaryMagdaline
(6,849 posts)sfstaxprep
(9,998 posts)His help probably extended his friend's life.
I give you and your husband my condolences. It must have been very traumatizing to find him deceased.
qazplm135
(7,447 posts)My condolences.
csziggy
(34,119 posts)He's had serious health problems since he was in a car accident as a child that moved his heart out of place. The in another accident his pancreas was destroyed. In the last ten years his health has really declined, then when his wife died - in front of him and my husband - he stopped eating anything healthy unless my husband or some friend made him do it.
We were hoping he'd make it past the end of the year. Damn.
Delmette2.0
(4,141 posts)I truely know what it's like to find a loved one gone sooner than expected. I never know what to tell someone other than I've been there and know the pain your husband is going through. The man knew his friends loved him that is the best gift they could give.
csziggy
(34,119 posts)And he was not the first to go. Since most of the group have no children, and some no family at all that they are close to, they try to take care of each other.
Tomorrow my husband is going into town to help his daughter go through his stuff. It's not going to be easy for either of them.
Tumbulu
(6,267 posts)What a good friend your husband has been.
Hugs to you both.
csziggy
(34,119 posts)Good thing or he wouldn't put up with me.
Thank you.
Kali
(54,990 posts)sorry for you, your husband and Uncle Ziggy's family.
csziggy
(34,119 posts)Your husband is a saint...
csziggy
(34,119 posts)Lady Freedom Returns
(14,120 posts)GoneOffShore
(17,308 posts)KT2000
(20,544 posts)traumatic. That is so young too. Peace to you and your husband.
Aussie105
(5,211 posts)without COVID and Trump.
At least with those two, we can do something about reducing the sadness and stress they bring.
I know how it feels. Even worse if it's not expected. Lost my son to an overdose of opiods. Didn't even make it to half of the 63 years.
MustLoveBeagles
(11,563 posts)calimary
(80,693 posts)This is some kinda year, gotta say.
Feels like weve all been stepped on by some very heavy feet that wont move off or away.
Virtual
MFM008
(19,775 posts)to have friends like your family.
SheltieLover
(57,073 posts)So sorry to hear of your loss, csziggy.
Hugs to you and your hubby. That must have been awful for him to find your friend!
Healing vibes to you both. 💗💗💗
CountMyVote4Reality
(209 posts)Blessings for your friend. He got out early.
sinkingfeeling
(51,274 posts)Phentex
(16,330 posts)My heart goes out to you both.