Fri Jan 14, 2022, 11:39 AM
Wicked Blue (5,078 posts)
My brother died this morningLast edited Fri Jan 14, 2022, 01:10 PM - Edit history (1)
My brother passed away suddenly this morning in his apartment in NJ. He was evidently having trouble breathing and 911 was called. Unfortunately they were unable to revive him. He had sleep apnea and was on a cpap machine. He was addicted to cigarette smoking.
I was notified by the police who called me from his cell phone. I knew he was in poor health, but this was still a huge shock to me. He lived more than 200 miles from me and making arrangements is going to be complicated. He was 67 years old, 2 1/2 years younger than I am. He was a sales consultant for a moving company in NJ. He loved motorcycles and had a tremendous sense of humor. with a joke for any occasion. He spoke Estonian and German. He attended Estonian Saturday school in NJ as a child, and went to an Estonian children's summer camp in Long Island, NY. Our parents died many years ago, and he was my only sibling. Other than my husband, kids and grandkids, our only other close relative is a cousin in Estonia and her kids. Our parents were immigrants from Estonia by way of a displaced persons refugee camp in Germany. He had a difficult life in many ways, including substance abuse. I am about to break down at this point, but wanted people to know.
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Wicked Blue | Jan 2022 | OP |
SheltieLover | Jan 2022 | #1 | |
sl8 | Jan 2022 | #2 | |
Tetrachloride | Jan 2022 | #3 | |
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vlyons | Jan 2022 | #25 | |
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OAITW r.2.0 | Jan 2022 | #27 | |
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pnwmom | Jan 2022 | #30 | |
LaMouffette | Jan 2022 | #31 | |
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orleans | Jan 2022 | #33 | |
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momta | Jan 2022 | #60 | |
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 11:40 AM
SheltieLover (54,091 posts)
1. Deepest condolences
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 11:40 AM
sl8 (11,538 posts)
2. I'm so sorry for your loss. n/t
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 11:41 AM
Tetrachloride (5,021 posts)
3. My condolences from me and my adopted family
Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 11:41 AM
drray23 (6,936 posts)
4. My condolences.
So sorry about this.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 11:41 AM
JohnSJ (86,933 posts)
5. So Sorry for your loss
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 11:42 AM
onecaliberal (28,749 posts)
6. I'm so sorry...
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 11:44 AM
Duncanpup (10,876 posts)
8. Condolences
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 11:44 AM
DuaneT (45 posts)
9. Sorry for your loss.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 11:44 AM
brer cat (20,367 posts)
10. I'm very sorry for your loss.
A sudden loss is difficult to absorb. I hope you have many memories to comfort you.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 11:46 AM
Mme. Defarge (7,711 posts)
11. May his memory be eternal.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 11:48 AM
Phoenix61 (14,890 posts)
12. I'm so sorry. nt
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 11:48 AM
mercuryblues (12,950 posts)
13. I am sorry for your loss
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 11:50 AM
sdfernando (4,541 posts)
14. I am so very sorry Wicked Blue
I wish there was more I could do but know you and your brother are in my thoughts today. In time the pain will ease and only the good memories and good times will remain and a smile will replace the sadness.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 11:52 AM
2naSalit (67,748 posts)
15. So sorry to hear.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 11:52 AM
Glorfindel (9,017 posts)
16. Very sorry for your loss
Deepest condolences.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 11:53 AM
pandr32 (9,659 posts)
17. I am so sorry.
What a painful loss.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 11:54 AM
Picaro (1,241 posts)
18. So sorry for your loss
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 11:54 AM
highplainsdem (42,137 posts)
19. I'm so sorry. Losing a close relative so suddenly is shattering.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 11:55 AM
RustyWheels (103 posts)
20. So sorry for your loss
My sincerest condolences.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 11:56 AM
LoisB (4,014 posts)
21. I am so sorry for the loss of your brother. May he rest in peace. May you have comfort and
strength.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 11:57 AM
Dr. Shepper (2,932 posts)
23. So very sorry for such a great loss
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 11:58 AM
niyad (96,804 posts)
24. Deepest condolences. May his spirit be at peace.
Your DU family is here for you.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 11:58 AM
vlyons (9,387 posts)
25. I understand. My brother's death was a big shock to me also
You will get through your grief. Your husband and children are there to comfort you. Your brother's suffering from ill health and other obstacles are over. May he rest in peace.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 11:59 AM
Gore1FL (20,447 posts)
26. I am sorry for your loss. nt
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 12:00 PM
OAITW r.2.0 (17,883 posts)
27. I can't imagine losing a sib.
heartfelt condolences.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 12:00 PM
wryter2000 (44,743 posts)
28. I'm so sorry
Hang in there. DU is with you.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 12:01 PM
pazzyanne (5,871 posts)
29. So sad to hear this, Wicked Blue.
It is very hard when a loved one passes away unexpectedly. Prayers in the wind. Take care of you, as you are handling your brother's arrangements.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 12:02 PM
pnwmom (107,337 posts)
30. I am so very sorry. I understand what a great loss it is. Healing thoughts! nt
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 12:04 PM
LaMouffette (1,636 posts)
31. I'm so sorry, Wicked Blue! Please take care of yourself during this awful time, and if you need to
break down, break down—for a while. Give yourself all the time you need to mourn the loss of your brother.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 12:05 PM
FakeNoose (27,669 posts)
32. Rest In Peace dear brother
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 12:08 PM
orleans (31,901 posts)
33. that's very sad. i'm sorry for your loss
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 12:12 PM
jmbar2 (3,977 posts)
34. Walk in peace brother
Losing a sibling is always hard. My heart goes out to you. Be kind to yourself and let go of regrets. You did the best you could. I'm sure he passed with good memories of you.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 12:12 PM
AngryOldDem (13,937 posts)
35. My condolences.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 12:15 PM
LastLiberal in PalmSprings (12,239 posts)
36. I am so sorry for your loss.
Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 12:19 PM
Ocelot II (105,676 posts)
37. I'm so sorry!
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 12:20 PM
markie (22,172 posts)
38. ((((...))))
it's ok not to be ok right now!
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 12:26 PM
NNadir (30,763 posts)
39. I'm very sorry to hear this.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 12:28 PM
TygrBright (20,049 posts)
40. So sorry, Wicked Blue. Holding you in my heart. n/t
Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 12:30 PM
livetohike (21,301 posts)
41. My sympathy on your loss of your brother. May every
good memory comfort you. Wishing you strength as you go through this process and sending hugs
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 12:33 PM
GoneOffShore (16,844 posts)
42. Thoughts are with you. So sorry to hear this.
Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 12:33 PM
irisblue (30,147 posts)
43. I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine your pain..
Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 12:36 PM
UpInArms (50,534 posts)
44. I am so sorry
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 12:36 PM
Lonestarblue (7,142 posts)
45. Losing family members hurts so much, and I'm sorry for the loss of your brother.
Hang in there. You have much empathy here on DU.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 12:37 PM
liberalmuse (18,584 posts)
46. I'm so incredibly sorry.
What a way to start the day. I got the call about my brother and had to break the news to everyone else. I felt the world turning upside down as I was getting the news. Please take care of yourself and let yourself fully grieve. I didn't let myself deal with the full impact at the time and can't do it even decades later.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 12:41 PM
Sucha NastyWoman (2,516 posts)
47. We are all very sorry for your loss
Hope for your healing from the pain.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 12:46 PM
CJW (120 posts)
48. So very sorry
So sorry.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 12:51 PM
SKKY (10,970 posts)
49. From my family to yours, our most sincere condolences Wicked Blue. I know losing a sibling...
...hits different.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 12:52 PM
minstrel76 (79 posts)
50. So sorry for your loss
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 12:52 PM
Hekate (81,733 posts)
51. I'm so sorry for your loss.Losing a sibling is very hard; they share memories w you that no one else
…does, although from a different point of view. They were there with you.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 12:54 PM
dlk (10,069 posts)
52. I'm very sorry for your loss
We’re here for you
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 12:56 PM
Lady Freedom Returns (13,589 posts)
53. Sorry for your loss.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 01:00 PM
whathehell (27,691 posts)
54. I'm so sorry for your loss..
Deepest condolences to you.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 01:02 PM
c-rational (2,316 posts)
55. So sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences.
Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 01:04 PM
KPN (14,535 posts)
56. I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your brother. I wish there words that could heal the pain
and grief you must be feeling. Peace be with you.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 01:06 PM
Grumpy Old Guy (2,032 posts)
57. I am sorry for your loss. ❤
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 01:10 PM
RFCalifornia (440 posts)
58. I am so sorry
Hugs
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 01:11 PM
CentralMass (14,514 posts)
59. My condolences on your loss.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 01:12 PM
momta (3,949 posts)
60. I'm so sorry, Wicked Blue.
I'm very close with my three brothers. I'm the only girl. ("Girl". I'm 58.) We're all getting on in age, but so far we are all in decent health. Still, our father died suddenly of a heart attack without much warning, so I worry.
Take care of yourself. And thanks for telling us about your brother. Sounds like a good guy. ![]() |
Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 01:13 PM
virgdem (1,941 posts)
61. So very sorry for your loss. Peace to youl.
Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 01:16 PM
LetMyPeopleVote (124,371 posts)
62. I am sorry for your loss
Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 01:19 PM
zbird (1,590 posts)
63. I am so sorry for your loss.
May your brother rest in peace. Sending hugs and love your way.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 01:20 PM
area51 (10,780 posts)
64. I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 01:21 PM
flying_wahini (4,789 posts)
65. So sorry for your loss.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 01:28 PM
barbtries (27,084 posts)
66. I'm so sorry.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 01:29 PM
sinkingfeeling (47,182 posts)
67. I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 01:29 PM
cate94 (2,363 posts)
68. I'm so very sorry.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 01:45 PM
denvine (769 posts)
69. So sorry for your loss!
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 01:50 PM
lunatica (53,410 posts)
70. Hugs to you
Losing a sibling is extremely hard and Carries it’s own special pain and shock. My brother died about 50 years ago and I still mourn for him. Sometimes it feels like it just happened recently. I’m sorry for your loss.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 01:53 PM
tavernier (11,179 posts)
71. So sorry Blue.
I am first-generation from Latvia and those years and experiences made it difficult for many of the people who lived through those times and their sons and daughters. Before I had my kids and their extended families, I used to laugh and say that my family could hold a reunion in a telephone booth because after we immigrated here so many of our folks were left back there. My heart goes out to you for the loss of your brother.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 01:56 PM
Karadeniz (18,324 posts)
72. This news saddens me... We are all a piece of the continent. Deepest sympathy....
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 01:59 PM
applegrove (111,112 posts)
73. Vibes to you all.
Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 02:07 PM
stage left (2,531 posts)
74. I am so very sorry
for your loss.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 02:11 PM
Faux pas (13,378 posts)
75. My condolences
to all who knew and loved him.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 02:22 PM
Lucy (240 posts)
76. So sorry for your loss ❤️
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 02:25 PM
ahlnord (82 posts)
77. my condolences
I am truly sorry for the loss of your brother. Thank you for sharing your grief here, as well as some background on your family. I admire the people of Estonia and am so grateful to them for their courage and support in helping expose the Russian interference in our election. In fact, I am so grateful and impressed that I booked a trip in 2020, with the goal of experiencing Estonia and thanking Estonians personally. Of course, that trip had to be cancelled due to the pandemic. And so I still have not hugged an Estonian! In reading of your sorrow here, I wish I could hug you in offering my condolences. Peace be with you.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 02:26 PM
SimplyHadEnough (32 posts)
78. My deepest condolences
For the loss of your Brother
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 02:27 PM
GentryDixon (2,902 posts)
79. I'm very sorry for your loss. 😥💔
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 02:30 PM
Maeve (41,395 posts)
80. And yet you are thinking of other people
Thank you for informing your friends. Now take time for yourself.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 02:32 PM
MLAA (13,817 posts)
81. Sending you hugs, Wicked Blue
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 02:35 PM
gademocrat7 (9,808 posts)
82. Condolences on the loss of your brother.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 02:39 PM
progressoid (47,692 posts)
83. So sorry for you loss.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 02:40 PM
mzmolly (50,187 posts)
84. I'm very sorry for your
loss.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 02:50 PM
IbogaProject (1,507 posts)
85. Sorry for you loss
A good friend of ours was half Estonia half Swedish, came after the war w parents. He died in 2020. He as active at the Estonia House east 34th St NYC.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 02:52 PM
NurseJackie (42,862 posts)
86. That's awful.
So sorry to hear the sad news.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 02:56 PM
IzzaNuDay (191 posts)
87. My condolences
Keep the good memories close as you mourn his passing.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 03:07 PM
LymphocyteLover (3,959 posts)
88. So very sorry
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 03:39 PM
mahina (16,000 posts)
89. Thinking of you, Wicked Blue.
Sending you hope for comfort and peace.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 03:48 PM
Maraya1969 (20,657 posts)
90. I am so sorry for your loss. I now know what my mom was referring to when
she said one of the worst things about getting older was everyone dying on you. I am in a very similar situation as you but I don't have a husband/wife and/or kids. It feels very weird.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 03:55 PM
murielm99 (29,495 posts)
91. I am so sorry.
It is tough to lose a brother.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 03:56 PM
Nevilledog (44,661 posts)
92. ...
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 04:00 PM
sheshe2 (77,650 posts)
93. I am so sorry for your loss, Wicked Blue.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 04:24 PM
CaptainTruth (5,391 posts)
94. I am so sorry... you are in my thoughts.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 04:31 PM
cayugafalls (5,281 posts)
95. There are no words at the loss of a loved one, me deepest condolences.
You will be in my thoughts.
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Response to Wicked Blue (Original post)
Fri Jan 14, 2022, 05:05 PM
GeoWilliam750 (2,415 posts)
96. Deepest sympathy Wicked Blue
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 05:14 PM
femmedem (7,759 posts)
97. I'm so very sorry, Wicked Blue.
Such a young guy to die suddenly, and he sounds like he was wonderful brother.
I think a loss like that is even harder now when we are all already so isolated. ![]() |
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 05:23 PM
Jim__ (13,653 posts)
98. So sorry for your loss.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 05:29 PM
OMGWTF (3,125 posts)
99. I am so very sorry for your loss.
My niece moved from Seattle to Tallinn three years ago and I don't think she's ever coming back. Hoping to visit her in 2023.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 05:30 PM
Sogo (4,101 posts)
100. So sorry for your loss....
Your love for your brother comes through in your writing.
Wishing you peace. ![]() |
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 05:39 PM
Not Heidi (608 posts)
101. Wicked Blue, I am so very sorry. n/t
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 06:05 PM
Solly Mack (88,727 posts)
102. I am so sorry.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 06:29 PM
Evolve Dammit (13,484 posts)
103. I am so sorry for your loss and all the pain you are experiencing. I come from immigrants as well,
and lost my brother a year ago. Brother-in-law (also from immigrant family) three months ago. There will always be a hole there. Please take care of yourself and reach out and hug those close to you. I know that sounds like advice, but what else do we have at a time like this? We care here and will have you in our thoughts.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 06:31 PM
TNNurse (6,336 posts)
104. Regardless of the circumstances, this is a tough loss.
We (DU) are keeping you in our thoughts.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 06:37 PM
Scrivener7 (46,432 posts)
105. OH, my dear, I am sorry.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 07:08 PM
58Sunliner (4,030 posts)
106. I'm so sorry.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 07:17 PM
Skittles (147,773 posts)
107. very sorry, Wicked Blue
I have lost two brothers, one just last May, and I know the feeling
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 07:34 PM
mia (8,171 posts)
108. I'm so sorry, Wicked Blue.
Love and peace to you as you navigate through this sad and difficult time.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 08:38 PM
hamsterjill (14,747 posts)
109. I am so sorry.
Sibling loss is hard, and losing the last family member is traumatic. Please take some tome to take care of yourself.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 09:04 PM
liberalla (8,162 posts)
110. I'm very sorry for your brother's unexpected passing. The shock and loss must be overwhelming.
Death and grieving is a difficult subject for me. I don't have comforting or wise words to offer, other than my sincere condolences.
We do however, have a Bereavement Group that you may find helpful. It has helped me at times. |
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 10:15 PM
TruthAlwaysWins (30 posts)
111. So very sorry for your loss!
I can’t imagine how difficult this is for you. Know that many of your friends on DU are thinking of you and wishing strength and peace for you at this time.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 10:35 PM
orangecrush (16,066 posts)
112. Very sorry for your loss
Deepest sympathy. ![]() |
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 10:46 PM
dem4decades (10,113 posts)
113. That's terrible, I'm so sorry.
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 10:48 PM
Demovictory9 (29,762 posts)
114. I am sorry
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Fri Jan 14, 2022, 11:26 PM
MustLoveBeagles (10,695 posts)
115. My condolences to you
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Sat Jan 15, 2022, 12:56 AM
Laffy Kat (15,311 posts)
116. Oh, no. I am so sorry, Wicked Blue.
I wish you strength and comfort in the days ahead.
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Sat Jan 15, 2022, 03:16 AM
calimary (73,947 posts)
117. All my sympathy, Wicked Blue.
A heavy load when shared is at least a little easier to bear.
I’m so sorry for your loss. But I want to share that kind reminder that Skittles posted here long ago, that I’ve never forgotten. “Someone’s always here.” It’s true, and hopefully it can be at least a small comfort to you during this time. You won’t be mourning alone. ![]() ![]() |
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Sat Jan 15, 2022, 03:20 AM
CarmanJohn (22 posts)
118. So Very Sorry For Your Loss.
I truly understand the addiction to smoking. Been smoking cigarettes for over 43 years now. There is No doubt in my mind that one day it will Kill me.
It's All about the desire to WANT to stop. Again my Most Sincere Condolences on Your Loss. |
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Sat Jan 15, 2022, 03:36 AM
electric_blue68 (10,355 posts)
119. Oh, that's terrible! My deepest condolences. :(
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Sat Jan 15, 2022, 03:58 AM
Granny M (1,395 posts)
120. Deepest sympathies to you, Wicked Blue. Nt
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Sat Jan 15, 2022, 05:12 AM
LuckyCharms (14,032 posts)
121. I'm very sorry.
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Sat Jan 15, 2022, 06:16 AM
happy feet (709 posts)
122. I'm so sorry for your loss
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Sat Jan 15, 2022, 06:55 AM
Backseat Driver (3,333 posts)
123. My deepest sympathies, Wicked Blue. /eom
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Sat Jan 15, 2022, 07:14 AM
samplegirl (9,893 posts)
124. So so sorry
May he have eternal peace.
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Sat Jan 15, 2022, 07:47 AM
olegramps (8,200 posts)
125. Being a former smoker, I took it up when it was glamorous and widely acceptable.
It is a terrible addiction and difficult to get rid of. I am thankful that I was finally able to stop, but it was very difficult. I didn't escape without getting COPD that is a least controllable at the point. I add my condolences for your loss. When I see kids smoking I would like to be able to convince them to stop but know it probably would be considered an unwelcome interference.
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Sat Jan 15, 2022, 08:24 AM
luvallpeeps (907 posts)
126. 💔
So sorry for your loss. 🙏🏼😔
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Sat Jan 15, 2022, 08:27 AM
Yorkie Mom (16,405 posts)
127. I'm so sorry for you loss.
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Sat Jan 15, 2022, 09:44 AM
paleotn (15,324 posts)
128. Condolences. I'm so sorry.
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Sat Jan 15, 2022, 10:03 AM
JPPaverage (434 posts)
129. Very sorry for your loss
Sounds like your brother was a fine man. May he rest in Power.
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Sat Jan 15, 2022, 10:48 AM
COL Mustard (4,533 posts)
130. So sorry for your loss
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Sat Jan 15, 2022, 10:53 AM
peggysue2 (9,585 posts)
131. So sorry and completely empathize on the loss
Losing your only sibling is devastating and can make you feel marooned as the last surviving member of your birth family.
My only sibling (sister) died 2 years ago this month, a year younger than your brother. I too lived a good distance away. However, my sister had a loving partner who made all the funeral arrangements, followed her last wishes to the letter, a viewing and memorial in Florida and then an additional memorial and burial in NJ. My sister Kathy died right before Covid became a global scourge. It still hurts, haunts in ways I did not anticipate. The passage of time helps but, of course, that means little in the moment of loss. Lean on your husband and kids for support; their love will boost you and provide strength. It's hard. It just is. ![]() ![]() |