Fri Nov 25, 2022, 07:10 AM
Duncanpup (10,881 posts)
I received a call about Guitar lessons, tuition is free here at Dunc pup school of music.
A ramble because I been up since 01:00 boys are asleep.
So I get this call on Tuesday I did not recognize the name yet I answered because of the loss of my wife Monday night thinking it may have been a friend of my wife’s. Last Friday I went into jam with our one son’s guitar class and this young kiddo who is in ninth grade was in attendance. Let me back up so the school district had two in service days this past Monday and Tuesday then thanksgiving break. So the schools music teacher called me Monday afternoon asking if she could give out my number for guitar lessons she knew my wife was in hospital I said sure. In talking to this mom on Tuesday and she explained besides the school guitar class she would like to give her daughter guitar lessons. And after we talked here she graduated with our oldest daughter I thought cool young lady. This mom told me guitar center I think she said charges like $50 for a single lesson and another private instructor was around $40 a lesson.In thinking I get it as parents we want to do for our children you know especially this mom being the only income. She then asked what I charged I said free , and I’m gonna be off for maybe a month or two so yes I can commit. I just ask that you are present doing the lessons and we can do weeknights after school, then later it will be Saturday or maybe Sunday once I go back to work. I then said I’ll be in touch next week yet I woke up Wednesday and I thought why sit around and grieve so I text the mother and she brought her daughter out. And in meeting with them I smiled because the young mom was well I can pay for study materials and the guitar lesson books. I told her yea we don’t have any of that we are unaccredited , I had 18 who also is on staff here and my guitar slinger print off different scale patterns and the circle of fifths because Dad doesn’t know how to print from laptop to show and send home with kiddo. Also I brought up different sites online besides you tube I showed them a guitar site I belong to you always learn exploring the fretboard. This young lady is using a squire strat they bought on Craigslist $75 used I sent her home with a Mexican strat I upgraded for her to use. Her Stratocaster needs a setup and new tuners and I’m gonna replace the nut, also I may just swap out pots and cap and yea probably the pickups she’s been playing for awhile mostly I think you tube as lessons so I’m comfortable in upgrading her guitar. I have couple sets of wound pickups single coils and humbuckers a friend of mine winds. I have a set of his 65 grey bottoms in a Greco se 700 strat of mine and in the mexi I sent home with the kiddo i have a set of his what he calls his 69’s the 69’s both sets use Alnico 5 magnets 69’s take pedals really well and clean they are sweet in tone. I joke with my friend I said sign inside pick guard and date it and name your series of pickups. Like Abigail from fender I said if you make it these guitars will be priceless because of your pickups. So after our lesson Wednesday kiddo asked when we can we do the next lesson how about Saturday I said young lady so 18 and I will be ready for kiddo. Our son said dad that’s the most I ever heard her speak as she is so quiet in school guitar class.
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Duncanpup | Nov 25 | OP |
Hugh_Lebowski | Nov 25 | #1 | |
Duncanpup | Nov 25 | #3 | |
Biophilic | Nov 25 | #2 | |
Lochloosa | Nov 25 | #4 | |
2naSalit | Nov 25 | #5 | |
badhair77 | Nov 25 | #6 | |
Botany | Nov 25 | #7 | |
Duncanpup | Nov 25 | #10 | |
Botany | Nov 25 | #13 | |
Ligyron | Nov 25 | #20 | |
Locrian | Nov 25 | #23 | |
hlthe2b | Nov 25 | #8 | |
judesedit | Nov 25 | #9 | |
rubbersole | Nov 25 | #11 | |
Bernardo de La Paz | Nov 25 | #12 | |
AllyCat | Nov 25 | #14 | |
Atticus | Nov 25 | #15 | |
cate94 | Nov 25 | #16 | |
The Jungle 1 | Nov 25 | #17 | |
MLAA | Nov 25 | #18 | |
barbtries | Nov 25 | #19 | |
True Blue American | Nov 25 | #21 | |
marble falls | Nov 25 | #22 | |
niyad | Nov 25 | #24 | |
ProfessorGAC | Nov 25 | #25 | |
redwitch | Nov 25 | #26 | |
70sEraVet | Nov 25 | #27 | |
highplainsdem | Nov 25 | #28 | |
tavernier | Nov 25 | #29 | |
True Blue American | Nov 25 | #31 | |
avebury | Nov 25 | #30 | |
CaptainTruth | Nov 25 | #32 | |
elleng | Nov 25 | #33 | |
Hekate | Nov 25 | #34 | |
JudyM | Nov 25 | #35 | |
fierywoman | Nov 25 | #36 | |
Duncanpup | Nov 25 | #39 | |
CentralMass | Nov 25 | #37 | |
grantcart | Nov 25 | #38 | |
malaise | Nov 25 | #40 | |
ms.pamela | Nov 25 | #41 | |
SheltieLover | Nov 25 | #42 |
Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 07:21 AM
Hugh_Lebowski (30,354 posts)
1. Good to see you man, and that's very cool of you to do all that for the young lady
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Response to Hugh_Lebowski (Reply #1)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 07:27 AM
Duncanpup (10,881 posts)
3. Thanks Hugh
She’s a nice young lady I showed her Jennifer turner one of my many favorite guitarist.
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Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 07:27 AM
Biophilic (2,480 posts)
2. Duncanpup you are one cool dude and an extraordinary human.
Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 07:33 AM
Lochloosa (15,404 posts)
4. Duncanpup, I was so sorry to hear about Mrs. Duncanpup.
Hang in there man. You know you are loved here.
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Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 07:35 AM
2naSalit (67,775 posts)
5. Because...
You're a great dad, especially for teenagers.
That mom came to the right person for what her daughter needs, and you are a great dad for seeing it and just doing it. ![]() You are wise to keep on keepin' on, it will help to heal some of the pain. It's also a good therapy for the boys to have someone new to bring into the guitar fold. I foresee many fun filled jams coming this winter. Good on you friend! ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 07:37 AM
badhair77 (3,621 posts)
6. Duncanpup, the shared kindness in your "ramble"
brought tears. It sounds like this project will benefit everyone involved. It’s wonderful to see good hearts in action, which always brings good things.
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Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 07:43 AM
Botany (66,823 posts)
7. You will have your student playing like this in no time
&t=2s
One foot in front of the next and keep going. Sorry to read your sad news. BTW Dogs are great listeners. |
Response to Botany (Reply #7)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 07:50 AM
Duncanpup (10,881 posts)
10. Ageeed why yesterday my son and I
Well I was relearning Sultans of swings I sat down with our son and he was playing it so I took refresher course.
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Response to Duncanpup (Reply #10)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 08:08 AM
Botany (66,823 posts)
13. To me this is one of the best albums ever. Every cut is a winner.
sorry I didn't know that there were so many ads. |
Response to Botany (Reply #7)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 08:55 AM
Ligyron (6,924 posts)
20. If I ever learned to play the guitar, I'd want to do so finger style.
Response to Botany (Reply #7)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 09:01 AM
Locrian (4,485 posts)
23. or playing like this :)
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Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 07:45 AM
hlthe2b (95,545 posts)
8. Wonderful
Your kindness towards others during this difficult time warms my heart and I hope it eases your pain to be working with this young person to teach something you love as well.
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Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 07:46 AM
judesedit (3,402 posts)
9. So glad you have your music. It is soothing to the soul.
And you are making someone happy at the same time. That is good for the heart.
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Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 07:55 AM
rubbersole (3,373 posts)
11. You are a good man, Mr. Duncanpup.
So sorry for your loss. Karma is real. This young lady might praise your mentorship from the stage of a packed Carnegie Hall one day. Or she might give free guitar lessons in her home 50 years from now. On the Strat you just gave her. Thank you for posting.
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Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 08:02 AM
Bernardo de La Paz (44,182 posts)
12. You are a generous man and I'm glad you are moving forward after your deep loss. . . nt
Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 08:28 AM
AllyCat (13,883 posts)
14. Thank you for being a great human and teacher.
Been thinking about you.
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Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 08:43 AM
Atticus (14,698 posts)
15. This post is just one of the reasons I admire you and I thought I should let you know. nt
Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 08:45 AM
cate94 (2,363 posts)
16. I don't know how you do it
But I think you are awesome.
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Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 08:47 AM
The Jungle 1 (3,504 posts)
17. You teach her something she will have forever.
I agree money is inappropriate. The satisfaction is real and you will also have that forever.
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Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 08:49 AM
MLAA (13,826 posts)
18. Man oh man I bet the mom couldn't believe that the lesson would be free, what a relief to her!
How cool that 18 noticed the change in your student that she felt comfortable speaking up. You have a good, observant assistant manager in 18. Hope all the pups are okay and listened in and xtra hug to big paws.
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Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 08:50 AM
barbtries (27,087 posts)
19. i just want to hug you Duncanpup
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Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 08:56 AM
True Blue American (16,567 posts)
21. What you are doing is the best thing you can do. Turning bad into good.
I have found during my grieving times that putting myself out there, helping the young to learn, working for others helps you as much as it helps them.
Bless you, Duncan for such a great thing. It will repay you and help you in more ways than we can understand. Besides music soothes the soul. |
Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 09:00 AM
marble falls (47,684 posts)
22. Bubba, you are the rock of rock. Rock on!
Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 09:10 AM
niyad (96,834 posts)
24. Hugggggs to you and yours, my dear Duncanpup. I was so sorry to hear the
shocking news. Please know that yiur whole DU family is here for you.
Seeing your post first thing this morning gladdened my heart. What a loving and generous person you are. Thank you for being you. |
Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 09:14 AM
ProfessorGAC (56,805 posts)
25. I Started Teaching Again, Too
I'm not doing it free, but only 10 bucks for a half-hour.
I'm only taking intermediate students though. I don't want to do beginners. Good for you that you're doing it gratis! |
Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 09:15 AM
redwitch (14,755 posts)
26. How kind of you for offering free lessons!
The world needs more music.
So much love coming at you and you manage to send it back out to others in spite of your grief. I love your family and you! |
Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 09:19 AM
70sEraVet (2,234 posts)
27. In our household, it has always been my wife who has had the natural generous spirit.
I have merely learned to go along and to support her.
If she leaves this earth before I do, I hope I can remember to maintain that level of generusity. We all share your grief here on DU. I thought of the young lady, how your son has never heard her say so much before -- I teared a bit, to think how rare is the opportunity for most of us to make a profound difference in a young person's life. Always know that we are 'family' on this strange collection of souls. |
Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 09:33 AM
highplainsdem (42,160 posts)
28. Duncanpup, you're a hero to me (and I'm sure to many others here) for reaching out
to help someone else now, despite your own pain. Your family has to be so proud of you. (Including your wife, and I'm using present tense because, although I'm not religious, what I've heard from other people who've suffered losses makes me believe in an afterlife and reunions).
It can be very healing to help others, and that young lady is so fortunate (and probably can hardly believe her luck) that you're already helping her so much. I got tears in eyes reading your post, especially when I got to the paragraph about your sending her home with the strat you'd upgraded already, a better guitar she can use while you upgrade her strat. It sounds to me, too, from what your son said, that you're helping that girl get over some shyness. Not just helping her learn to play guitar. The world needs more Duncanpups. We're fortunate that there's one here. And the people around you are especially fortunate. I hope to hear soon just how well that young lady is doing with her lessons. And if she achieves success with her music, I hope to hear she acknowledges all the help you gave her. It's very likely that she will. Such kindness isn't forgotten. ![]() ![]() |
Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 09:41 AM
tavernier (11,184 posts)
29. At age 76 I've had lots of losses.
The only thing that helps at all is diving into a project, be it scrubbing the floor or painting the house… but giving help and assistance to another person is the best salve. Keeps both the body and the mind occupied elsewhere.
Just give your soul some time to grieve in between or it will sneak up on you in most unexpected moments. Thanks for sharing with us; as you can probably tell, you are one of our favorites. ❤️ |
Response to tavernier (Reply #29)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 10:33 AM
True Blue American (16,567 posts)
31. 100%
Those of up who suffered know that putting yourself forward, helping others is the best way to survive grief is talking about it to others that understand and putting yourself out there. Making a lasting impression on others unites us.
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Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 09:53 AM
avebury (10,810 posts)
30. You may find out that this young lady
came into your life at a time that both of you needed each other. You are showing her a great kindness and she might come more out if her she’ll if she is an introvert.
I am so sorry for the loss of Mrs Duncanpup. Your wife would be proud that you continue to show your kindness to others, even while experiencing the loss of your wonderful wife. |
Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 12:00 PM
CaptainTruth (5,392 posts)
32. You're doing a good thing, Duncanpup.
Music is a gift that keeps on giving for a lifetime.
I started playing guitar when I was young & still play today, more years later than I care to think about. It still brings me peace & joy. |
Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 01:22 PM
elleng (121,916 posts)
33. Sounds wonderful, Duncanpup,
tho I understand NOTHING about the technical stuff you mentioned, making someones happy with music! The Baby Grand Piano Dad bought for us 70? years ago (I remember when it was hauled through our Brooklyn apartment window!) is now in my brother's house in Iowa, and makes me happy just thinking of it there.
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Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 01:34 PM
Hekate (81,759 posts)
34. It's good to see you, Dunc. What all these people just said...
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Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 02:31 PM
JudyM (25,705 posts)
35. Freely giving of your attention and expertise, bringing out a skill in a shy girl,
sharing the pure love of music and guitar… how could you do any better than that at this heartbroken time…
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Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 02:51 PM
fierywoman (6,779 posts)
36. As a professional musician,
I played with some of the most famous musicians on the face of the earth -- Placido Domingo, Etta James (I played "At Last" with her), Alfredo Kraus, blah-blah-blah -- What I want to tell you, dear Duncanpup, is that I started teaching (one on one) 18 years ago and I get more of a thrill creating an "ah-ha" moment in a kid than I EVER had playing with the musical gods -- you'll see, it will make you know that there is a reason, a good and profound reason, that you still occupy a place on this earth.
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Response to fierywoman (Reply #36)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 03:52 PM
Duncanpup (10,881 posts)
39. Thanks I Dm you fierywoman
I showed this young lady Jennifer turner one of my many favorite guitarist.
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Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 03:36 PM
CentralMass (14,523 posts)
37. You have a big heart Duncanpup.
Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 03:49 PM
grantcart (52,533 posts)
38. Your wife would be so proud of you doing this now
Me? I am just in awe.
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Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 06:16 PM
ms.pamela (9 posts)
41. Music Lessons
Thank-you for being so very generous to that young lady especially with the recent loss of your lovely wife. Mr. Pup you are one of a kind.
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Response to Duncanpup (Original post)
Fri Nov 25, 2022, 08:27 PM
SheltieLover (54,092 posts)
42. You are such a kind person, Dunc!
I truly hope helping the newbie guitar player helped you to heal a bit.
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