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My dear friend Sharon is on home hospice care right now and she has two seven year old cats, a boy and a girl, spayed & neutered, that she needs to try to place together. She lives in NY in the mountains by Cooperstown. She has a failing heart....Right now they go in and out but would prefer to find someone who would help them adapt to indoor all the time. They are very sweet. I would take them but I live in MN. and have four cats right now. And three dogs.
They have placed flyers around but no takers. This is very very hard since last Friday she had to place her 11 yr. old yellow lab. Uggh. So sad.
Does anyone have any ideas also if I could cross-post this? I already posted in Pets.
I feel that she will be passing soon.... I am so so so so damn sad.......just got off the phone with her and want to try to help her if I can. We are very close and I am having a hard enough time thinking of her leaving this world.....
Metatron
(1,258 posts)Maybe also post in the New York group?
glinda
(14,807 posts)RebelOne
(30,947 posts)and search for animal rescue groups in the NY area. I have placed kittens that have been left on my doorstep through these groups in my state of Georgia. Good luck.
glinda
(14,807 posts)applegrove
(118,008 posts)and made an ad and placed it at a vet's clinic. Mention that they are fixed. I got a call within a few days. Found a great family.
glinda
(14,807 posts)Odin2005
(53,521 posts)MuseRider
(34,057 posts)We will all be in a similar position some day. I certainly hope she can find someone to love them both together. If they were anywhere near me I would consider a lobby of my hubby to bring them to my farm with us and all the other various critters. It is a wonderful place.
Such a hard place to be. It will be hard enough on them losing her and their home and I can't imagine how hard it is for her to part with them. I hope they get placed soon in a good home together so she can rest easy knowing she was able to care for them in the end.
Hugs to you.
glinda
(14,807 posts)sounds nice but I want to try to find an indoor home. They do go out and in right now but.... the female actually rings a bell to go out. It would be too traumatic to have them relocate and then be let out. Am sure Sharon was and is loving towards them in a big way. This is all very hard.
MuseRider
(34,057 posts)or were until they learned how to go out the electric dog door between the dogs legs. Still mostly indoors.
My two in my house would probably not accept them but I have a wonderful horse barn with a little apartment in it that is warm and nice or cool in the summer. I had 4 cats who lived there before I moved out here and believe me, they had lots of attention and loving care . I would only feed them inside so they had to hang around and come in to eat. Kept good tabs on them that way and I knew they had safety around the barn area when they were out.
You don't need to know that though, you need to get those precious kitties placed if you can so your friend can feel that she can slip away easily. I would trust most cat rescue places. Based only on my experience that is. I have either cats that showed up here or I went to rescues and got them. They were quite strict about how and where they were placed and I bet someone would be certain to place them properly and together or keep them there. Maybe their vet could help?
I can't imagine how hard this is for her. Still, in the end it will make her passage easier knowing they are loved as she would have loved them. It will help your pain too if you can manage to take care of this long distance. A hard thing to do. Good luck to you and again, I am so sorry.
glinda
(14,807 posts)introduced new cats and dogs to each other fairly successfully. I does take time though. All of my pets are rescues. Hard cores with no place at all to go. There are too many pets on this planet and too many breeders and Mills.
I hope I can help her. Am networking as fast as I can. She is a solitary person. She seems at peace though and promises to meet me on the other side when I go. I am sure it will happen. We are like sisters.
freshwest
(53,661 posts)Maine-ah
(9,902 posts)I just went through this with my Mom and I ended up with two of five kitties.
glinda
(14,807 posts)get any more pets as my health is not great. Thank goodness my three dogs are old now. Two of my cats have deformed hearts and the other two are seniors so......hopefully I will be able to see them through til the end.
riderinthestorm
(23,272 posts)If you can find a rescue organization who can get them to me in Illinois, I can take them both. I have an apartment in the barn that is both "indoors" and "out" to the extent any barn is "open" in the winter. I don't have a working student at the moment so they would be able to acclimate without a lot of disruption (except for the 40 boarders who are cat lovers who will instantly love them). Once they got accustomed to the place, if they gravitated to the house that's fine. Most of the barn/house cats roam between both places. My one barn cat is 16 years old, the other is 2. My "house" cat (silly definitions since all of them are equal residents here) is 5 years old so all of them are on good terms and spend roughly the same amounts of time between my house and the barn.
Lots of college students are driving back and forth to school at the moment. Perhaps a Craigslist ad? I am 40 miles west of Chicago but would be able drive a couple of hours for a pick up.
PM me if you need
kimi
(2,441 posts)I know that's no concrete help, but it must be an awfully worrisome thing for your friend. If I were closer (I'm in Iowa), I'd gladly take them in and keep them or find a good home for both. There must be others out there who have faced similar situations, and I'm an optimist, so I really hope that something comes through.
Take care - hugs to you and your friend also, and of course the kittehs and her pup. Vibes to all.
glinda
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