Should I be creeped out by this?

[alarimer]

Well back into the dating pool I went and I've posted profiles on various dating sites. Not many responses so far but one thing is bothering me.

One guy wanted to start IMing. Fine, I thought, let's just see what happens. But the very first time we had an extended conversation, he said that he thought I was the one for him. Keep in mind we haven't so much as exchanged an email at this point, just a few messages on IM. I guess it's just based entirely on my profile. Frankly, I'm creeped out, but I can't bring myself to tell him to back off. Instead I've avoided logging into IM. I'm considering blocking him altogether but don't know if that's too extreme.

[ZombieHorde]

1. Hard to tell because we don't really know what he means.

Does he mean he thinks he found his life partner already, or does he simply mean he thinks your profile is a good match after looking at many mismatches?

[alarimer]

2. I forgot to mention that it was accompanied by a kissing sound affect.

Now, maybe that's just flirting, but I got a weird vibe from it.

It was more the "found my soulmate" type of statement, or I thought so anyway.

[PoliticAverse]

3. An argument can be made that if it creeps you out then you should follow your instincts.

If you block someone do they know you are blocking them, or do you just disappear to them ?

[alarimer]

4. I think you just appear offline

all the time.

I really don't like instant messaging anyway. I'd rather exchange a few emails, then meet relatively quickly.

[hibbing]

5. creepy

Hi,
Just my two cents, I would go with your instincts, sounds creepy as heck to me. Keep in mind that this comes from someone who waits months before asking someone I have met out for a date.

Peace

[alarimer]

6. I'm going to go with my instincts on this.

Too many times I ignore those little voices saying something isn't quite right, because I want to be nice or whatever.

[TrogL]

7. Run

[womanofthehills]

8. Creepy to me too

It's just not normal. I had a very creepy experience on E Harmony about 5 yrs ago and instantly closed my account. I would not feel bad about blocking him - he's probably blocked by half the women on there.

[Honeycombe8]

9. Red flag. You should be creeped out. Your inner warning tool is working.

Either he's waaaaay creepy, or he's trying to hoodwink you, sucker you in. Next thing you know, he'll need a loan for some computer equipment that's been hung up in China.

You could continue it for a while and try to confirm your inner warning. If it were a joke, that'd be fine. But with a kissie smooch going along with the statement, it sounds like a real statement.

If you cut it off, I would advise to tell him you're doing that, and give him a reason. Don't tell him the real reason...he'll just say he was joking. Tell him you don't feel a connection or something or that you have found a connection with someone else. If you just cut him off w/o a reason, it's mean, for one thing. For another thing, that's the sort of thing that drives people wacko. The not knowing what happened.