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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsI think I will go back to Tucson period.
But how is the question.
They are coming up with ways to get as much money from me for all kinds of stuff. They keep saying that I need to just stop being silly and learn to live with it. Sorry I can't.
I can pay back the money they paid for the ticket and half of what sis # 1 paid for the new screen. She did say because she left our nephew alone with it to go visit the neighbors, when she said she would watch him, she would pay half. Now she has altered the plan and now she says if I only pay half she get the laptop when I upgrade. Or since it is sentimental to me I can pay full price.
My other sis wants me to move in so I can pay her bills. She can't seem to budget at all!
In 2&1/2 checks I can have them paid off. I was thinking of getting 2 more checks and then give two weeks notice. Then get bus ticket back.
Get there and then start hitting the shelters. I still have my bus pass for Tucson so I can load it when I get there. I can do the same thing as I did here and flood the market with applications. That way, once I land something, I can pay the Salvation Army 33% of it to stay there while I get on my feet.
I can also get better mental health there than here. I was told that all they can do here is give some pills and hope. They had my paperwork from when I had the breakdown in Tuscon. PTSD from all that happen with my mom's death, then the tornado, being homeless and my (ex) SO's health.
They said that, and I agree, I was getting better help there than they can really offer here.
Yep, I have to get back. I am just getting worse here.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)A new start in a new place is what you need. But it is your choice and decision.
Lady Freedom Returns
(14,120 posts)They are the ones that wanted nothing to do with me when I moved out on my own. The same man that is supposed to be my father, the one that after I reached him said, " Why are you alive?" after the Tornado. He apparently had some sort of life insurance policy on me for some time. Not sure how exactly, but he loss a chunk of change when I popped up alive.
I was so distraught when all hell broke loose that I took any safety net I saw. And it is a reason my (ex) SO won't talk to me, He saw it as going to the enemy.
And they are trying to tell me that I "Need to 'realized' I just can't be a strong person. If I was I would still be there. I need to just find a guy, have kids and do what a woman is supposed to do". (Direct quote from sis #1 and dad)
No, I need to get out of here.
ADD: And the Facebook thing where I found out the were telling everyone I was murdered in Tucson. The list goes ON! Why did I think they were of help?
femmocrat
(28,394 posts)Once you no longer OWE them anything, you will feel more independent and have more confidence. Right now that is like a heavy weight on your back!
Is the job getting any easier? Can you hang in there long enough to save up a little money to get back on your feet? You will need a little savings to feed and clothe yourself once you get back. Unfortunately, it takes some money to go job-hunting (as you know!) and until you get hired and then paid again. How about transportation IN Tucson? Will you be able to get to your interviews?
I wish you nothing but the best, LFR. I just hate to see you jump from the frying pan into the fire! Best of luck to you.
CaliforniaPeggy
(149,513 posts)Lady Freedom Returns
(14,120 posts)They are upping the price of me going to work & how much I owe for food ( even though I have my own). They keep telling me how things work with the System here (DES). I find that they are wrong, but they say I am and that they can't be doing things they way the Workforce development and the Welfare tell me and have me doing.
And the doctor I have been seeing is stupid for not just drugging me up, according to them. He does not want to put me on anything because the guys in Tucson had me on counseling that was working great. He has no idea how to start such right now, it is some stuff they are working on at the U of A. That is why he is saying that going back and getting into the program again might be something to think about.
And since I am now a single, I see about getting into some of the housing projects that the program I was in does have. I will probably have to stay in shelters for a couple of months, but they are part of the work project and since I am not a felon or drug addict, I can get in.
As I said, I was so distraught when hell happened, I grab at any net. Boy, did I grab the wrong net!
Lady Freedom Returns
(14,120 posts)I have the cloths now. I found a church bazaar down the street my first week here. I have already paid back sis #2 with house work for the money I borrowed for it. I even got a blue suit and dress shoes! I also use the house work to pay for the black shoes for the job I an in right now. I even got the khaki pants at the bazaar that I am using for this job. They still had the tags on!
And I am starting nights as of tomorrow. Pay goes up some due to it being more of a danger to work at a convenient store at night. I will be a another woman who is a night time vet to show me the ropes!
hunter
(38,300 posts)If no torture wait for something better.
Advice from hunter, who, long time ago, was living in his immobile automobile in a church parking lot.
Don't care what other people think, even family. Maybe especially family if they don't understand. I was lucky there... I was never "disowned." Even crashed and burned they'd still feed me, just like they would any hungry person who appeared on their doorstep. Porch, pad, sleeping bag. No problem.
When you are hungry and homeless and away, that's when things get "real." I've never been that for more than a few weeks, and whenever it happened I became a very affable fellow as opposed to my usual very prickly self.
Yep, like a stray dog, I'd wag my tail for a stale taco...
And eventually day would come I'd get my life back together.
Lady Freedom Returns
(14,120 posts)The tent was nice after the tornado, but when the second round of storms started, I think two or three days after the tornado, I wish I had something more.
And then when the fire hit the shelter I was in in Springfield MO, a car would have been nice to have for the stuff that happened there,
I also remember when my (ex) SO was in the VA hospital and I had to sleep behind this old abandoned building. All the shelters were full. The Monsoons started at that time. I was drowned!
But I did learn some better sleeping places after that. But a car would have been nice.