There's no courting anymore, Mom. Is this true?

[Baitball Blogger]

I was talking to my daughter to get pointers to pass on to my son and her comment was, "there's no courting, anymore."

Apparently they go straight to serious dating these days?

I'm confused. Anyone have an explanation to what the young generation is up to these days?

[HarveyDarkey]

2. I'm 64 years old, and I thought that term was already passe when I was a teenager.

I thought courting was something they did in the 30's & 40's, maybe early 50's.
Do people still really use that term?

[Baitball Blogger]

3. Though the word may seldom be used, the actual act of "courting" is something

that I thought still applied.

[Chan790]

4. No, the other way.

There's no courting these days...people mostly just hang out and hook up. Until you get into your late twenties, people just don't really seriously date. They hang out, casually date...and well...the other things...with people they're not really in committed relationships with.

[Baitball Blogger]

5. My God! That's what she said!

[Jokerman]

6. That pretty much describes my twentys...

and that was 30 years ago.

We did occasionally go on a traditional date but more often then not we would just hang out and hook up as you said.

[Chan790]

7. It's described my 30s thus far too.

Apparently I'm supposed to grow up at some point and lose interest in going home with friends and near-strangers? That sounds depressing as fuck.

[Baitball Blogger]

9. I'm sure the term has been lost in translation.

In high school, when everyone went to the same bars the group dating was more practical. But after college, away from home, things changed. I never belonged to a large group where such things were possible. My co-workers were ten and twenty years older than I was. But I still managed to do the bar scenes with a girl friend or two.

Might have been a different situation if I actually grew up in the place.

Courting, to me, is that stage between the first date and the moment you commit to them as a potential life partner.

[hunter]

8. I never told my parents about my "courting" and dating.

My wife is the first and only they've ever met.

Our kids now have Significant Others, but before that they never had any trouble bringing home those they were courting.

I was always afraid to bring anyone home to my crazy family. My insane (literally) kicked-out-of-nursing-homes grandma approved of my wife. It was a miracle. My psychic crazy talks to God mom would have told me what was wrong with the others before I learned it for myself, and grandma might have gone full blown knife-wielding don't touch my grandson terror.

Of course I wouldn't have listened. I've always had to learn things the hard way.

My first serious crush later married a woman who had tried to kill herself in my bathtub. Suicidal naked woman, first naked woman I ever touched, and she would not wake up. PTSD stuff for me, and the story got worse, much much worse, before it got better.

One of the many reasons for my rainbow flag.

[Baitball Blogger]

10. I'm glad everything worked out with your spouse.

Families can be challenging.

Last week I was doing a major spring cleaning and came across a document I wrote back when I first met my husband. We couldn't have been dating for long. I wrote down all the important things I needed to consider in a life partner and one of them was, "Family has to be caring and understanding." I showed him the document and he looked it over. "I'm going to have to dock you points for that one," I said.

[hunter]

11. We've outlived our most crazy relatives.

My dad's dad freaked out that I was marrying "a Mexican girl" (his words) and he didn't come to our wedding.

But eventually he got past that.