People do kick you when your down.

[Lady Freedom Returns]

So I had a meeting with a person at the shelter I am staying at and she says I am to blame for a bed bug outbreak over a year ago. They say they striped my bed and it was covered in bed bugs.

So let me get this strait, I went from there to my HUD VASH apartment and we had no bed bugs, but I was covered in them and made them spend thousands of dollars in getting rid of them.

She warned me that I must make my bed better. I have only 1 sheet. it is a Full sized sheet I am trying to fit on a cot sized bed.

I am doing my best to get things done to help. But I can not use cell phones in the shelter so I leave the shelters number for messages. I apparently am not getting them since I call one org. and they said they left a message.

When my 7 days are up, I am not coming back to these people for help again.

Oh, new kicker, I got a call to meet with my ex and a VA Rep tomorrow, this is to clear out the paper work so I can file for HUD separately. I was upset about this call. It happen before this meeting with the shelter person. She thought my upset was due to drinking and demanded a breathalyzer. That made me feel GREAT!

[Denninmi]

1. Yes, they can.

And we are all naturally most sensitive and vulnerable at those times, so we take to heart things which would be disregarded during better circumstances.

[antiquie]

3. Very true.

My Okie gramma (born 2-2-1902) said that in almost those same words.

[R B Garr]

2. Try not to think of yourself as down -- just in transition

I know those type things are easier said than done, but if you think of yourself as being in transition, then the things like this that come at you are not as crushing. They are just something that needs to be done to get you to where you want to be. Think of yourself as being in boot camp now. Your life is not your own yet, but it's getting there. With every piece of red tape you clear up, you're on your way to a more stable life, and that will calm you down.

Major moves in life are tumultuous for everyone, and you've had a few major upsets in a very short time. Even if all the changes are for the better, just the change itself can be intimidating. The meeting with the VA sounds like a real breakthrough for your future.

[Lars39]

4. I bet she tells everybody that.

Keep your cool, breathe deep.