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Archae

(46,292 posts)
Thu Nov 28, 2013, 06:25 PM Nov 2013

Family...they can ruin a good Thanksgving so easily.

Had a family get-together for Thanksgving dinner, one relative went all "clean freak," chewed out another relative for touching his nose.
Viciously. Said his hands were now covered in "filth."

Then another relative got into a physical fight with her son.
Lot of pushing and shoving and others trying to keep them apart.



Glad to be home, with my kitties.

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Family...they can ruin a good Thanksgving so easily. (Original Post) Archae Nov 2013 OP
lol, sorry but thats what families are like, at least no one got shot or stabbed. loli phabay Nov 2013 #1
Yeah, at least I'm thankful for that. Archae Nov 2013 #2
My family has never been like that Art_from_Ark Nov 2013 #5
Same here, even though pipi_k Nov 2013 #11
Rule of thumb NV Whino Nov 2013 #3
thats why i always work every holiday, oh and the extra pay. loli phabay Nov 2013 #4
I like my family much better TBF Nov 2013 #6
Kodak moments all rurallib Nov 2013 #7
you can pick your friends and you can pick your nose but... mucifer Nov 2013 #10
T-day and Christmas were always excuses magical thyme Nov 2013 #8
I got pissed off at my brother for sneezing and not even B Calm Nov 2013 #9
We had uninvited guests mokawanis Nov 2013 #12
Good idea about the potluck. geardaddy Nov 2013 #13

Art_from_Ark

(27,247 posts)
5. My family has never been like that
Thu Nov 28, 2013, 08:25 PM
Nov 2013

At least, not my blood relatives. The only time there was friction at a Thanksgiving dinner was when one of my sister's in-laws started going on and on about Pearl Harbor after I had told everyone about my trip to Japan. I said that Pearl Harbor had been more than 50 years ago and that today's Japan was nothing at all like Imperial Japan, but he still went on and on. So I decided to avoid further confrontation by going outside for a while.

pipi_k

(21,020 posts)
11. Same here, even though
Fri Nov 29, 2013, 10:34 AM
Nov 2013

it was riddled with alcoholics and the like.

Anyway, yesterday, as usual, we went to the oldest stepdaughter's house, where it was her and her hubby, her hubby's widower dad, her dad's brother and his wife and their grown son, me and Mr Pipi and the middle daughter and hubby and his father, and their 2 1/2 year old daughter.

I remarked on the way home that I'm glad in all the years we've gotten together with various people over there, nobody has ever discussed politics/religion. We just talk about silly stuff and laugh a lot.

The only stain on the evening was the banshee screaming done by the toddler, and the banging of metal utensils on her auntie's beautiful teakwood dining table (many dents left) and neither parent so much as batting an eye. Well, that's not true, exactly. Her mom issued a couple of half-hearted admonitions for the kid to stop while continuing to set the kid up to fail by giving her back the metal fork instead of finding the kid-friendly plastic one. Mr Pipi, beside me, was getting quite pissed at his daughter for allowing her kid to act like a brat.

As for myself, I was busy blocking my ears from the noise of banging and screaming because I'm hypersensitive to nose, and dammit, it was PAINFUL. I really wanted to cry.

I had a headache when we left.

and I'm getting to be not so thrilled about future family gatherings there.

NV Whino

(20,886 posts)
3. Rule of thumb
Thu Nov 28, 2013, 06:37 PM
Nov 2013

Thanksgiving (and other holidays) with cats or fronds (with no family).

Safe. Sane. Lots of fun.

rurallib

(62,372 posts)
7. Kodak moments all
Thu Nov 28, 2013, 10:18 PM
Nov 2013

well as my friend used to say - you can pick your nose, but you can't pick your family.

 

magical thyme

(14,881 posts)
8. T-day and Christmas were always excuses
Fri Nov 29, 2013, 08:36 AM
Nov 2013

for my mother to go on a screaming, abusive, rageaholic meltdown.

Pretty much every day was an excuse, come to think of it, but the holidays added extra hours and intensity since we were all on lazy inconsiderate do-nothings on vacations from whatever, deliberately spoiling my mother's lazy, do-nothing every days. No wonder I loved being in school. Being bullied and teased by classmates held nothing to mommie dearest.

That's why I now spend holidays alone with my furfamily, except when I'm scheduled to work. No drama for the holidays here, tyvm.

mokawanis

(4,435 posts)
12. We had uninvited guests
Fri Nov 29, 2013, 11:36 AM
Nov 2013

I didn't complain when my son showed up with a friend who wasn't invited, but I didn't like it. The only other problem we had is that my wife dropped $525 on dinner for 11 people. When I saw the receipt for the groceries we had a tense but productive discussion. Next year everyone invited brings a dish.

Man, I hate the fucking holidays. Can't wait for Dec. 26th.

geardaddy

(24,926 posts)
13. Good idea about the potluck.
Fri Nov 29, 2013, 11:39 AM
Nov 2013

My mom does most of the cooking, but we each bring something to share.

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