So this has been a terrible bday and the day isn't over yet

[Arcanetrance]

My girlfriend started the day off by breaking up with me. I have depression issues that sometimes makes me a withdrawn individual and she's done dealing with my issues after 5 years. Fuck I hate being a basket case

[seabeyond]

1. running across the room

flying thru the air, and giving you a tackle hug of love, comfort and warmth.

i am so sorry.



i isolate also. we are one. you are loved.

[Arcanetrance]

3. Thank you

[alarimer]

2. I'm sorry.

That's a lousy thing to do just before Christmas.

[Arcanetrance]

4. Thank you I guess when things run their course the end must happen

[geardaddy]

5. Sorry to hear it.

Take care of yourself.

[HappyMe]

6. Damn. That's rough.

I'm sorry. Here's the thing, that door closed, but another will open up soon.
Yeah, that sounds trite, but it's all I got. Keep hope in your heart.



I hope you heal fast and find peace.

[Raine1967]

7. That sucks.

I know there isn't much I can say that would make you feel better about what happened, but I would like you to know that you are one of my favorite DU'rs.

It took me a long time to finally meet a person that understood that I am a person the is really very outgoing but also needs to withdraw after I am overstimulated.

You aren't a basket case.

[Arcanetrance]

8. Thank you it amazes me I'm actually on someone's favorite list

I've always been more of a loner in life and I guess when it's mixed with my depression issues I do withdraw and lately I haven't been able to get out of my depression due to health issues.

[Raine1967]

12. I enjoy your posts in the lounge.

I'm sure that this, your Birthday, and the stupid holidays is enough to make a lot of people pull the covers over their heads.

Just know you're not alone. I have found in the past that just writing things -- even n a forum like this (or any other place I consider safe) can really help get through the tough stuff.

Hang in there Arcane.

ETA: that person I found did eventually become my Husband.

[OriginalGeek]

20. Maybe someday we can go to Loli Phaybay's dinner party

Until then, here an album of Entombed worshipping old school Swedish death metal.

Feel better buddy.

[loli phabay]

27. the dinner parties are infamous on an epic scale.

though the after party is what they are really all about.

[nolabear]

9. Honey, a girlfriend who will breakup with you on your birthday is best gone.

And I hope, re your health issues and calling yourself a "basket case" that you'll try to remember that the health issues are the horse and you are the rider. You are not your illness. You are a guy who has an illness. You deserve better.

[Arcanetrance]

10. You're right in all accounts

The health thing gets me sometimes cause of fear. I am according to my eye doctor going to be completely blind by the time I'm 30 which is only three years away. I know it's not life threatening or anything but it's the fear of seeing my vision slowly slip into nothing but black and never seeing the faces of those I love or seeing the changes in the world around me kind of scares me and depresses me.

[nolabear]

15. It sounds very scary. I'm sorry you're going through that. You can be okay.

I know you won't be what you'd love to be but you can be okay. Get everything you can to enrich your life before, during and after, including a GOOD girlfriend.

Take care, Kiddo.

[malthaussen]

11. Well, that sucks.

Not that there's any good time to break up with somebody, but doing it on your birthday seems to me to lack class.

-- Mal

[Sweet Freedom]

13. She broke up with you on your birthday??!!

What a cold person. Sorry that happened. Sounds like she has her own issues and you deserve better.

Why don't you go do something nice for yourself today? Watch a funny movie, eat your favorite ice cream, go outside and enjoy nature, pet a kitty -- anything that brings you a moment of happiness.

You can still turn this day around and have a happy birthday!

[dawg]

14. You are better off without her.

There are women out there who would never dream of doing something so insensitive and cruel. And some of those women would probably be thrilled to have a relationship with a person like you.

[bluesbassman]

16. Happy Birthday Arcanetrance.

Hell of a cold blooded thing for her to do, but consider it her present to you. Now you are free to find someone better!

Take good care of yourself, brighter days ahead!

[Arcanetrance]

21. Thank you for the bday wishes

[RFKHumphreyObama]

17. Sorry to hear that

Deepest and sincerest thoughts and best wishes to you

[Demo_Chris]

18. Damn man, that sucks. Wishing you nothing but the best! nt

[In_The_Wind]

19. Darn! I hope your day is getting better.

[nomorenomore08]

22. Holy shit that sucks! After 5 years, couldn't she have waited a little while? n/t

[Arcanetrance]

23. Guess not but I don't harbor any resentment she has to do for her life

what she feels best. Also the micheladas or however you spell that help erase any care

[magical thyme]

24. you deserve far better than that, Arcanetrance...

She set you free to meet somebody who deserves you.

[applegrove]

25. So sorry. Vibes. (((Hugs)))

[dballance]

26. Don't isolate. get out with friends!

Maybe try an SSRI short-term.