Thanks so much to everybody in the Lounge and I am so sorry.
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Jim, MiddleFingerMom, passed away today. This place and all of you made his life worthwhile the past couple of years. He loved you and he loved being able to bring a smile to your face, or especially a guffaw or spit take. His humor and honesty are the two outstanding traits that bound our friendship. He could be a dick if he disagreed with you, but he was totally honest and never bullshitted anybody. In fact the only fib I ever saw him tell in over 10 years of knowing him, was the one about being immortal. Rest in Peace my friend.
his journal - http://www.democraticunderground.com/~MiddleFingerMom
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I do so hope that's exactly what was running through his mind.
You've been wonderful Kali. 
I know you, perhaps more than any of the rest of us. will miss him. He was a good man and the world lost him too soon.
Peace and love.
SD
Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo.
sympathy to you Kali and to all who knew and loved him .
one of the first people to make me feel welcomed.
This place will not be the same without him.
I'm so sorry for your loss Kali!
Give 'em hell MFM!
Heaven just got an angel...a funny one at that..
He spent days compiling the funniest posts in the lounge...
I knew he was in and out of the hospital...but hoped he would not succumb...
What a great man...I remember when I thought he was a woman...'middle finger mom'
I had never seen a photo...what a great one for a great man...
Though I am not a lounge 'lizzard' I too will miss him greatly
RIP Jim
I've only been here a short while and traded a few barbs and email messages with Jim, but I really looked forward to reading his posts and enjoying his zaniness.
I know that he had many medical problems recently so I hope that his passing was actually a blessing so he could be relieved of the pain and hardship. He will be sorely missed, but all of us have been benefited from getting to know him.
Thank you Kali for all that you have done to look out for our friend.
I knew he was very ill, but this is such a sad, awful shock.
I'm so sorry Kali and everyone else here and in real life who loved him .... including me. DU will never be the same.
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RIP MiddleFingerMom. You made so many of us laugh until the tears came, and your kindness, intelligence and joy for life will never be forgotten. We'll miss you very much.
immortal… alive in our thoughts and memories…
MFM brought a smile to so many here-- and given the frequent DU conflicts--that is a real accomplishment.
His humor and positive example--in the face of frequent serious health issues-- is something I will take with me.
RIP, MFM. YOU will be sorely missed.
<---- for you, Kali.
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May he rest in peace.
My deepest sympathy Kali and Hugs!
Oh I'm so sorry. I truly don't have words.
Jim was the epitome of this place, funny as hell, mean when he wanted to be, but one of the most innocent people in many ways I've ever known. He's been sick for so long.
Oh, I am so very sad.
Cross easy, you Immortal Bastid.
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Or whatever the hell you want. I salute you.
He put up a valiant fight. Thank you Kali, for keeping us posted. A very sad day.
He will be sorely missed.
I don't know what to say.
Damn! Thank you, Kali, for notifying us. I am so sad. I miss him already.
He will live on in the archives of DU and in many hearts and minds. Just sad.
rocktivity
I am so very, very saddened to hear this.
Good bye, dear MFM.
He will be missed.
The lounge won't be the same now.
Being immortal is not a fib, Kali. Our spirits are immortal, it is only the bodies that get left behind.
I've been waiting to read this for a couple weeks now.
With all of the medical drama he had been through recently surrounding his heart condition I was sort of expecting to hear this at some point. Yet it still shocked me to hear this.
RIP MFM you will be greatly missed. Who's going to post all the silly pics and your dots...
...he was one of my favorites here and it wouldn't have made any difference either way.
I'm sorry for your loss and for all of his family and friends.
R.I.P. MFM
Heartbroken to hear this Kali.
MFM was a true original and will be greatly missed.
hugs to you
bench
He was the Life of the Lounge, he will be missed.
Jim, thanks for years of love and smiles, years of you.
Rest in peace, Jim.
RIP, Jim.
His posts have made me laugh for years...I'm just numb right now....know that he brought joy to a lot of people, myself included. RIP MfM, see you on the other side...You will be missed in this community.....
Thank you for letting us know. Rest in Peace, MiddleFingerMom!
RIP, MFM.
TYY
My thoughts are with you, Kali.
I am so sorry, Kali!
RIP Jim
One of my favorite DUers
I'm so sorry, Kali. He was such a delight to read and must have been the same in real life as well.
RIP
The phrase "tag team sponge baths" will be with me for the rest of my days.
I am saddened by this news. but somehow I am not surprised. He had been sick for so long....
I hope that his spirit lives on...
He is at peace, and that is the important thing.
if they disagree with you?
what?!
never!
lol
RIP MFM
rest in peace
The lounge will never be the same.
look at that sweet face….
add me to the long list of people who will miss him.
I remember when I found out he was a guy! Thought he was a woman with a hilarious DU name….then when I found out he was NOT a woman, I just couldn't wrap my head around it for the longest time! LOL 
Gotta be the best name ever.
now I can't quite wrap my head around this…..
I always wondered where that random-sounding name came from, and marveled at the unique whimsy that motivated his postings here 
we will never forget the wit, the fun, the man who was MFM.
Kali... you were such a wonderful friend to him. My condolences for your loss, just know we share it with you.
RIP... Jim...
Sorry to hear this.
he was always a highlight of any visit to DU. Even with those annoying dots
I was starting to believe he was immortal.
Be well Kali and Rest in Peace Jim.
And to the rest of us, too.
So sad.
It is a place we will all visit sooner than later.
Rest in peace.
I feel like I was kicked in the gut.
That is such a great picture of him.... he looks like an angel smiling down on us.
Thank you for being such a good friend, Kali, and thank you for keeping us informed. He was lucky to have you and so are we.
Take care of yourself now, OK?
RIP, MFM. You'll be missed.
MFM leaves
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with his passing.
May his Beautiful Soul Rest in Peace.
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I am so sorry for those who personally knew Middle Finger Mom. May all your good memories of him be with you as you go through your grief. 
I'm still new here and didn't always get his sense of humor, but this is a loss.
He was very witty from what I remember of some of his posts and he seems to have been much loved.
It's sad when we lose any DU and the ones who meant so much to many.
So many after all these years...and each one is a sad loss.
Thank you for being our bridge with MiddleFingerMom.
Treat yourself well.
His voice on DU will be missed.
His humor in the face of his ongoing illness was remarkable and a lesson for us all. He will be badly missed.
I just can't believe it! I was expecting to see him return to posting any day. I am so sad.
I seldom post but always looked for MFM's posts every time I logged onto DU. He made me smile many times when I sorely needed it. RIP MFM
Kali....so sorry for your loss of a dear friend.
But, sadly, not immortal. RIP Dear Man. Thanks for the laughs. Condolences, Kali. 
Your words caught me off guard. Brought me to tears. Beautiful tribute, applegrove!
But something tells me he'd get a kick out of your title just the way it is.
But I think you're right. He would not want it changed.
You will be missed.
Condolences to his family and friends.
He was so blessed to have you around, and you were so wonderful keeping us in the loop and sharing our thoughts with him.
Damn...I am crying.......
shit......
this really really hurts.
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And I have a confession: I had a crush on him (in a DU personae way only) several summers ago. I could no longer take the contentious Obama threads in GD back then & for the first time, I began checking out the Lounge after years of ignoring it in favor of focusing on GWB discussions in GD.
I liked the name "MiddleFingerMom" right away. It attracted my attention enough to want to know what's on the inside of his subject lines. I think he could have been a great comedy writer; I liked the way he could take a corny idea & turn it into something clever.
I initially thought MFM was a woman. I've enjoyed SoCalDem's writing style & humor for years & was beginning to wonder if this "MFM" could actually be a SoCalDem (sorry--> ) sock ; their humor & intelligence struck me as similar.
He had integrity. At times he needed moral support, he gave the benefit of the doubt to those who posted unkind things to him/about him. That's right; in private e-mails, which would only be read by the two of us, he gave them the benefit of the doubt. Pettiness wasn't his style; he never said an unkind word toward anyone in my exchanges with him. He was that good of a person.
I'm stunned. I enjoyed his presence on DU so much. He will be missed tremendously.
This was created by Dystopian for one of the past DU fund raisers:
Kali
who died a few years ago. Always sassing and cracking jokes, quick with a witty comeback, but caring, too.Special to so many people. MFM will be sorely missed.
You have my deepest sympathies, Kali
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Although I didn't know him, that's a good face. He must have been a fun person.
My condolences to all who knew him.
May he rest in peace.
The world's lost a good soul. Thanks Kali for this picture. I swear, he looks like like an angel.
I see kindness and wisdom in his smile and eyes. 
I say "is" because he shall not be forgotten.
I must call my son (not a DUer) to tell him MFM won't be posting any more brilliant humor for me to email to him.
What a most kind soul he was, as some of the moving, tender tributes to him here have expressed.
I did enjoy his posts over the years of my lurking and after becoming a member.
I feel like I've lost a family member.
You take care Kali.
RIP MFM.
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So long cyber friend.
He will be missed.
In memoriam MFM -
To Kali -
I'm so sad we lost our friend.
Peace
You'll be missed.
By default, you ended up with the thankless task of breaking the bad news.
I don't know whether or not MFM knew that you were there at the end, but it means a lot to us to know that you were there. Thankyou for that, and for everything ...
may MFM be in a better place making folks smile and may you heal from the loss
RIP MFM, we will miss your humor. My sympathies, Kali.
This is so sad.
I don't even know what to say. This sucks.
Peace to Jim and his family.
I used to be annoyed by his "scroll down" posts. After a while, I looked forward to them. Eventually, I'd search for them whenever I was feeling down and needed a good laugh. What a sweet, funny, great soul of a person he was!
I'm not much of a poster but I was here a lot so I feel like I 'knew' him. It was fun seeing the two of you interact and to read his hilariously crazy posts. Can't believe he's gone- I'm so glad he was a part of our community. Thank you for introducing us to him.
Rest in Peace, Jim.
Your post were always interesting. We will miss you.
I liked MFM too, and will miss seeing him here. For you, (((MFM))).
"In the Embers" by Sleeping At Last
We live and we die like fireworks
Our legacies hide in the embers
May our stories catch fire and burn
Bright enough to catch God's eye
We live and we die like fireworks
We pull apart the dark
Compete against the stars with all of our hearts
'Til our temporary brilliance turns to ash
We pull apart the darkness while we can
May we live and die a valorous life
May we write it all down in cursive light
So we pray we were made in the image of a figure-eight
May we live and die like fireworks
We pull apart the dark
Compete against the stars with all of our hearts
'Til our temporary brilliance turns to ash
We pull apart the darkness while we can
Like fireworks we pull apart the dark
Compete against the stars with all of our hearts
'Til our temporary brilliance turns to ash
We pull apart the darkness while we can
((((((( Kali )))))))
RIP, MFM
RIP, dear heart.
Hugs to all who knew him and loved him.
RIP MFM.
Fair winds and following seas, my friend.
Peace to you, MFM.
for Kali.
I don't want to believe it. It's going to take time.
MFM wil be sorely missed by many of us.
He had such a great sense of humor, although often self-deprecating.
Dear MFM, I hope you are flying in the Light, pain-free, healed, filled with joy.
Thank you dear Kali for letting us know.
Most in the lounge remember MiddleFingerMom for his razor sharp, zany sense of humor .
I got to see the serious side of MFM in the few times he left the lounge, and was fortunate enough to catch a glimpse of the intellect behind the humor. I personally think he made a lot of less gifted folks uncomfortable, which is why they were happy to see him stay here.
And I think he loved being here, where he was so loved and appreciated.
He Will Be Missed.
“Nothing in the world is permanent, and we’re foolish when we ask anything to last, but surely we’re still more foolish not to take delight in it while we have it. If change is of the essence of existence one would have thought it only sensible to make it the premise of our philosophy.”
― W. Somerset Maugham, The Razor's Edge
He posted this old image with the caption:
"It's SOAP!"
Sorry to hear of his passing.
I know you are feeling a greater loss than most of us here as you were such a long-term friend of this wonderful man. My heart goes out to you.
My heart goes out to you, Kali, and to all his friends and family. He was certainly one of a kind and he made my DU experience so much richer.
He always made me smile..and I will always smile when I think of him., in that way he really -is- immortal.
Peaceful passing dear MFM - I will miss you
What will DU be without him?
Thank you for posting his picture--it's so nice to be able to put a face with a name. He had great eyes, and a sense of humor to match.
Take care of yourself.
Jim would want it that way. If you ever need a good "STFU" just let us know 
rest in peace, mfm.
and a heck of a gentleman.
I'm so sad.
I hope you are okay Kali. I know he was a good friend.
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Dear god, I'm so sorry about this.
My heartfelt sympathies on the loss of your dear friend, Kali.
MFM's posts always made me laugh. He was a lovely soul, and his passing leaves a void that can never be filled..........there will never be another like him.
RIP, MFM -- your struggle is over. Rest easy now, dear man.
Which is one of the highest callings one can aspire to, IMNSHO.
...just spotted this. What a sad piece of news.
Before I go any further, I want too clarify something that many of you already know...I am here under the screen name "Miles Archer" because my computer died in October and I lost everything, including User IDs and Passwords. I couldn't request a password reset because I didn't remember which email address I'd used to sign up. But before the crash, I was DUer Amerigo Vespucci, so MFM and I had a long history of give-and-take here.
When I think of Jim, the first thing that usually comes to mind is the glee he would express when I'd post some horrendously inappropriate graphic, telling me he'd "stolen" it for future use.
We didn't communicate much outside of the Lounge, but we did exchange a few PMs. He was always torn between positing for his own enjoyment and posting for response and recognition. I'd encourage him to just do his thing and tell him about posts of my own that...in my opinion...were dripping with genius and totally lacking in responses.
We all know the ups and downs of his health in the last few years...more than any one person should go through. He's at rest now, pulling down his pants in that great corner bar in the sky. He accomplished what many of us attempt and few of us achieve...he was an original, through and through, to the end. I am convinced that he would want nothing other than unrestrained merriment in his memory, no sadness, no morose thoughts...so join me in partying for Jim.
