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Don't Stop Arguing in Front of Your Kids
Not really silly enough for the lounge but not political enough for GD. But good advice, I think.
When you make it a point to never argue in front of your kids, you are wasting several valuable teaching opportunities:
* People who love each other argue sometimes. Kids need to learn that it's natural. It doesn't mean you've stopped loving each other. It doesn't have to mean your relationship is in trouble. It's just something that happens when people live in close quarters and share a lot of responsibility.
* You can argue respectfully. If you and your partner can tame the screaming and avoid the insults and name-calling, your arguments will be more productive and you'll feel better afterward. Teaching your kids those same techniques is important.
* Arguments get resolved. Many couples send their kids out of the room when an argument begins. I can understand the impulse, but think about what you're really doing. You're letting kids see how arguments get started, but not how they get resolved, and there's a lot of important stuff that happens during that resolution.
http://lifehacker.com/dont-stop-fighting-in-front-of-your-kids-1513468978
* People who love each other argue sometimes. Kids need to learn that it's natural. It doesn't mean you've stopped loving each other. It doesn't have to mean your relationship is in trouble. It's just something that happens when people live in close quarters and share a lot of responsibility.
* You can argue respectfully. If you and your partner can tame the screaming and avoid the insults and name-calling, your arguments will be more productive and you'll feel better afterward. Teaching your kids those same techniques is important.
* Arguments get resolved. Many couples send their kids out of the room when an argument begins. I can understand the impulse, but think about what you're really doing. You're letting kids see how arguments get started, but not how they get resolved, and there's a lot of important stuff that happens during that resolution.
http://lifehacker.com/dont-stop-fighting-in-front-of-your-kids-1513468978