I am probably going to get slammed for this but I need help understanding some things.
I have been going our Condo By-laws and title 68 of the PA laws about condo association.
I want to write a letter raising my questions:
1--when is the last time they had a meeting? according to by laws and state laws you are to have one meeting a year. So far we have not seen one meeting being held. We have been given a ballot with items to vote on which is sent back to the be tallied by the President Secretary/Treasure. I want to write them a letter letting them know we know they are breaking the rules however they are spiteful bitches. My wife has made a complaint about the bird feeders from people's decks. My wife's view point is that IF this condo association does not want animals within the condo walls why are they encouraging wild animals --not only birds but we have seen squirrels and deer looking round the deck areas for fallen bird feed--to be outside the the building. The president's response was to hand a bird feeder on one of the low trees in front(below)our living room window therefore all my wife hears are birds chirping through out the day and half the time in the evening.
2--the condo beside us was being rented and the owner of that condo is the son of the President of the association. I guess he is divorced from his wife who forced the renter (the only friend and person we trusted) to move out in 20 days because she wanted to move in. The renter told us that the president doesn't want her daughter-in-law to force the renter out. The Renter also said this woman the owner of her condo is worse than the President and secretary/treasure. The renter was forced to be out by a certain date. The woman as yet to move in. Knowing what we do from past renters...techinqually the former renter could make a complaint with the housing association since they forced her out and have yet to fully occupy the residence.
3-- My wife has taken her protest of no animals to our windows. She has placed signs in our windows stating change the rules let pets in. The president and Secretary/Treasure have made comments that they think she should take down her signs.
4-- The condo by laws state that meetings should consist of 25% of the voting association but with only 8 condos that is what 2/3 people? basically all they need to do is have the President the Secretary/Treasure and the President's husband voting for the son or the son there to decide what will happen the all the condos. IF this is happening they are not making the meetings public which PA title 68 and the condo own laws required that they are announced.
Do I risk writing this letter or should we keep my wife's signs up and next time they want to send a ballot make them aware we know their actions are illegal. Am I reading these rules correctly? Are they acting illegal?
Another reason why I am asking is that I don't want to do something that could jeopardize my wife's Notary.
No we cannot move because we would lose too much money and right now until my wife finds a full time job. we are able to tread water in this condo...placing a rent payment onto of our head and utilities would put us underwater.
My wife's health insurance is a joke. We are paying a hundred dollars each month and they are rejecting her doctor's visits. She owe $580.00 dollars in doctor's bills. That is 2 visits to her pcp and blood work the doctor ordered. Doctor won't see her until the bill is paid --which we can understand-- We have fought to get them to cover the bills since it is suppose to be cover by the policy. I told my wife to cancel it that with my new job I can get her covered and myself for 50 dollars. now the insurance company is giving my wife a song and dance that she isn't allowed to cancel and if they can do it it would take 2 to 3 months. I can start her coverage in July when I get coverage BUT why pay for something not working.
Help? or am I wife and I beyond help?
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Sounds like her insco is yanking her chain. They should pay pcp and blood work.
I think it's a CRIME that the doctor won't see her until the bill is paid. That boils my blood 
1. Don't know about the meetings. Even if your neighbors in charge are awful, please do not refer to women as bitches. If there is nothing in the by-laws about bird feeders/feeding animals outside, then don't even bother... this has nothing to do with having pets inside your condo. However, you may bring up the fact that rats are drawn to these kinds of situations. Who knows, perhaps you saw one. 
2. Nunya business.
3. Most condominiums have by-laws regarding what can be facing out to the street (signs, color of curtains, etc.). Check the by-laws. However, your wife is more likely to solidify their existing feelings than to bring about change. I wouldn't want to live near that, or even become involved in the drama (and I am all for teh animals).
4. IDK
I think you need to do everything and anything in order to ignore some of the goings ons at your condo, even if you and your wife think it is not fair. It is quite obsessive and is probably impacting her health.
mean but the way you wrote it, it sounds like your taking your dog out for a walk. I just couldn't help thinking that 
Sorry, I know this is a serious issue for you..........
Seriously, what's the "H" word? 
TYY
why are you here?
A senior monk and a junior monk were traveling together. At one point, they came to a river with a strong current. As the monks were preparing to cross the river, they saw a very young and beautiful woman also attempting to cross. The young woman asked if they could help her cross to the other side.
The two monks glanced at one another because they had taken vows not to touch a woman.
Then, without a word, the older monk picked up the woman, carried her across the river, placed her gently on the other side, and carried on his journey.
The younger monk couldn’t believe what had just happened. After rejoining his companion, he was speechless, and an hour passed without a word between them.
Two more hours passed, then three, finally the younger monk could contain himself any longer, and blurted out “As monks, we are not permitted (to touch) a woman, how could you then carry that woman on your shoulders?”
The older monk looked at him and replied, “Brother, I set her down on the other side of the river, why are you still carrying her?”
http://www.kindspring.org/story/view.php?sid=63753
First - a question: Are you willing to stay in your condo and continue to be miserable? Is that acceptable to you?
Your living situation, from what I've read in your posts, is taking a toll on both of you personally, and as a couple. Since moving isn't an option, take action on the things you can, even if they're small. From my experience, the most important thing you can do is change your thoughts. If you and your wife spend all your time focused on everything that's going wrong, you are only keeping yourself stuck there in misery.
I know there are people in this world that don't give a crap about you and may even intentionally do things to upset you. But the one thing you have control over is how you react to them, and what you choose to think about and do on a daily basis.
You have a loving wife, you have a roof over your head, you have food and comfort. Your situation may not be ideal, but think about the good things in your life, don't worry about the things you can't control, and refuse to take on a victim mentality. Things will start moving in a different and positive direction if you do.
I'm telling you this because I've been there. I wish you and your wife all the best. 
I loved it when I lived in a condo, I know people have problems with condos, HOAs, etc. I find everyone being on the same plane makes it more pleasant, but you have the right to speak up. And I don't get how the thread turned into the B word. I think it's unpleasant, sexist, hurtful, and should be reserved for female dogs. It really should have no other connotation.
Hope it works out for you.
