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a kennedy

(29,644 posts) Thu Sep 10, 2015, 02:36 PM Sep 2015

Question.....is it ok to give $50.00 for a 50th wedding anniversary???

The husband of the couple is my husband's cousin......they were pretty close as kids, and we get together now once in a while. My husband's brother isn't giving them anything....just a card.

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Question.....is it ok to give $50.00 for a 50th wedding anniversary??? (Original Post) a kennedy Sep 2015 OP

Why any gift? Sanity Claws Sep 2015 #1

I'd go with a card, too. Laffy Kat Sep 2015 #2

On second thought: Laffy Kat Sep 2015 #3

Take em out for beers and shots Facility Inspector Sep 2015 #4

Yes! MosheFeingold Sep 2015 #10

I'd give them a gift card to a decent restaurant. People give me those and I love it! BlueJazz Sep 2015 #5

Gift certificate to a nice restaurant is something they always enjoy LynneSin Sep 2015 #6

I don't see how it could hurt. Tobin S. Sep 2015 #7

i like the gc to restaurant idea restorefreedom Sep 2015 #8

No! MosheFeingold Sep 2015 #9

Sanity Claws

(21,846 posts)

1. Why any gift?

Reply to a kennedy (Original post)

Thu Sep 10, 2015, 02:45 PM

Sep 2015

If the couple is giving a big party, perhaps you want to send a gift. But if you just want to commemorate the anniversary, a card would do, IMHO.

Laffy Kat

(16,377 posts)

2. I'd go with a card, too.

Reply to Sanity Claws (Reply #1)

Thu Sep 10, 2015, 02:48 PM

Sep 2015

If they've been together for 50 years they are established in the world. Maybe flowers at the most, but I'm sure they're not expecting gifts.

Laffy Kat

(16,377 posts)

3. On second thought:

Reply to a kennedy (Original post)

Thu Sep 10, 2015, 02:50 PM

Sep 2015

Perhaps a $50 donation in their honor to a charity you know they support? You can't lose.

Facility Inspector

(615 posts)

4. Take em out for beers and shots

Reply to a kennedy (Original post)

Thu Sep 10, 2015, 03:13 PM

Sep 2015

and tell them Happy Birthday!

MosheFeingold

(3,051 posts)

10. Yes!

Reply to Facility Inspector (Reply #4)

Thu Sep 10, 2015, 07:33 PM

Sep 2015

No gift card. No money. No present, unless is it is a photo book of times together or something similarly meaningful.

TIME. TIME. TIME. Is the gift.

BlueJazz

(25,348 posts)

5. I'd give them a gift card to a decent restaurant. People give me those and I love it!

Reply to a kennedy (Original post)

Thu Sep 10, 2015, 03:16 PM

Sep 2015

LynneSin

(95,337 posts)

6. Gift certificate to a nice restaurant is something they always enjoy

Reply to a kennedy (Original post)

Thu Sep 10, 2015, 04:47 PM

Sep 2015

go with that

Tobin S.

(10,418 posts)

7. I don't see how it could hurt.

Reply to a kennedy (Original post)

Thu Sep 10, 2015, 05:29 PM

Sep 2015

restorefreedom

(12,655 posts)

8. i like the gc to restaurant idea

Reply to a kennedy (Original post)

Thu Sep 10, 2015, 05:43 PM

Sep 2015

people love those

MosheFeingold

(3,051 posts)

9. No!

Reply to a kennedy (Original post)

Thu Sep 10, 2015, 07:32 PM

Sep 2015

As one of the people here who have had a 50th anniversary, I can say I would not want $50.

I would want a note or a card or a phone call. I'd really want to be taken to dinner and drink a beer.

When you reach that age, unless you have financial problems, you don't want stuff.

All your friends start dying on you and you want to visit with people from your youth.

I'm a week shy of 91, a widower, and happily married for 70 years. I am still in excellent health, and my parents both lived to over 100.

They warned me that the worst thing about living to be 100 was all their friends and family dying (including some children in their case).

I am happy I have lots of children, grandchildren, great grandchildren, and one great-great granddaughter who I get to take on a walk to synagogue once a week.

Otherwise I'd have no one to come to my funeral!

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