Well, Lunch party for the family is done.

[Catmusicfan]

So here is the low-down. First off we are still unpacking so we spent a lot of time yesterday and this morning doing a rush clean and getting things sorted. While I was prepping food last night my brother-in-law was mounting a tv on the wall. He was at our place until 1:30 am. Hubby and I got to bed at 2 am I am up at 6:50am. Nervous because my mom can be...well, she likes speaking her mind and doesn't care who she hurts because in her mind she is always right. Also Sis calls to find out what I am serving because 15 year old niece is a 15 year old who is picky. Sister never heard of chicken salad made with walnuts celery and grapes. she is use to it being shredded not small pieces. So I make a small amount of egg salad incase I need to serve that.

So I'm freaking out because she will only see what is wrong with the house not the potential.

Well, hubby and I are rush cleaning/hiding boxes and I am getting ready to finish cooking. THEY come early. I said come for 12:30 thinking They eat and I show off the place. They show up about 11:50. I'm rushing to make the quiches. while they are cooking I am putting together the sandwiches and cutting veggie pizza, plating and whatever needs done.

Mom starts by critizing everything that is wrong with the place and I am ready to cry. then they start lookin around. Basically gave themselves the tour.

We ate. Sis only ate one sandwich but said it was good. They said they like everything. we talked for a while.

now I am exhausted. I think I will be going to bed now--OH wait. Game of thrones start--DAMN.

All in all glad it is done.

[onecaliberal]

1. It doesn't matter what they think. It's your place. If you like it that's all that matters.

You seem like such a gracious and kind individual. Seems like a very nice thing to do considering you just moved.

[Catmusicfan]

3. Well we have been here for a few months but too busy to get unpack quickly.

[onecaliberal]

7. I can understand. Life is busy. You sound like a lovely person.

[Catmusicfan]

8. Thanks...sorry it took so long to reply I went for a nap.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

2. Don't let your mom harsh your mellow.

You knew she'd find fault because that's what she does. She's not going to change, so all you can do is smile and say, "I'm happy with it, sorry you don't care for it, but I'm the one who's going to be living here." The important thing is that you are happy with it.

[Catmusicfan]

4. Thank.

[Warpy]

5. At some point, you're going to stop caring about getting approval

from the one person who will never give it to you. And you're going to stop giving a shit about picky eaters, they can pick out what they like and leave the rest. If there are actual allergies, give a shit. Otherwise, don't.

I don't know why mothers feel entitled to treat their daughters worse than they'd ever treat anyone else they've ever met, but I had one just like her. It was a lot better after I realized the pattern and just gave up trying to please her.

[Catmusicfan]

10. I should stop caring.. I am the type that has a hard time doing that.

[spooky3]

6. Family can be maddening, especially when they show up

Early and when you're tired. Sounds as though you handled things a lot better than I would have! Hope you enjoy your new place.

[Catmusicfan]

9. Thank you. Ended up napping.

[Phentex]

11. I love chicken salad made that way!

Sounds like you planned a great menu (from this and the other thread). I bet they really liked it. As for family, this is basically why I only ever see one sister. I don't need the rest of the crap.

[femmocrat]

12. Your post reminds me of a younger me.

I used to tie myself into knots trying to please everyone. I would worry about it for weeks! I'm sorry your family is so demanding. I'm sorry I spent so much time fussing over those family gatherings.

Now I just have to deal with grandkids with allergies, a vegan son, and a DIL who won't eat anything I prepare. My husband said I should just tell them to bring their own food!

I can't imagine going to someone's house and behaving like that.

[cwydro]

13. Moms can be critical. It's what they do.

Wish I had mine back to get on my nerves right now. Sigh.

[Coventina]

14. {{{hugs}}}

You put together a delightful meal.

I'm very sorry that you didn't get proper recognition for it.