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left-of-center2012

(34,195 posts)
Mon Oct 9, 2017, 11:58 AM Oct 2017

Heres How Different Dinnertime Looks Across The USA

An interesting, in my opinion, of photos on “boredpanda” of how people have dinner.
(More photos at the link)

The only instructions (the photographer) shared with everyone was to go about their dinner plans as they normally would on any given weeknight, capturing the ordinary meals and the casualness of the whole thing.







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Heres How Different Dinnertime Looks Across The USA (Original Post) left-of-center2012 Oct 2017 OP
Mostly very depressing pictures. Fla Dem Oct 2017 #1
America is a lonely town. FSogol Oct 2017 #15
That was fascinating MissB Oct 2017 #2
"I don't like to have bottles of stuff on the table" left-of-center2012 Oct 2017 #5
I twitched. A lot. MissB Oct 2017 #7
Items like that give me the impression it was part of the direction A HERETIC I AM Oct 2017 #13
Sounds like my family dinners when I was a kid. The Velveteen Ocelot Oct 2017 #9
Ha! We aren't that formal. MissB Oct 2017 #10
This was a long time ago - '50s and '60s. The Velveteen Ocelot Oct 2017 #11
Dinnertime at my house . . . fleur-de-lisa Oct 2017 #3
watch this one crazycatlady Oct 2017 #8
Love it! geardaddy Oct 2017 #16
Almost every single one of the photos at the link is really depressing. smirkymonkey Oct 2017 #4
Once the photographer left the top couple's house True Dough Oct 2017 #6
Dinner at my house is sort of like #3, except no stuffed animals The Velveteen Ocelot Oct 2017 #12
Some people eat alone but don't live alone FakeNoose Oct 2017 #14
Alone hibbing Oct 2017 #17
Me too left-of-center2012 Oct 2017 #18

Fla Dem

(23,650 posts)
1. Mostly very depressing pictures.
Mon Oct 9, 2017, 03:23 PM
Oct 2017

The loneliness of some of the subjects just screams from the photos. The lack of warmth conveyed between some of the couples was chilling. Maybe they were told to pose stoically, but wow, very few seem comfortable with their partners. And then all the people eating alone, I know some are by choice, but just seems so sad. I looked at all 4 pages of photos on the web site, not just the ones you posted.

MissB

(15,805 posts)
2. That was fascinating
Mon Oct 9, 2017, 03:46 PM
Oct 2017

I'm maybe a bit too uptight but we only eat at the dining room table. At the old house, I had an eat in kitchen and we'd eat at the big table at the end of the kitchen. The dining room was reserved for holiday or guest dinners.

In this house, we don't have an eat in kitchen so it's the dining room table. The room is surrounded by a wrap-around porch and lots of windows, so I keep it quite tidy- no piles on the table. DH and I sit next to each other, facing the view outside rather than each other. It's not cold or uncomfy- we chat comfortably all thru most dinners. The kids - now in college- would sit facing us and still do when they are home from college.

I'm weird in that I don't like to have bottles of stuff on the table - things like ketchup, dressing, etc. I tend to put food on the center butcher block in the kitchen and everyone serves themselves and takes their plates and sits down. Less to clear away. At holiday or other fancier dinners, I'd put stuff like that in bowls or other containers. It just makes me twitch to see those on my table. I fully admit that's weird.

We don't have a tv on the main floor, so no eating in front of the tv. I prefer conversation at dinner.

left-of-center2012

(34,195 posts)
5. "I don't like to have bottles of stuff on the table"
Mon Oct 9, 2017, 05:15 PM
Oct 2017

So, how'd you feel about the photo with a gallon of milk on the table?

A HERETIC I AM

(24,365 posts)
13. Items like that give me the impression it was part of the direction
Mon Oct 9, 2017, 07:45 PM
Oct 2017

The photographer possibly said "whatever you're drinking, just put the whole bottle on the table."

The Velveteen Ocelot

(115,673 posts)
9. Sounds like my family dinners when I was a kid.
Mon Oct 9, 2017, 07:15 PM
Oct 2017

The TV got turned off. We all had to eat at the table and couldn't leave until everyone was finished. Then we'd have to ask, "May I be excused, please?" No bottles or jars on the table, either; condiments had to be in bowls or small dishes with their own spoons. Napkins on your lap, no elbows on the table. And no reaching, you had to ask and get food passed to you: "Please pass the potatoes." "Thank you." It sounds so archaic now.

MissB

(15,805 posts)
10. Ha! We aren't that formal.
Mon Oct 9, 2017, 07:22 PM
Oct 2017

DH and I tend to wait for each other to finish- hell it's just the two of us. The kids would just get up and move on when they were done. They did have to clear their plates, but that's because I wasn't going to raise boys that expect their spouse to wait on them hand and foot.

I'm totally particular about bottles or tubs on tables. Must be an inherited trait. I was horrified when my SIL threw down a loaf of white bread and a tub of margarine one thanksgiving.

The Velveteen Ocelot

(115,673 posts)
11. This was a long time ago - '50s and '60s.
Mon Oct 9, 2017, 07:30 PM
Oct 2017

We also wore hats and white gloves to church, and even dressed up to go shopping downtown (that was a really big deal). My parents' friends had to be addressed by Mr. or Mrs. - you never called grownups by their first names. This habit stuck with me forever (until my parents' friends had all died off and I didn't have to worry about it.).

 

smirkymonkey

(63,221 posts)
4. Almost every single one of the photos at the link is really depressing.
Mon Oct 9, 2017, 04:52 PM
Oct 2017

Not only do the people seem unhappy and alienated from each other, but the rooms themselves are really gloomy and unattractive, and most of them look kind of dirty. A few of the photos seem okay, but most of them just bummed me out.

True Dough

(17,301 posts)
6. Once the photographer left the top couple's house
Mon Oct 9, 2017, 05:25 PM
Oct 2017

I'll bet they cleared the dinner table in a hurry and began "cooking" in another sense, if ya know what I mean. I can see it in their eyes!

FakeNoose

(32,630 posts)
14. Some people eat alone but don't live alone
Mon Oct 9, 2017, 09:59 PM
Oct 2017

It depends on people's work schedules too. For example somebody who works retail or at a hospital or EMS might be working odd hours.

OTOH somebody might be living alone but sharing meals by inviting friends, relatives or neighbors.
This is an interesting photo collection though.

hibbing

(10,096 posts)
17. Alone
Tue Oct 10, 2017, 05:22 PM
Oct 2017

That's me most every night in my fancy new kitchen eating alone besides the cats. It is rather depressing like some of the photos.


Peace

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