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Bonobo

(29,257 posts)
Wed Nov 20, 2013, 02:02 AM Nov 2013

Look familiar? Just try to guess the source of this...

(In reference to pornorgraphy)

Q: Was the consent of all participants sufficient to make the porn shoot a morally defensible enterprise?

That’s a great question, and the one Conor takes up in his essay. To put it crudely, both Alan and I strongly believe that consent is not sufficient to make this a morally defensible enterprise. The fact that the young woman chose to be sexually abused in front of a crowd makes it more morally defensible than if she were compelled to suffer like this against her will, but her acts are not, in our judgment, rendered morally defensible because she consented to them.

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Look familiar? Just try to guess the source of this... (Original Post) Bonobo Nov 2013 OP
Who do we know that routinely conflates consensual with non-consensual sexual activity? Major Nikon Nov 2013 #1
Ah, but you're wrong I think. Bonobo Nov 2013 #2
Actually the answer doesn't surprise me in the least Major Nikon Nov 2013 #8
I had an argument to that effect last night with two of them. Katashi_itto Nov 2013 #11
ANSWER HERE Bonobo Nov 2013 #3
Someone somewhere or other, not sure where, was speculating what it is about this topic which causes Warren DeMontague Nov 2013 #4
I've never seen them single out gay or lesbian porn for the same criticism. lumberjack_jeff Nov 2013 #13
Yes means maybe and maybe means no. Bonobo Nov 2013 #16
No. No means no, and yes means Seeking Serenity Nov 2013 #17
unless you have an approved chaperone to give that consent for you loli phabay Nov 2013 #18
I'm not taking the time to read the article, but... TreasonousBastard Nov 2013 #5
also there is an issue that they believe porn is commercial rather than heavily amateur loli phabay Nov 2013 #6
Not so much that they believe, but... TreasonousBastard Nov 2013 #7
Commercial porn is pretty anemic in itself Major Nikon Nov 2013 #9
good points, the majority of specialised stuff nowadays is amateur interactive stuff loli phabay Nov 2013 #10
autonomy: they're doing it wrong. lumberjack_jeff Nov 2013 #12
Sounds like someone is trying very hard to claim down is up Major Nikon Nov 2013 #14
"When the theory doesn't match reality, one should question the theory, not reality." lumberjack_jeff Nov 2013 #15
Yes, that's rather silly. But why get up in arms about it? nomorenomore08 Nov 2013 #19
I'm not up in arms. Bonobo Nov 2013 #20
Okay. I didn't think you were really that upset about it. I was just kind of like, "Yeah. So?" nomorenomore08 Nov 2013 #21
Well I think the significance is this: Bonobo Nov 2013 #22
You may be right. I just don't spend much time worrying about others' hangups. n/t nomorenomore08 Nov 2013 #23
I wish I was more like you. Bonobo Nov 2013 #24
Seems odd... ElboRuum Nov 2013 #25

Major Nikon

(36,818 posts)
1. Who do we know that routinely conflates consensual with non-consensual sexual activity?
Wed Nov 20, 2013, 02:13 AM
Nov 2013

The list isn't that long.

Major Nikon

(36,818 posts)
8. Actually the answer doesn't surprise me in the least
Wed Nov 20, 2013, 09:25 AM
Nov 2013

You didn't really include enough information to pinpoint exactly who it was, but the only two groups of anti-pornographers I know about are social conservatives and radical feminists, both of which conflate consensual and non-consensual sexual activity. Then when you see the word "morally" you can narrow that down to the former.

I'm actually familiar with Rod Dreher. We get the Dallas Morning News here in the office(which is a rag not fit to line bird cages) and he wrote a collumn there for years. Rod Dreher is a pseudo-intellectual shitbag of the first order. If you've ever seen the movie, Red State, it's a fictional tale about a congregation that believes homosexuality is an infectious disease. That describes Rod Dreher. If he could make it legal to execute homosexuals, I'm sure he would. I wouldn't piss in his ear if his brain was on fire.

 

Katashi_itto

(10,175 posts)
11. I had an argument to that effect last night with two of them.
Wed Nov 20, 2013, 11:32 AM
Nov 2013

They ended up exesensitally accusing me of misandry

Warren DeMontague

(80,708 posts)
4. Someone somewhere or other, not sure where, was speculating what it is about this topic which causes
Wed Nov 20, 2013, 02:43 AM
Nov 2013

what they perceive to be such out of character political behavior, I guess, in people who are otherwise so this-that-or-the-other.

Yes, indeed, one can certainly wonder why someone who is pro-choice, who supports the right of consenting adults to make their own decisions about sex and their own bodies, all of a sudden turns on a flippin' dime, yo, and the minute that those consenting adults are in front of a camera that is turned on, those "so-called progressives" suddenly continue to support the right of consenting adults to make their own decisions about sex and their own bodies!

Like. Whaaaaaaaaatthefuckisupwiththat?

Or someone who believes in the first amendment, all that choosy-choice "freedumb" nonsense and whatnot... as soon as you're talking about fucking on film, why, they still yarble that irritating blather about freedom of speech.

THAT'S SOME SEEEEERIOUS FUCKIN' HYPOCRISY, MAN.


They should take a cue from the true progressives, you know, the people who ostensibly believe in liberal progressivism, personal autonomy, and secular open government, while opposing the religious right... until some creep buys a dirty magazine (do they even have those, anymore?) at which point Phylis Shlafly and Ed Meese and Rick Santorum magically become the GREATEST DEFENDERS OF LIBERAL VALUES EVAH

 

lumberjack_jeff

(33,224 posts)
13. I've never seen them single out gay or lesbian porn for the same criticism.
Wed Nov 20, 2013, 12:07 PM
Nov 2013

It's hard to avoid the conclusion that it isn't about the industry or the actresses; it's about the customers.

 

loli phabay

(5,580 posts)
18. unless you have an approved chaperone to give that consent for you
Fri Nov 22, 2013, 09:55 PM
Nov 2013

There is definetly a disconnect here.

TreasonousBastard

(43,049 posts)
5. I'm not taking the time to read the article, but...
Wed Nov 20, 2013, 02:49 AM
Nov 2013

it's enough that it once gain conflates acting in porn to being abused. And, of course, it seems to define the sex act itself as something contemptible, immoral, and probably illegal.

Commercial porn has historically paid the women far more than the men and depicted them as taking incredible joy in the act. The men seem to be merely tools to provide the women with infinite orgasms.

This is often the case in life, too. Everyone conveniently forgets that sexual fantasy that has something to do with properly pleasing a woman.

 

loli phabay

(5,580 posts)
6. also there is an issue that they believe porn is commercial rather than heavily amateur
Wed Nov 20, 2013, 08:35 AM
Nov 2013

Nowadays. It is no longer mags and a vhs but an interactive experience with people doing it and each other via chatrooms and web cams. The internet had changed porn from dirty macs and side streets to anyone who wants to can exhibit themselves online.

TreasonousBastard

(43,049 posts)
7. Not so much that they believe, but...
Wed Nov 20, 2013, 08:57 AM
Nov 2013

it's easier for them to rant on about the evils of porn and, from "our" side, the enslavement of porn actresses if they ignore those popunders for "private chats" that they must have seen in their "research."

I went to a peep show once years ago just to see what it was, and it was as nasty as I imagined. I'm not sure I ever want to meet the guys who get off on that. Now, however, the peep show is in your office, bedroom, kitchen, or car and doesn't seem so sleazy at all. I don't know how much they make, but it's probably more than their cut of a quarter for a few minutes of the shutter going up. And no one has to wash the walls on the internet.

Major Nikon

(36,818 posts)
9. Commercial porn is pretty anemic in itself
Wed Nov 20, 2013, 09:34 AM
Nov 2013

Anti-pornographers always point out the worst of it, but the vast majority of commercial pornography is geared towards hotels, DVDs, and now subscription services like Brazzers.

 

loli phabay

(5,580 posts)
10. good points, the majority of specialised stuff nowadays is amateur interactive stuff
Wed Nov 20, 2013, 09:51 AM
Nov 2013

Where there is the ability to discuss stuff and gear it towards the participants.

 

lumberjack_jeff

(33,224 posts)
12. autonomy: they're doing it wrong.
Wed Nov 20, 2013, 12:03 PM
Nov 2013

I've explained my personal sense of ambivalence toward porn, but if you believe in "choice" as in "freedom to choose", then it's clear that people should be able to do what they want.

The arguments that I find most vexing are "studies show that porn causes rape". Well, I don't know about "studies", but my lying eyes, as well as the NCVS tell me that rape victimization is far less common than it was before porn became ubiquitous. Arguing that an inverse correlation = causation should get people laughed out of the room.

It is very possible that the NCVS survey undercounts rape victims, but it's valid in a way that no other survey is going to be able to do better; it's been asking the same questions since 1972 and thus provides useful trend information. If rape is undercounted today (because of ambiguous definition of rape for instance) then it was doing so in 1972 as well.

Among grownups, "No" means no. "Yes" means yes.

Major Nikon

(36,818 posts)
14. Sounds like someone is trying very hard to claim down is up
Wed Nov 20, 2013, 04:43 PM
Nov 2013

Theories are models which attempt to describe reality. When the theory doesn't match reality, one should question the theory, not reality.

nomorenomore08

(13,324 posts)
21. Okay. I didn't think you were really that upset about it. I was just kind of like, "Yeah. So?"
Sat Nov 23, 2013, 04:29 AM
Nov 2013

I certainly agree there are some kooky people with kooky opinions out there. But I guess I'm missing the greater significance.

Bonobo

(29,257 posts)
22. Well I think the significance is this:
Sat Nov 23, 2013, 04:36 AM
Nov 2013

Briefly (and therefore oversimplified):

There is a moralistic component to discussing these sexual issues that needs to be recognized.

For some, speaking out against prostitution or pornography or woman showing their tits in a protest or men "jerking off" to rape fantasies has a moral component that I think they don't own up to. Or if not moral, than certainly an emotional one that does not rise to the facade of social justice-seeking that some feign.

We get closest to seeing it when we hear people getting "skeeved out" over men sniffing panties that are supposedly from schoolgirls (guess what, they almost certainly are not.) or being offended by women dressing as young girls, or mother-fetishes or WHATEVER....

Bonobo

(29,257 posts)
24. I wish I was more like you.
Sat Nov 23, 2013, 04:44 AM
Nov 2013

I tend to get too hung up on stuff. Slights and the like.

I wish I had some pot. But I can't smoke it here in Japan.

ElboRuum

(4,717 posts)
25. Seems odd...
Sat Nov 23, 2013, 07:08 PM
Nov 2013

...was someone being called to defend a person's consent in a moral framework?

Oh, yeah, I keep forgetting. Any time we come near any topic remotely sexual, either individually or as a society, SOME people feel the need to construct a whole framework of morality (negatively biased, natch) around it.

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