Would I embarrass my friend?

[Justice wanted]

I have a friend who is debuting his Drag Queen Persona in the area. He will be at this event and I (female-straight) wanted to go and support him but I was told by someone else that I would not be welcomed at said event and that I would make an ass out of myself.

[Mc Mike]

1. Maybe ask your friend personally, instead

of asking that other person, who seems to be a bit negative.

I recall 2 movies where there were straights and gays in the crowd enjoying the shows. ('Torch Song Trilogy', and 'La Cage Aux Folles'.)

[Justice wanted]

2. THat's just it. My friend wouldn't tell me honestly. He knows I am trying to support him and he

wouldn't want to hurt my feelings.

[WillParkinson]

3. How so?

Are you going to jump up on the table and scream "Look at these! They're real!" while ripping off your clothes?

I fail to see how being there and clapping for your friend = making an ass out of yourself. I find that ridiculous. And who, exactly, would not welcome you? I think the only person there who needs to be welcoming is your friend. He is, after all, the one you're there for.

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4. I don't know this friend seems uncomfortable with me still being friends with my friend who recently

came out and has wanted to do drag.

[WillParkinson]

5. Then it sounds like that friend has the problem...

If it means that much to you then you should support the friend in the drag show, in my opinion.

[Justice wanted]

6. Thank you.

[xchrom]

7. I thought str8 women drag buddies were

Mandatory at drag shows.

I don't think I've EVER been to drag show where there weren't str8 women.

And at my age - I've been to a 'few'.

[HillWilliam]

12. Str8 women and

leather-guys. Back in the bad-old days when AIDS was killing folks off left and right, those three as a team (plus out west there was the cowboys in GRA) who got in the streets, kept the food banks going, and fund-raised their asses off together.

Nobody said you couldn't be drag-mom or a fan of your friend's work. The decision to show up should be between you two without someone trying to be messy in the middle.

[xchrom]

13. I'm just puzzled by the notion a str8 woman wouldn't be welcome.

I go to gay bars w/ my str8 women 'wing men' as often as i go w/ other gay men or by my self.

Lots & lots of gay men hang w/ str8 women.

[GodlessBiker]

8. That "someone else" is an idiot. Straight people go to drag shows all the time.

[edgineered]

9. Have a great time!

Your friend is probably a bundle of nerves right now, and we all know how that helps us keep our wits together (not). Look at it this way and tell your friend - this is a one time thing, you don't want to look back and say 'well, you know I should have asked you to be there'. I'm sure your being there will cement your relationship going forward; lets all hope hitting the speed bump of his initial reaction to your insistance is recognized as the nothingness it is.

[Mc Mike]

10. So far, 5 votes in favor of you

having a good time with your friend, and supporting your friend.

If anyone bitches about your presence, just blame D.U.

[racaulk]

11. I don't understand why your presence at your friend's show would be a bad thing.

If this is your friend's first performance he will likely be nervous, and I'm sure seeing a friendly face in the crowd will help put him at ease a bit and make the show even better for him and everyone else.

Go, have fun, and support your friend. The "someone else" who gave you that advice has no clue what they are talking about.

[Rowdyboy]

14. I can't imagine any supportive straight woman being unwelcome at a drag event....

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Please go and support your friend. And suggest to "someone else" that they get a life.

[qb]

15. This "someone else" sounds like a homophobe intent on undermining a fabulous event.

Just my humble opinion.
Have fun and cheer on your friend!

[Vanje]

16. Go!

You'll have fun!

[WillParkinson]

17. BTW, if you DON'T show up...

Your friend might think you don't support him and might consider you are ashamed of him. Just food for thought.

[Justice wanted]

18. Thank you all for your posts. I will absolutely be going and Screw what the "Other Friend" said

just got an e-mail from the friend performing in the show saying that "EX-FRIEND" basically told him he was going to hell for his life style. I e-mail Drag Friend telling him I will be there than e-mailed EX-Friend and told her she's going to hell for her narrow-minded views and not to bother me anymore.


Never expected "EX-FRIEND" do be that much of a bitch.


Thank you all for your support. I thought I was doing the right thing but I wanted to make absolutely sure. I come from a very small town in PA and well my first "outed" friends came during my college years and well this would be my first Drag show I would be going to and considering I make Peggy Olsen-1st season Mad Men(episode 1) look like an experience woman (Gay friend's little joke to me and I know it is meant with love) I didn't know if I would do my friend more harm than good.

[Zorra]

20. For one thing, I'm not sure it's even possible to embarrass a drag queen.

The ones I know are totally salty and insanely cynical-funny.

I've seen drag shows in dive bars, for free, that were so freakin' hilarious they'd be worth $200 a ticket in a major venue. Stuff that had me constantly ROFLMAO, mercilessly until it hurt.

Like others have stated previously in this thread, str8 girls have always been welcome at gay bars as far as I know and have ever seen

Drag queens often get straight girls to come up on stage, and they make these girls an unwitting part of their routine/performance.

(You've been warned)

Go on and have some fun!