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William769

(55,144 posts)
Tue May 1, 2012, 02:52 PM May 2012

Dear Mom,

Losing you last week is a great loss, throughout my life when no one was there I could always count on you. When I came out of the closet & the family shunned me you were there, when I laid dying of AIDS in the hospital, you were there, when I lost David you were there. You have been the only constant in my life you were always there.

I remember well the day I came out to the family & they all said I was dead to them, you took up my cause & told me that I was special in a way that no one else could be, you held my hand gave me a shoulder to lean on and wanted to know about my life like no other did. You gave me the strength to go forward to be who I am without having to hide my true self. Because of you I felt alive for the first time in my life, free to be me.

When I met the man of my dreams and was afraid of what people would say living my life with this great man, you were there, you told me that love is love God doesn't put a condition on who you love, only that you love (you were so right), you gave me the courage to open myself up to David so we could live our lives out in the open and not to hide our love for watch other you were there.

When I laid in the hospital dying & was told to make my peace with life because it was over for me & I would not leave the hospital alive you and David was there by my side, you both were there. You even went as far to tell the doctor it was not my time to go and that I still had a long journey of life ahead me and that my son would leave the hospital to fight another day (you were right).

When I was suffering through pain & agony over David's sickness & death, you were there. You gave me the courage to get through the pain and to remember the life that David & I celebrated, when all hope was lost, you gave it back to me you were there.

I remember all the good times we had together from childhood to adulthood to my rebirth of coming out of the closet you were always there. You wanted to be a part of my life my whole life from the bar hopping we use to do together to the PRIDE parades we marched in together you were always there.

It pains me so bad that when you laid on you death bed asking for me I could not be with you because the Country you were in would not allow me to travel there a son wanting to be with his dying mother, but know that I was there in mind and spirit. But know when we put you to rest this week, I will be there.

You are with the angels now also with family that has gone before you and your adopted family that you helped to care of so well. You touched so many lives, helped so many people, you may be gone but not forgotten.

Mothers day is coming up but I just want you to know because of you everyday should be celebrated as Mothers day.


I love you Mom
Bill

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Dear Mom, (Original Post) William769 May 2012 OP
A beautiful tribute... WillParkinson May 2012 #1
Very touching and beautiful, Bill. closeupready May 2012 #2
what a beautiful letter mitchtv May 2012 #3
i'm so sorry irisblue May 2012 #4
I am so sorry for your loss. cate94 May 2012 #5
Oh William DURHAM D May 2012 #6
Bill my heart breaks for you...when you didn't post for several days I knew something must be wrong Rowdyboy May 2012 #7
(((hugs))) Starry Messenger May 2012 #8
Oh Bill, I am so sorry. Your mom sounds wonderful and will be missed. uppityperson May 2012 #9
Bill I'm so sorry - TBF May 2012 #10
So sorry cyberswede May 2012 #11
.. cbayer May 2012 #12
. HillWilliam May 2012 #13
A beautiful letter Bill ornotna May 2012 #14
. Paulie May 2012 #15
Bill, I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your dear mother. pacalo May 2012 #16
That is a very beautiful tribute, Bill. Your mother was an exceptional woman! Mnemosyne May 2012 #17
Always remember that you made her proud! Fearless May 2012 #18
Oh, Bill... gkhouston May 2012 #19
Oh, Bill, I am so sorry for your loss. Morning Dew May 2012 #20
Bill, my mom understood, she knew, Zorra May 2012 #21
I am sorry for your great loss.... Little Star May 2012 #22
Safe passage to your mom. Call Me Wesley May 2012 #23
William, I am SO sorry for your loss. dixiegrrrrl May 2012 #24
I'm so sorry, William enigmatic May 2012 #25
Hugs.... queerart May 2012 #26
Moms are the best. Vanje May 2012 #27
William, I just saw this. I am so sorry. yardwork May 2012 #28
A beautiful farewell. Zenlitened May 2012 #29
My deepest condolences, Bill. Behind the Aegis May 2012 #30
Just want to let everyone know William769 May 2012 #31

irisblue

(32,932 posts)
4. i'm so sorry
Tue May 1, 2012, 04:18 PM
May 2012

your letter has made me cry...you were blessed to have her, but not being able to be there when her time came...i am so sorry.

cate94

(2,810 posts)
5. I am so sorry for your loss.
Tue May 1, 2012, 04:32 PM
May 2012

What a beautiful letter. I'm sorry that you weren't able to say your good-bye in person.

DURHAM D

(32,607 posts)
6. Oh William
Tue May 1, 2012, 05:52 PM
May 2012

I am so sorry for your loss. Mothers can be awesome and you had a true champion.

I will celebrate her life and lift a toast in her honor this evening.

To your Mother and to you...

Rowdyboy

(22,057 posts)
7. Bill my heart breaks for you...when you didn't post for several days I knew something must be wrong
Tue May 1, 2012, 06:11 PM
May 2012

but I had no idea. Please know that our thoughts are with you. I lost the mother I worshipped in 1999, Michael's mother died 5 years ago so we understand and share your pain.

There is nothing quite like unconditional love. I had it from mom and I miss it, how I miss it. I wish you peace and consolation

uppityperson

(115,677 posts)
9. Oh Bill, I am so sorry. Your mom sounds wonderful and will be missed.
Tue May 1, 2012, 10:24 PM
May 2012

My mom's 21st Deathaversary is in a week. It hurts. It gets easier, eventually, but it still is hard. Hugs to you.

cyberswede

(26,117 posts)
11. So sorry
Tue May 1, 2012, 10:25 PM
May 2012

I'm glad your mother was such a positive force in your life. Your tribute to her is very touching.

You're in my thoughts.

pacalo

(24,721 posts)
16. Bill, I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your dear mother.
Tue May 1, 2012, 11:55 PM
May 2012

Your letter is beautiful; it's inspirational for all mothers.

Please check the MIRT forum; you've been missed.

Fearless

(18,421 posts)
18. Always remember that you made her proud!
Wed May 2, 2012, 01:01 AM
May 2012

She seems like a wonderful woman. Any LGBTer would be remiss having not had her for a mom. Always remember, that a person is never gone, they're always alive within us. Always.

Zorra

(27,670 posts)
21. Bill, my mom understood, she knew,
Wed May 2, 2012, 02:25 AM
May 2012

that I was LGBT when I was a toddler.

She passed away when I was 10 yrs old.

My heart goes out to you, friend.

I am profoundly sorry for your loss, and hope that your sorrow diminishes over time.

Little Star

(17,055 posts)
22. I am sorry for your great loss....
Wed May 2, 2012, 08:02 AM
May 2012

please accept my condolences. Your letter to your mom was beautiful and she sounds like a wonderful person.

yardwork

(61,539 posts)
28. William, I just saw this. I am so sorry.
Wed May 2, 2012, 04:34 PM
May 2012

I am so sorry for your loss. Your mother was an angel and I believe that she is an angel today. She is watching you and loving you still.

My deepest sympathy.

Zenlitened

(9,488 posts)
29. A beautiful farewell.
Thu May 3, 2012, 02:03 AM
May 2012

*hugs*

When you are feeling ready, consider posting on 'A Note To My Kid,' website about unconditional love for and from LGBT families?

http://www.anotetomykid.com

William769

(55,144 posts)
31. Just want to let everyone know
Mon May 7, 2012, 11:39 AM
May 2012

I got back into town last night and am back putting the pieces together.

I want to thank everyone for your kind words thoughts & PM's.

Bill

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