For gay and lesbian parents, equality is a myth when it comes to custody cases
http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/apr/21/gay-lesbian-parents-equality-myth-custody-cases
A protracted child custody battle that allows a judge and a psychologist to determine whether you are friend or foe to your kids is every divorcing parent's nightmare. But for some gay and lesbian parents, that nightmare is a reality and the deciding factor is too often the very fact of their sexuality.
That fear remains even when the law is supposed to protect gay parents. A friend a gay dad in Texas recently told me about his journey after he and his ex-wife had a legal agreement for 50-50 custody of their three children. But when his ex-wife decided to move far away and wanted to give him alternate weekend visits, "which she had no right to do," a lawyer bluntly told my friend:
'You're in Texas. She's a straight female ... you're a single gay man ... you have to go on offense, just to keep the 50-50 time you already have with your kids.'
He did, and it was extremely costly. But millions of gay and lesbian parents those living in the 33 states without marriage equality and even those in states with don't have the economic means to constantly battle the implicit and explicit discrimination they face to prove what social science already knows: that their sexuality shouldn't be a factor in determining their fitness as parents. But a new study from Drexel University shows that it often is.
The results can be tragic for children: separating them from their gay or lesbian parents, and sometimes leaving them in unsafe homes simply because the other household is "straight".