ScienceFocus: Resilience: What it is and how to build it
https://www.sciencefocus.com/the-human-body/resilience-what-it-is-and-how-to-build-it/amp/Snip
"The current pandemic confronts us with unfamiliar and changing demands, in a context of pervasive fear and uncertainty, and we wanted to explore the promise of psychological flexibility as a source of resilience under these conditions,” says Golijani-Moghaddam.
As you might expect, the pair found elevated levels of anxiety in their sample (27 per cent met the criteria for an anxiety disorder versus an expected 6 per cent during normal times), but crucially, those individuals who scored higher for psychological flexibility were less likely to be experiencing anxiety or depression, and also reported higher overall wellbeing.
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"It is all about showing up to what is here for us at the moment, and moving forward despite the discomfort."
If you want to cultivate your own resilience, or the resilience of those you care about or are responsible for, there are three elements you can focus on: developing a suite of coping mechanisms; nurturing the psychological flexibility to accept difficult emotions, and knowing how and when to deploy your various coping strategies; and finally, being mindful of your values, so that you can continue to live a meaningful life in the face of adversity.
Much more at link. This is a great article!
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that my job was 'holding space', to create a safe place where ppl could talk, and i was to be an active listener.
ppl didnt often talk about their grief. or necessarily the person that was dying.
sometimes we talked about dogs, since my bully, biff, was part of the team.
many liked hearing me talk, and tell them about my farm. or where i grew up, or about my family.
sometimes i would ask them to tell me about their loved one. they would usually be happy to do that, and it usually meant a smile.
unlike shrinks, at the end, i often asked if they wanted a hug. i usually at least gave a pat on the shoulder unless i got a clear signal they didnt want to be touched. that was rare then, but...
damn do i miss those hugs. still amazes me how many ppl wanted hugs from a stranger.
but, for anyone reading this in stress- 
