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TorchTheWitch

(11,065 posts)
Mon Aug 12, 2013, 07:26 AM Aug 2013

Just found out my next door neighbors have to put their dog to sleep

I had a feeling this was coming but for some reason was devastated to find out today that he'll be gone in a few days. They're holding out just to have a little time to get used to the idea and I guess work up the courage to do it. I'm so heartbroken though I know it's the right thing for them to do since poor Bubba is so old and in such bad shape now. There's something wrong with one of his hind legs (I have a feeling he has bone cancer going on in there since his symptoms have been exactly like Boo's were when he was diagnosed). My neighbors also lived through that with me too, and they've been thinking the same thing but haven't wanted to acknowledge it until recently. Poor Bubba is so old and crotchety now anyway even on all four legs, but now that he can't use the one he can't get himself outside to go to the bathroom and back inside without help. Today was the first day that L--- just suddenly burst into tears as she was helping him with his back end trying to get him back in the house.

They rescued Bubba when he was brought to a vet and then to foster care after being taken away from a dog fighting ring where he'd been abused and used as bait. He has some scaring from old wounds and around his muzzle where he was made to wear a muzzle that didn't fit it right. He was so happy to be with his knew family that doted on him, spoiled him rotten, and sadly overfed him as a way of trying to compensate for the terrible life he had before... he was so skinny when they got him you could count all his ribs even though he had already been rescued and was in foster care trying to get fattened up.

Bubba gave back so much love and devotion to his new family and would cheerfully put up with all manner of indignities the youngest child bestowed on him... he made her his special charge the day she came home from the hospital after being born and has never stopped guarding her and letting her get away with murder even now that he's in such bad shape and likely having some pain. She's still to young to really understand what death means, but she's definitely starting to feel the pain of having to lose her hairy guardian and playmate that's a good five times bigger than her even though she's not very clear on exactly why.

I think Yoshi knows. The neighbors insist that their dogs knew when Boo was going, and they cried and howled the day we took our final ride to the vet. I never believed they were just saying that. I really think dogs just know these things. I've noticed lately that Yoshi has been very attentive to Bubba and doesn't try goading him into playing anymore but just leans back against him on the chain link fence when Bubba leans against it to get some weight off his bad leg and keep his balance. Just yesterday I caught him sniffing and licking at Bubba through the fence, and he's never done that before. I've also noticed that Yoshi has lately raced outside like his butt was on fire the second he hears Bubba come outside the few times that he does, and he won't do any wandering away for a pee or a poo and sticks right by Bubba until he's back in his house. He has his other neighborhood doggie friends, but Bubba has been his best buddy from the first day I brought him home, and he's going to be so sad when big Bubby Bear is gone.

This isn't even my dog, and I'm so sad. He is such a likable smelly old lazy fart of a beast, and it's really going to suck when he goes. On the one hand I know it's his time, and the kindest thing to do is have him have a peaceful passing, but on the other hand I'm really going to miss the tubby great lump and his little stump of tail wiggling furiously back and forth as much as a little stub of a tail can when I come out in the yard and he's out in his looking at me hopefully for a treat with his saggy jowly face that would break out in a doggie grin when he saw me coming.

Oh, I really hate this.

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Just found out my next door neighbors have to put their dog to sleep (Original Post) TorchTheWitch Aug 2013 OP
You are going to be a wonderful support to your friends. Granny M Aug 2013 #1
I really hope I can be - they were a God-send to me when I lost Boo TorchTheWitch Aug 2013 #2
It's going to be so hard for them. Granny M Aug 2013 #3
Aw, you are a good friend... Phentex Aug 2013 #4
Earning angel wings, just like Clarence from Wonderful Life. Stinky The Clown Aug 2013 #5

Granny M

(1,395 posts)
1. You are going to be a wonderful support to your friends.
Mon Aug 12, 2013, 10:13 AM
Aug 2013

Friends who understand are so important as we go through this awful grief of losing a fur kid. Sending you loving, healing thoughts. May you and your friends be blessed.

TorchTheWitch

(11,065 posts)
2. I really hope I can be - they were a God-send to me when I lost Boo
Mon Aug 12, 2013, 02:39 PM
Aug 2013

I think they cried as much as I did when I got back from the vet with the empty collar and leash in my hand and found out what I'd just had to do. They're really the oddest people I've ever known. They drive me batty with their personal issues though now that they're off the drugs it's not nearly as bad as it used to be, but they can also be the friendliest and emotionally giving neighbors of them all here. At least we're on the same wave length when it comes to the love of a pet.

I've offered to help out on the day of when ever that's going to be this week even if it's just emotional support (neither of them has ever had to put a dog to sleep before themselves). I've already told them absolutely everything I can think of about how it's done and what it's like, and so on, and I'm sure their vet will go over everything with them, too, and allow a private room for them to have their last moments with him before they actually do the deed. They want this to be just a family affair as much as possible, though, and I get that. I would have wanted to do it that way myself with my dogs - it's such a private thing, and I didn't want anything getting in the way of that private last moments with either of my other dogs. They decided not to include the youngest daughter though since it will probably scare the hell out of her since she can't really grasp what it's all about. She understands in a way that Bubba is going to go to heaven, but she doesn't really yet grasp the whole concept of death and that no one comes back. She does seem to understand that Bubba has to go away, but I'm not sure she really gets it that he's not ever going to come back some day. It's just too confusing for her young mind to really understand at her age, and they definitely don't want her freaked out by seeing what happens. In a way that's really so sad since she's the one person Bubba would want with him most of all, and they know that, so it's another emotional pain for them to deal with.

The older daughter wants to go, too, but they're letting her decide if she wants to be in the room or not at the time until the last moment since she's really on the fence about that. I'm glad they made it absolutely clear to her that it's totally her call if she wants to be there or just stay in the privacy room when they go to do the deed, and they'll stick behind whatever decision she ends up making. She feels like she has to decide now, and they keep telling her that it's perfectly ok if she makes that decision at the last moment depending on how she's feeling about it at the time, and it doesn't matter what she ends up doing - that they're just happy that she wants to go as far as the vet's office and be a part of this family ritual as much as she feels able.

This morning I went out into the yard with Yoshi to check the pool chemicals (Yoshi has no interest in the pool but insists on supervising everything I do with it anyway), and the neighbors on the other side of me asked me if I knew about Bubba's day coming, and we both got teary-eyed and clutched at our own dogs in mutual misery. As far as I can tell, all the neighbors are upset. Bubba is a well-loved gentle giant, and pretty much everyone is really hurting that he has to go so soon.

Granny M

(1,395 posts)
3. It's going to be so hard for them.
Mon Aug 12, 2013, 05:59 PM
Aug 2013

Sending good thoughts. Let us know how they all are doing. Take care of yourself, too, because I can imagine that watching them go through it will bring up your own loss.

Phentex

(16,330 posts)
4. Aw, you are a good friend...
Mon Aug 12, 2013, 06:05 PM
Aug 2013

and it hurts even when it's not our own lovable.

It sounds cheesy but it meant a lot to me when friends sent me cards after we put our dog down. Other dog people get it.

Stinky The Clown

(67,765 posts)
5. Earning angel wings, just like Clarence from Wonderful Life.
Mon Aug 12, 2013, 07:55 PM
Aug 2013

Doing for others is its own special reward. You're good people, you are.

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