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Violet_Crumble

(35,961 posts)
Sat Feb 1, 2014, 02:10 AM Feb 2014

I had to get my dog put to sleep this morning :(

Her name was Mini and she was an awesome microscopic Chihuahua/Foxy X who was losing her battle with heart failure because of the extreme heat here over the past week. She keeled over last night when I was giving her dinner and had a seizure so I took her to the vet this morning who said it was time to say goodbye to her coz her medications weren't working on her anymore.

I knew it was coming, but it really hurts to walk round the house this afternoon picking up her toys and stuff. And I miss her getting tangled in my feet when she followed me round the house incessantly, which was rather annoying at times...

Anyway, RIP Mini. You had breath like an opened grave and the worst separation anxiety I've ever seen, but you were a member of my family and I'm really gonna miss you

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I had to get my dog put to sleep this morning :( (Original Post) Violet_Crumble Feb 2014 OP
RIP Mini applegrove Feb 2014 #1
I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved Mini. n/t phylny Feb 2014 #2
I am so sorry for your loss Violet_Crumble. sked14 Feb 2014 #3
I'm so sorry for losing Mini TorchTheWitch Feb 2014 #4
Thanks to all of you for yr thoughts... Violet_Crumble Feb 2014 #8
guilt is just part of the process TorchTheWitch Feb 2014 #11
I'm so very alsame Feb 2014 #5
Oooh .... I'm so sorry Violet :( polly7 Feb 2014 #6
rest easy, sweet girl fizzgig Feb 2014 #7
I am sorry for your loss. Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #9
I am so sorry for your loss. Curmudgeoness Feb 2014 #10
I'm so sorry. LisaLynne Feb 2014 #12
RIP - Sorry For The Loss Of Your Friend cantbeserious Feb 2014 #13
My deepest, most sincere condolences, Violet. Rest well, Mini. Stinky The Clown Feb 2014 #14
I am so SORRY . . . BigDemVoter Feb 2014 #15
I'm so sorry for your loss, Violet.. virgdem Feb 2014 #16
a big hug for you orleans Feb 2014 #17
my heart goes out to you. hang in there williesgirl Feb 2014 #18
I'm so sorry... Phentex Feb 2014 #19
I'm very sorry for your loss. sinkingfeeling Feb 2014 #20
 

sked14

(579 posts)
3. I am so sorry for your loss Violet_Crumble.
Sat Feb 1, 2014, 11:34 AM
Feb 2014

It's a hard thing when we lose our pets who are a part of our family.
RIP Mini.

TorchTheWitch

(11,065 posts)
4. I'm so sorry for losing Mini
Sat Feb 1, 2014, 01:36 PM
Feb 2014

Losing our fur babies is just so heartbreaking. We've probably all been there at one time or another and know exactly how very much it really hurts and what you're going through. Bless you for being there for Mini for her final journey. She'll always live on in your heart.



Violet_Crumble

(35,961 posts)
8. Thanks to all of you for yr thoughts...
Sat Feb 1, 2014, 05:11 PM
Feb 2014

Mini was the first dog I had since I moved out of home years ago and got my own place. My parents had our family dog after we all moved out, and he got cancer and was put to sleep, though the vet stuffed that one up so bad it traumatised me and left me so angry that I never grieved. Yesterday was different. The vet was sensitive and gave me and my daughter time to say goodbye, though I couldn't bring myself to be with Mini right at the very end.

So while I felt for DUers who I've seen post that they've lost their pets, I never really understood how deeply it hurt, if that makes sense. Now I do. It doesn't matter how many people told me yesterday I did the right thing for Mini and I should be happy she got a reprieve of a few months after she initially got sick, I still can't get past that moment yesterday at the vet where all I wanted to do was pick her up, take her home, and pretend that nothing was wrong. I still feel guilty that I didn't, even though there's the rational part of me knowing that she was suffering and it would have been cruel and selfish to do it to her

TorchTheWitch

(11,065 posts)
11. guilt is just part of the process
Sat Feb 1, 2014, 06:23 PM
Feb 2014

It's an impossible decision to make yet we still have to make it. Feeling guilty about how we did it, if it was too late or too soon, etc. etc. is normal. I still feel pangs of guilt on occasion for when and how I put my two previous doggies to sleep, but when I think about it with any rationality I know I still did the right thing with the information I had and with a broken heart that wanted none of it. We can only do the best we can at the time when we're feeling desperately heartbroken. Try not to beat yourself up about it. No matter what we do as long as it's the best we can do that's ok. Like I said, it's an impossible decision to make yet we still have to make it anyway.

I know, it just sucks like nothing else.


polly7

(20,582 posts)
6. Oooh .... I'm so sorry Violet :(
Sat Feb 1, 2014, 03:26 PM
Feb 2014

What a gorgeous little sweetheart your Mini was. It really is losing a beloved family member, and I wish you strength and peace.

Safe crossing, Mini.

Behind the Aegis

(53,955 posts)
9. I am sorry for your loss.
Sat Feb 1, 2014, 05:17 PM
Feb 2014

It is never easy to say goodbye. She was and is loved, and that is what she needed.



Every good home should have a dog. Every dog should have a good home.

Curmudgeoness

(18,219 posts)
10. I am so sorry for your loss.
Sat Feb 1, 2014, 05:22 PM
Feb 2014

You made me cry talking about walking around the house alone, picking up all the toys. I know just how hard that part is. But thanks for making me chuckle at the end. One of the hardest things that we have to go through as fur parents.

Rest well, Mini. There will be no more pain.

BigDemVoter

(4,150 posts)
15. I am so SORRY . . .
Sat Feb 1, 2014, 11:14 PM
Feb 2014

My two are members of the family, so I understand.

One thing you can ALWAYS tell yourself is that you provided a wonderful, loving home for Mini, and I'm certain she felt loved and secure in her little world. . . .

She must have won the doggy lottery to have ended up with you!

virgdem

(2,125 posts)
16. I'm so sorry for your loss, Violet..
Sat Feb 1, 2014, 11:41 PM
Feb 2014

We all know and understand what you are experiencing. Much peace to you as you grieve the loss of your beloved Mini. RIP Mini.

orleans

(34,051 posts)
17. a big hug for you
Sun Feb 2, 2014, 12:33 AM
Feb 2014

i'm sorry you lost your girl
i lost my little girl back in june and i'm still not over it.
every now and then i hear her scratching on the kitchen door frame (which is what she did in order to direct me to feed her or let her outside) and one time as i sat on the couch i felt the couch getting bumped into like she'd do when she would rub her face along the bottom part of the couch.

i think our love keeps us together (whether we still feel them, hear them, or not)

my heart goes out to you


"I Stood by Your Bed Last Night

"I stood by your bed last night, I came to have a peep.
I could see that you were crying...you found it hard to sleep.
I whined to you softly as you brushed away a tear.
"It's me, I haven't left you...I'm well, I'm fine, I'm here."

I was close to you at breakfast, I watched you pour the tea.
You were thinking of the many times, your hands reached down to me.
I was with you at the shops today, your arms were getting sore.
I longed to take your parcels, I wish I could do more.

I was with you at my grave today, you tend it with such care.
I want to reassure you that I am not lying there.
I walked with you toward the house, as you fumbled for your key,
I gently put my paw on you. I smiled and said, "It's me."

You looked so very tired, and sank into a chair.
I tried so hard to let you know that I was standing there.
It's possible for me to be so near you every day.
To say to you with certainty, "I never went away."

You sat there very quietly, then smiled, I think you knew...
In the stillness of that evening, I was very close to you.
The day is over...I smile and watch you yawning
And say, "Goodnight, God bless, I'll see you in the morning."

And when the time is right for you to cross the brief divide,
I'll rush across to greet you and we will stand, side-by-side.
I have so many things to show you, there is so much for you to see.
Be patient, live your journey out...then come home to be with me.

-Author Unknown

and

Pawprints Left By You
You no longer greet me,
As I walk through the door.
You're not there to make me smile,
To make me laugh anymore.
Life seems quiet without you,
You were far more than a pet.
You were a family member, a friend
. . . a loving soul I'll never forget.
It will take time to heal -
For the silence to go away.
I still listen for you,
And miss you every day.
You were such a great companion,
Constant, loyal and true.
My heart will always wear,
the pawprints left by you.

-Teri Harrison

both poems at:
http://dogsympathycards.blogspot.com/p/dog-poems-and-quotes.html

here's to mini

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