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Stonepounder

(4,033 posts)
Thu Aug 22, 2019, 12:50 AM Aug 2019

I've been struggling over writing this for over a week.

https://www.pinterest.com/pin/862298659886359413/

Last Tuesday we made the heart wrenching decision that it was time to
let our Bosley go. He had stopped eating, was sleeping 22-23 hours a
day, needed to be carried outside and then back in again. Liz and I can
still barely talk about it. I find myself getting out 5 cookies for
treats instead of 4, or two insulin hypos instead of just one.

Bosley was with us for something over 12 years and knew every dog and
cat we have ever owned. We had just gotten Dulcinea as a puppy to be a
companion for Sancho, our first Cavalier, and were taking her to puppy
school at Pet Smart. Sancho was not about to be left alone, so he came
along to class just to watch. The staff at Pet Smart realized we were
sort of Crazy Dog Folks. One day we arrived for Dulci's class an a
clerk came running up to us to tell us there was an adoption day going
on and they 'had one of your kind of dog!'. So naturally we had to go
look. In truth, Bosley wasn't a Cavalier, he was a King Charles Spaniel
(aka a Charlie), but we always considered him an honorary Cavalier. We
made it out of the store without him, since we had just gotten Dulci.
But the next day the Mrs. called me at work and said she just couldn't stop
thinking about 'that dog'. So I called Pet Smart, got the number for
the Shelter and called them. Turns out they had making bets on when we
would call. They brought him back to Pet Smart the next week and he
became out Bosi Bear.

He had been rescued from a Puppy Mill where he had been standing stud so
his life could have been worse, but it hadn't been great. When he came
to us he didn't have any idea how to go up or down stairs, he would come
if he were called but it was a slink with his tail between his legs. He
very quickly realized that his life had changed for the better and
wanted to do everything he possibly could to get our approval and love.
And he never stopped.

Shortly after we moved back to Ky he was diagnosed with diabetes. Our
vet told us that the average expectancy for diabetic dogs was 3-5
years. Bosley was going on 9 years a diabetic. We've been aware that
old age was catching up with him, but have been in denial. But last
week we couldn't deny any longer. It was one of the hardest good-byes
we have ever had to go through.

Run free, full of energy and no aches or pains at the Bridge, Bosi
Bear. Say Hi to Sancho and Dulci and Maggi for us and let them know
that we will be along presently. We love you dearly and miss you terribly.
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I've been struggling over writing this for over a week. (Original Post) Stonepounder Aug 2019 OP
RIP Bosi Bear and condolences to you lunasun Aug 2019 #1
... sheshe2 Aug 2019 #2
I extend my heart to you and Liz. You were lucky to have had Bosley for so long, since she had The Wielding Truth Aug 2019 #3
How fine you were, be happy, the animal you loved and cared for knew, felt and sensed pack/master braddy Aug 2019 #4
My heart goes out to you as you travel through this terrible loss... CaliforniaPeggy Aug 2019 #5
I am so sad for you! BigmanPigman Aug 2019 #6
Oh I feel for you and I feel your love for your Bosley. I'm getting teary. May the good heart of emmaverybo Aug 2019 #7
Wow, you had him for so much longer than you thought- dawg day Aug 2019 #8
I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet boy. onecaliberal Aug 2019 #9
You've earned some stars in your crown. ZZenith Aug 2019 #10
I went through something similar w/ my Shar Pei three years ago. sandensea Aug 2019 #11
So sad to read this, Stonepounder. littlemissmartypants Aug 2019 #12
I'm so very sorry. catbyte Aug 2019 #13
Sounds like you and Bosley had some good years together. bearssoapbox Aug 2019 #14
I'm so sorry KT2000 Aug 2019 #15
Oh I'm really sorry... it just sucks to loose a pet Thekaspervote Aug 2019 #16
I'm so sorry for your loss of Bosley. You gave him a livetohike Aug 2019 #17
I'm sorry for your loss vercetti2021 Aug 2019 #18
I'm so sorry for your loss. phylny Aug 2019 #19
Deepest condolences. sinkingfeeling Aug 2019 #20
OMG I am so sorry. Your tribute to him has me in tears. Maraya1969 Aug 2019 #21
No words...... peacebuzzard Aug 2019 #22
So sorry for your loss Freddie Aug 2019 #23

lunasun

(21,646 posts)
1. RIP Bosi Bear and condolences to you
Thu Aug 22, 2019, 01:11 AM
Aug 2019

Been there and still missing terribly. Good memories help with the grief

The Wielding Truth

(11,415 posts)
3. I extend my heart to you and Liz. You were lucky to have had Bosley for so long, since she had
Thu Aug 22, 2019, 01:13 AM
Aug 2019

diabetes for so long.

 

braddy

(3,585 posts)
4. How fine you were, be happy, the animal you loved and cared for knew, felt and sensed pack/master
Thu Aug 22, 2019, 01:13 AM
Aug 2019

warmth, caring and escort to his moving on.

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,583 posts)
5. My heart goes out to you as you travel through this terrible loss...
Thu Aug 22, 2019, 01:13 AM
Aug 2019

We only had one dog, a big Dalmation that we raised from puppyhood. I called her my third daughter. She would lie near the door when I went out and would go mad with joy when I returned. She brought so much love to all of us!

It was awful when she died. I cried for weeks. One day, months afterward, I was out driving, running errands, when I saw a young woman walking her Dalmation. Her dog had very similar markings to ours. I rolled down my window and called out what a beautiful dog she had. She smiled and waved back.

Several blocks away, I pulled over and bawled my head off. She was so special. I still miss her, though our animal-keeping days are long over.

I wish you happy memories through your tears........

BigmanPigman

(51,584 posts)
6. I am so sad for you!
Thu Aug 22, 2019, 01:29 AM
Aug 2019

Losing my dog was the single worst thing I ever experienced until my dad suddenly died 4 months ago. Please take care of yourself even though it will be hard for a long, long time. I found out how big a club I had joined when my baby died. Talking with others helped a lot.

emmaverybo

(8,144 posts)
7. Oh I feel for you and I feel your love for your Bosley. I'm getting teary. May the good heart of
Thu Aug 22, 2019, 01:30 AM
Aug 2019

the universe comfort you and wife in your most difficult time and bless you for giving a beautiful, caring home where Bosley was embraced and understood. Thank you for sharing your family story with us, the joy and the heart-break.

dawg day

(7,947 posts)
8. Wow, you had him for so much longer than you thought-
Thu Aug 22, 2019, 01:44 AM
Aug 2019

To die of old age, that's a nice fate for a dog.

And he had such a wonderful life with you. He sounds like a happy dog who added so much to your family.
As Stephen Colbert said, one of the sad benefits of love is grief. Grief is proof that you love. Bosi Bear was loved, and loved back.
What a lovely pup he was !

sandensea

(21,622 posts)
11. I went through something similar w/ my Shar Pei three years ago.
Thu Aug 22, 2019, 02:07 AM
Aug 2019

Very difficult - but I know she's so much happier in her new home, free from pain.

You're a brave soul - and Bosley knows it and appreciates every last thing you did for him.

catbyte

(34,371 posts)
13. I'm so very sorry.
Thu Aug 22, 2019, 02:20 AM
Aug 2019

I'm in tears reading your tribute to a truly remarkable friend, companion, and family member. Run free, Bosi Bear. Many are mourning you.

bearssoapbox

(1,408 posts)
14. Sounds like you and Bosley had some good years together.
Thu Aug 22, 2019, 03:09 AM
Aug 2019

Remember the life he was saved from and the love and joy you gave each other.

Letting them go isn't easy but watching them suffer is harder.

I've gone through it several times and am about to go through it again with one of our rescue cats. Cancer. She's in no pain yet and is still eating and alert. She has SCC of the face. I can't bring myself to say the name of the tumor.

Sorry about going on but just got to typing.

You have my prayers, thoughts and condolences.


Thekaspervote

(32,754 posts)
16. Oh I'm really sorry... it just sucks to loose a pet
Thu Aug 22, 2019, 03:42 AM
Aug 2019

As a big pet fan you have probably heard of the rainbow bridge. If not it’s here at the link.... very heartfelt

https://www.rainbowsbridge.com/poem.htm

livetohike

(22,138 posts)
17. I'm so sorry for your loss of Bosley. You gave him a
Thu Aug 22, 2019, 05:02 AM
Aug 2019

wonderful life and cared for him through his diabetes with love and diligent care. (My Cindy has diabetes in her later years). May the memories of the good times together stay in your heart and bring a smile.

vercetti2021

(10,156 posts)
18. I'm sorry for your loss
Thu Aug 22, 2019, 06:06 AM
Aug 2019

I had to put my dog down a few weeks ago and it's still very difficult. Just remember all the happy things that you did with him

phylny

(8,378 posts)
19. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Thu Aug 22, 2019, 08:09 AM
Aug 2019

What a great life you gave him, and he gave you. Hugs from a fellow dog lover.

Maraya1969

(22,474 posts)
21. OMG I am so sorry. Your tribute to him has me in tears.
Thu Aug 22, 2019, 08:14 PM
Aug 2019

You and your wife sounds like wonderful people who have been great parents to several fluffy babies.

I wish peace for both of you in this hard time.

peacebuzzard

(5,167 posts)
22. No words......
Thu Aug 22, 2019, 08:42 PM
Aug 2019

So sorry for this deep loss.
I also lost my sweet angel rescue pup on 31 July. I have trouble finding words. I do know how you must feel. Till we all meet on the Rainbow Bridge.

Freddie

(9,259 posts)
23. So sorry for your loss
Fri Aug 23, 2019, 07:59 AM
Aug 2019

We lost my Freddie cat (my DU namesake) almost 4 years ago. We got a pair of rescue kittens (big boys now) but I still miss my sweet orange baby all the time.
I hear Cavaliers have the sweet and gentle personality of a lab. True? My daughter is considering getting another dog. They already have a lab who is wonderful with the kids.

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