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Related: About this forumHow Christian Purity Culture Enabled My Step Dad to Sexually Abuse Me
In those incredibly awkward and galling conversations he reassured me repeatedly that he would never do anything to compromise my virginity. Using the tone of a person explaining something perfectly logical that should be obvious to anyone with the IQ of a mollusk, he explained that my mother had gained weight and it was killing his boners. I was young, slender and attractive and he saw nothing terribly wrong with using my body to kick-start the old engine and thoughts of me to keep it humming along.
What baffled me then but makes perfect sense to me now is why he thought that I would be reassured by his repeated promises that he would not cross the arbitrary line of virginity. He had no real plans to stop using me as his fluffer. But my virginity, which he had pledged to protect and to keep safe for my future husband, was off-limits. As time went by and his fluff-sessions became more lurid, I feared the line of technical virginity would be like the Maginot Line, more an illusion of safety than an actual defense.
But he kept his promise. And now I understand why. The emphasis placed on virginity by the Purity Culture allowed my step-father to minimize his non-vaginal sexual abuse of my body.
http://www.alternet.org/how-christian-purity-culture-enabled-my-step-dad-sexually-abuse-me
Read the entire article to see just how deep this depravity goes. And deeply held religious beliefs are used to justify it. To tolerate it.
Religion being used to enable pedophilia is not new, but only because these are religious beliefs do we stand idly by and do nothing to stop it. Gotta respect those deeply held beliefs, right?
rug
(82,333 posts)Gee, I dunno.
That question lacks in rhetoric as much as it lacks in understanding of the issue,
Warpy
(111,237 posts)Using your daughter as a fluffer probably works better than Viagra and since all that would rid you of a daughter was selling her hymen to the highest bidder, "lying with his daughters" in the bible probably meant just that.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)normal for religious behavior.
Or some other bullshit.
Ron Obvious
(6,261 posts)Is that really true? There seems to be an inordinate amount of fascination with it as far as I can tell. At least among the Abrahamic religions.
okasha
(11,573 posts)religions constitute a "vast majority."
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)I suppose we could quibble about 'vast'. 55% of the world's population, and the abrahamic religions as a are much bigger than any other religion. But throw Hinduism in too, if you like, they also are obsessed with women's sexuality.
okasha
(11,573 posts)not religions. Different things.
Nor is everyone who is a Christian or a Muslim obsessed with women's sexuality. Claiming otherwise would be like saying that the vast majority of atheists are obsessed with other people's religious beliefs. I don't think they are, though if.one sampled only this online group, one could come to a very different conclusion.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)Yes the Abrahamic religions only count as three of hundreds, and obviously the poster we are arguing over meant vast majority of the total number of religions not the adherents, obviously. Your argument is dishonest quibbling. Religions, almost unanimously, are obsessed with women's sexuality and with sexuality in general. Arguing against that is ridiculous.
though if.one sampled only this online group, one could come to a very different conclusion
From a daily sample: Dishonesty or thoughtlessness. On display in the religion forum on a daily basis.
okasha
(11,573 posts)All that staetment shows is how unfamiliar you are with snything outside your own culture.
But keep at it.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)Ron Obvious
(6,261 posts)My sarcasm detector was off. Sorry.
el_bryanto
(11,804 posts)What this Godly father did with her daughter is none of your business; and if you truly respected religious diversity you'd leave him alone!
There does that make you feel better?
Bryant
Is this fascination with sexual "purity" harmful? Should it be countered?
el_bryanto
(11,804 posts)trotsky
(49,533 posts)You are the first.
skepticscott
(13,029 posts)is just a backhanded way to avoid actually criticizing something openly. Wouldn't want to ever acknowledge that religion can be the cause of anything evil. Not part of the religionista creed.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)trotsky
(49,533 posts)Who could possibly object to that?
cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)Why do you even bother commenting?