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rug

(82,333 posts)
Tue Oct 28, 2014, 06:01 PM Oct 2014

5 Reasons Not To Indoctrinate Kids Against Religion

October 27, 2014
by Wendy Thomas Russell

My post last week on speaking about religion with kids in neutral terms has definitely ruffled some feathers. The comment thread features some folks who believe quite strongly that religion should be treated like the enemy — and that atheist parents are misleading their kids by speaking objectively about the subject. Interestingly (or maybe not), it’s a perspective I encounter far more often in people who have not yet had children. In a post today by fellow Patheos blogger Kaveh Mousav (the pseudonym used by an ex-Muslim atheist living in Iran — brave chap!), Kaveh argues that he plans to teach his children (when he has them) that religion is nonsense, period. And others have chimed in that indoctrinating kids into atheism is A-Okay as long as it doesn’t involve abuse.

Now, there’s no doubt that there are some striking differences between religious and non-religious indoctrination. With non-religious indoctrination, kids are never threatened with hell, for instance, or made to worry that an all-powerful being is judging their every move. (Thank God for that.) But there are plenty of negative consequences nonetheless. More and more, for example, as atheism goes mainstream, we run the risk of creating a generation of anti-religious zealots — children who grow up with no understanding of why anyone would hang on to religious beliefs, no empathy for those who do, and no ability to explore those beliefs for themselves.

For the purposes of my book, Relax, It’s Just God, which comes out in February (yes, you just witnessed shameless self-promotion), I define indoctrination as the halfway mark between simple suggestion and full-on brainwashing. You can be reasonably sure you are indoctrinating your kids if you teach them:

1. Your way is the only right way to believe. In this context, right means good; it does not necessarily mean true. This is because most people assume that what they believe is true — and there’s nothing wrong with that. But truth doesn’t always equate with benevolence or decency. In other words, it’s okay to think other people’s beliefs are wrong; it’s another to assume they’re bad.

http://www.patheos.com/blogs/naturalwonderers/indoctrination/#ixzz3HTn0sEzt

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5 Reasons Not To Indoctrinate Kids Against Religion (Original Post) rug Oct 2014 OP
'misleading their kids by speaking objectively???!!!' elleng Oct 2014 #1
+1 rock Oct 2014 #27
Religion can be used for healing or for destroying Dont call me Shirley Oct 2014 #2
Don't forget the stained glass! immoderate Oct 2014 #79
Hey, I want that stained glass, it's gorgeous! Imagine all the colors when the sun shines through! Dont call me Shirley Oct 2014 #85
Lots of beautiful glass. I picked the smallest. immoderate Oct 2014 #86
Thanks for the link, stunning! Dont call me Shirley Oct 2014 #87
I don't get this. As a parent you should teach your upaloopa Oct 2014 #3
Do you think you should only teach kids things cbayer Oct 2014 #4
I would teach what I think and why upaloopa Oct 2014 #6
So are you likely to teach your children your beliefs about cbayer Oct 2014 #7
I would teach that we all have to investigate and upaloopa Oct 2014 #8
I totally agree with that. cbayer Oct 2014 #9
I was baptized Catholic. I went to Catholic grade school, high school and college. upaloopa Oct 2014 #10
That's a fascinating story about the paths you and your brother took. cbayer Oct 2014 #11
I must credit even my Catholic teachers upaloopa Oct 2014 #13
Jesuits, by any chance? cbayer Oct 2014 #15
Marianists upaloopa Oct 2014 #16
I had to look that up. cbayer Oct 2014 #17
I suspect the instruction about atheism is rather lacking in most theist households Fumesucker Oct 2014 #25
That may be the case, but I would encourage parents to teach their kids both cbayer Oct 2014 #32
Given that the most knowledgeable group about religion in the US is atheists.. Fumesucker Oct 2014 #33
I don't agree with your statement. There are knowledgable atheists and knowledgable cbayer Oct 2014 #34
I wouldn't say something like that if it wasn't so.. Fumesucker Oct 2014 #35
I've seen that data. cbayer Oct 2014 #36
Nine percent isn't statistically significant? Fumesucker Oct 2014 #37
You misjudge me once again, FS. cbayer Oct 2014 #39
Yes. Your blithe refusal of facts, and false reclassification of data as 'statistically insignifican AtheistCrusader Oct 2014 #45
You are a statistician also? Fumesucker Oct 2014 #47
I think there are a wide variety of stories posted here. cbayer Oct 2014 #58
As I pointed out, the only pushback against the negative stories about atheists comes from atheists Fumesucker Oct 2014 #88
I think that there is a lot more to being competent than just a grade on a test. cbayer Oct 2014 #92
QUIT BRINGING YOUR FACTS INTO THIS AtheistCrusader Oct 2014 #44
Of course you should. Erich Bloodaxe BSN Oct 2014 #84
This is a great point, actually. cbayer Oct 2014 #93
Excellent article. Tolerance and understanding of those who cbayer Oct 2014 #5
Tolerance and understanding of people is nice and all. Tolerance and understanding of shitty ideas AtheistCrusader Oct 2014 #43
This was very interesting libodem Oct 2014 #12
None of my kids are religious either, though religion plays a role in their lives to some extent. cbayer Oct 2014 #14
They sound like wonderful kids libodem Oct 2014 #23
Agree that they come through us but they are definitely their own people. cbayer Oct 2014 #24
This message was self-deleted by its author Cartoonist Oct 2014 #18
Had to delete that last one Cartoonist Oct 2014 #19
Ah, I missed it and I am so sad. cbayer Oct 2014 #22
Not teaching kids about religion because you don't like it is like not teaching kids about drugs.... NYC_SKP Oct 2014 #20
Great analogies. cbayer Oct 2014 #21
"At the very least, people should refrain from being negative about religion" AtheistCrusader Oct 2014 #42
It apparently hurts people's feelings when they actually have to think about what they believe. Gore1FL Oct 2014 #46
Drugs and guns, when misused, can hurt or kill your children. djean111 Oct 2014 #26
They lied to you to get to your kid? Nice. Mariana Oct 2014 #30
Yes, they did. This was almost twenty years ago. I had been relocated to Durham from Illinois. djean111 Oct 2014 #31
I always said I'd handle it this way Prophet 451 Oct 2014 #28
I raised my kids with no religious beliefs riverbendviewgal Oct 2014 #29
Is this a thing to be worried about know? edhopper Oct 2014 #38
I think the argument can be made in both directions, to be honest. cbayer Oct 2014 #40
"we run the risk of creating a generation of anti-religious zealots" AtheistCrusader Oct 2014 #41
If you indoctrinate your child that religion is no more than "magical bullshit", rug Oct 2014 #48
And the jury results are in... aikoaiko Oct 2014 #49
Thanks for the info. rug Oct 2014 #50
itt; critical thinking skills = indoctrination AtheistCrusader Oct 2014 #53
Did someone alert on yours? rug Oct 2014 #56
not that i'm aware. AtheistCrusader Oct 2014 #60
It is not indoctrination… NeoGreen Oct 2014 #59
"magical bullshit" is an inaccurate and incomplete opinion that requires a child rug Oct 2014 #61
Please... NeoGreen Oct 2014 #62
Did you miss it? rug Oct 2014 #63
No... NeoGreen Oct 2014 #64
Scroll up. That wasn't my term. rug Oct 2014 #65
Would you agree... NeoGreen Oct 2014 #66
Absolutely. rug Oct 2014 #70
Then... NeoGreen Oct 2014 #73
I always tell them what I think. More importantly, I tell them why I think it. rug Oct 2014 #76
How does that not fall into: NeoGreen Oct 2014 #78
Because by listening, I may learn that I'm wrong. rug Oct 2014 #81
You model of presentation... NeoGreen Oct 2014 #105
If none of it interests you, there's no need to bring it up. rug Oct 2014 #106
Hello... NeoGreen Oct 2014 #69
No, I was in court. rug Oct 2014 #71
Fair enough... NeoGreen Oct 2014 #74
"It's only a bloody parking offence." rug Oct 2014 #75
Meh... NeoGreen Oct 2014 #80
What do you teach your child about the ancient greek gods? AtheistCrusader Oct 2014 #89
I start with their human attributes and limitations and move on from there. rug Oct 2014 #90
Interesting. AtheistCrusader Oct 2014 #104
Even in the Old Testament, God is ineffable. rug Oct 2014 #107
IMO this article is theistic non-sense. nt ladjf Oct 2014 #51
. . . . written by a nontheist. rug Oct 2014 #52
So the author says anyway. AtheistCrusader Oct 2014 #54
No true nontheist. rug Oct 2014 #55
I prefer the Dennett approach. longship Oct 2014 #57
Agree. Education is the key and the case she makes cbayer Oct 2014 #67
Anyway that can come about is good. longship Oct 2014 #68
A simple family experience - pinto Oct 2014 #72
What a bloody joke. Daemonaquila Oct 2014 #77
Excuse me for using a Hitler reference Cartoonist Oct 2014 #82
If you think religion, unspecified and unidentified, is the equivalent of nazism, rug Oct 2014 #91
I've made this point many times Cartoonist Oct 2014 #95
And the hits just keep coming. Christianity is worse than Nazism! cbayer Oct 2014 #96
And here's the best part Cartoonist Oct 2014 #98
Yes! There are numbers to support that christianity is worse than Nazism! cbayer Oct 2014 #99
Time for you to open your mind Cartoonist Oct 2014 #100
My mind is quite a bit more open than yours. cbayer Oct 2014 #101
The good people are welcome Cartoonist Oct 2014 #102
So gracious of you. Whether they "need" religion or not is not the point. cbayer Oct 2014 #103
Omg. You are now comparing religious beliefs to nazism. cbayer Oct 2014 #94
Here's the most apt comparison I can find Cartoonist Oct 2014 #97
Thank the Gods Erich Bloodaxe BSN Oct 2014 #83

Dont call me Shirley

(10,998 posts)
85. Hey, I want that stained glass, it's gorgeous! Imagine all the colors when the sun shines through!
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 04:35 PM
Oct 2014

UU window, no doubt

upaloopa

(11,417 posts)
3. I don't get this. As a parent you should teach your
Tue Oct 28, 2014, 06:11 PM
Oct 2014

kids about religion even if religion has no place in your life? If so I disagree. Kids should be free when they reach the age to develop their own philosophies to chose religion for themselves if they want but I don't have to teach them about religion. I think it is better to teach kids critical thinking and to investigate various philosophies.

cbayer

(146,218 posts)
4. Do you think you should only teach kids things
Tue Oct 28, 2014, 06:37 PM
Oct 2014

that are a part of your life?

I agree that kids should ideally be free to pursue their own beliefs or lack of beliefs regarding religion, but how can they be expected tot do that if they know nothing about religion?

The biggest problem, imo, is that ignorance leads to intolerance and bigotry. Most people are going to come into contact with those that see the world differently than they do. If they know nothing about other religions, or even worse have been given very negative messages about them, they are likely to judge them negatively.

When you talk about teaching kids critical thinking and to investigate various philosophies, how is that different than giving them information about different religions and encourage them to explore?

upaloopa

(11,417 posts)
6. I would teach what I think and why
Tue Oct 28, 2014, 06:40 PM
Oct 2014

I don't see religion as a positive force so I would not teach about it.
Not as an insult to anyone but I think organized religion is superstition or cultish.

cbayer

(146,218 posts)
7. So are you likely to teach your children your beliefs about
Tue Oct 28, 2014, 06:46 PM
Oct 2014

religion being a superstition or cultish?

What are you likely to tell them about in individuals that believe? How are you likely to respond if they make fun of or disparage their peers who are religious?

upaloopa

(11,417 posts)
8. I would teach that we all have to investigate and
Tue Oct 28, 2014, 06:49 PM
Oct 2014

make choices for ourselves. You can respect people's choices without agreeing with what they chose.

cbayer

(146,218 posts)
9. I totally agree with that.
Tue Oct 28, 2014, 07:10 PM
Oct 2014

But in order to respect other people's beliefs (and those with no beliefs), I think you need to have some basic understanding of what they are.

The author argues against indoctrination. I think she makes your point in some ways.

FWIW, I don't' fully agree that religious beliefs or lack of beliefs is a choice. Could you choose to be a believer?

upaloopa

(11,417 posts)
10. I was baptized Catholic. I went to Catholic grade school, high school and college.
Tue Oct 28, 2014, 07:16 PM
Oct 2014

I never believed what I was taught about Catholicism. I decided in high school to develop my own philosophy of life. By contrast my brother is a Catholic priest. We had similar upbringings but chose different paths. We get along fine

cbayer

(146,218 posts)
11. That's a fascinating story about the paths you and your brother took.
Tue Oct 28, 2014, 07:20 PM
Oct 2014

Just goes to show you that many will follow their own path even if they are raised with a certain degree of indoctrination.

I am glad that you and your brother get along.

upaloopa

(11,417 posts)
13. I must credit even my Catholic teachers
Tue Oct 28, 2014, 07:27 PM
Oct 2014

and parents for teaching critical thinking skills and to search for my own meaning in life.
I have to credit myself for having the courage to think on my own. My mother said I was making it easy on myself but I told her if she was right I was going to hell.

cbayer

(146,218 posts)
32. That may be the case, but I would encourage parents to teach their kids both
Wed Oct 29, 2014, 11:41 AM
Oct 2014

about other religions and about atheism/agnosticism. The point should be that everyone is different and that's ok.

Fumesucker

(45,851 posts)
33. Given that the most knowledgeable group about religion in the US is atheists..
Wed Oct 29, 2014, 12:07 PM
Oct 2014

Do you think that the problem is atheists aren't teaching their children about religion?

Or could it be that atheists are teaching their children too much about religion?

cbayer

(146,218 posts)
34. I don't agree with your statement. There are knowledgable atheists and knowledgable
Wed Oct 29, 2014, 12:11 PM
Oct 2014

theists and gross lack of knowledge in both groups.

I think the problem is that people don't teach their children enough about diversity when it comes to religion. But even worse, I think, is when people teach their children that other beliefs are bad.

And that occurs in both theist and atheist households..

Fumesucker

(45,851 posts)
35. I wouldn't say something like that if it wasn't so..
Wed Oct 29, 2014, 12:22 PM
Oct 2014

What I said was that atheists as a group know more than any other in the US, this indeed true.

http://www.pewforum.org/2010/09/28/u-s-religious-knowledge-survey-who-knows-what-about-religion/



Do you really for one moment think that atheists don't know they are vastly outnumbered in this country and that they have to go along to get along?

It's obvious whenever an atheist doesn't go along, it makes headlines and generates some really ugly rhetoric against a supremely unpopular minority.



cbayer

(146,218 posts)
36. I've seen that data.
Wed Oct 29, 2014, 12:32 PM
Oct 2014

Most of it has no statistical significance, particularly when it comes to differences between atheists, jews and mormons, so your statement is not correct

I know that atheists are grossly outnumbered and face discrimination, but I think that is changing and will continue to change. Increasing knowledge increases tolerance. This article is aimed at those who indoctrinate, and imo that applies both to believers and nonbelievers.

What in particular are you referring to in your last sentence?

Fumesucker

(45,851 posts)
37. Nine percent isn't statistically significant?
Wed Oct 29, 2014, 01:51 PM
Oct 2014

Come on, if the split was the other way you'd be crowing about it..

The meaning of my last sentence can be easily deciphered by reading this forum for a while, some posters seem to scour the internet for any hint of an atheist speaking up and then they post it here.

It's the spitting image of what conservatives are doing to blacks over on Discussionist, any black does anything wrong it's going to get posted there and clucked and tut tutted over by the conservatives there.

cbayer

(146,218 posts)
39. You misjudge me once again, FS.
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 12:59 AM
Oct 2014

I wouldn't be crowing. I have merely looked at the data and I see that it is not statistically significant and doesn't support your claim.

I post both good and bad things about believers and I post both good and bad things about atheists.

Are you comparing me to conservatives that are posting ugly stories about blacks on discussionist? Really?

Why I expect better of you remains somewhat of a mystery to me. Maybe it is because I know you and I have more in common than we do differences.

AtheistCrusader

(33,982 posts)
45. Yes. Your blithe refusal of facts, and false reclassification of data as 'statistically insignifican
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 01:34 AM
Oct 2014

t' is extremely familiar.

Fumesucker's claim is well documented and you're just making shit up when you say 9% isn't statistically significant.

Edit: For clarification, YES, comparing the MEANS by which you are debating. Tactics are the same. Not the content, obviously, someone posting the CONTENT that was brought up for comparison would be MIRT'd in a heartbeat.

Fumesucker

(45,851 posts)
47. You are a statistician also?
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 02:34 AM
Oct 2014

I find that difficult to believe.

There are clearly posters here who scour the internet looking for negative stories about atheists, the most despised minority in America.

Why is it so easy to see the motivation in the case of conservatives going after blacks and so opaque when it's a different minority being put in the crosshairs?

I try not to subscribe to the negative view of you that some atheists on this board have but you don't make it easy when you blow off clear facts with a hand wave because they don't fit your agenda.

You can't even honestly admit that few theists honestly teach their children about atheism despite the fact that you expect atheists to teach their children about religion.

It's fascinating the difference between the way Muslims and atheists are treated here on the DU, if anyone consistently searched out negative stories about Muslims to post here they would come in for a great deal of criticism on DU from non-Muslims because Islamophobia and yet the only posters who complain about exactly the same tactic being used against atheists are the atheists themselves.

The religious privilege drips off this place and so many of you cannot admit it even exists.




cbayer

(146,218 posts)
58. I think there are a wide variety of stories posted here.
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 12:06 PM
Oct 2014

There are some members that seem to have an agenda and some consistently post stories that make atheists look bad and some post stories that consistently make christians look bad. I am not one of those people.

I think you have bought the negative view of me completely. What do you think my agenda is? I clearly agreed with you that theists don't teach their children about atheism and said that the message of this article could be applied either way.

It is also fascinating that there is a difference between he way muslims and christians are treated here on DU. Christians seem to be fair targets for abuse and ridicule.

I very much agree that religious privilege exists, but I don't think it exists on DU.

Fumesucker

(45,851 posts)
88. As I pointed out, the only pushback against the negative stories about atheists comes from atheists
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 07:27 PM
Oct 2014

Non Muslims on the other hand are lined up to push back against any negative stories about Muslims.

That was actually most of my point, the difference in attitude toward the cherry picking of negative stories.

When you tell me that what amounts to a full grade point difference B vs an A in religious knowledge is "not statistically significant" how can I take what you say seriously?

If you go in for surgery, all else being equal do you want the B student or the A student to be wielding the scalpel?

How about your airline pilot, you want the B student or the A student in the cockpit?



cbayer

(146,218 posts)
92. I think that there is a lot more to being competent than just a grade on a test.
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 09:21 PM
Oct 2014

So I would look at a lot more than just the grad when it came to a surgeon.

I will acknowledge that the PEW study shows that Atheists, Jews and Mormons do better than other groups. But I will maintain that there is no significant difference between 20.9, 20.5 and 20.3 out of 32 questions in a survey of 3,412 people. I'm not a statistician but I have enough training and experience in statistics to see that this is not a significant difference.

It's not a letter grade by a long shot. If we were looking at a 4.0 GPA scale, the difference would be a 4.0 vs a 3.92 vs. a 3.88, none of which would anywhere close to a B. Another way to look at it would be that the atheists group got 65% right vs.64% for the Jews vs 63.4% for the mormons.

I can not do the actual statistical evaluation of this data and don't see it in the report, but it's pretty clear that these differences are not significant.

And I find your impugning my character for saying so insulting and beneath you.

AtheistCrusader

(33,982 posts)
44. QUIT BRINGING YOUR FACTS INTO THIS
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 01:32 AM
Oct 2014

lawl

You bet I'll teach my kid about all the other religions. For starters, hundreds of dead religions that humanity has already shaken off like a bad case of fleas.

Then he'll be prepared for, and recognized the same regurgitated bullshit from the current crop of wishful thinking.

Erich Bloodaxe BSN

(14,733 posts)
84. Of course you should.
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 04:08 PM
Oct 2014

They're going to be surrounded with people who believe in it. If you don't teach them about it, the people who do will be those that actually believe in it.

It's just like sex and relationships. If you don't teach your kids, tv and their peers will, and they'll do a crappy job of it.

cbayer

(146,218 posts)
5. Excellent article. Tolerance and understanding of those who
Tue Oct 28, 2014, 06:38 PM
Oct 2014

are different in terms of their religious beliefs or lack of beliefs is critical.

AtheistCrusader

(33,982 posts)
43. Tolerance and understanding of people is nice and all. Tolerance and understanding of shitty ideas
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 01:30 AM
Oct 2014

is not.

libodem

(19,288 posts)
12. This was very interesting
Tue Oct 28, 2014, 07:22 PM
Oct 2014

My oldest and youngest sons are nonbelievers. The older son is somewhat like me in that he isn't religious but does seek spirituality in nontraditional ways. The younger is like my dad and a flat nonbeliever in anything unscientific

My middle son had a best friend from a religious family and always liked going to church, youth group and Young Life at school. He is a fabulous father of 4 and they are regular church attendees..

Ya just never know. I'm proud of all 3.

cbayer

(146,218 posts)
14. None of my kids are religious either, though religion plays a role in their lives to some extent.
Tue Oct 28, 2014, 07:32 PM
Oct 2014

One is living with someone raised in a very evangelical family. One married a muslim, another a catholic. For all three of them, religion is something that they deal with with a graceful elegance that makes me very proud.

I think this can be attributed to their having been raised around people of different faiths and no faith that were all wonderful human beings.

It will be interesting to see how they deal with their children, but I suspect they will teach understanding and tolerance.

I am also proud of all of mine.

libodem

(19,288 posts)
23. They sound like wonderful kids
Wed Oct 29, 2014, 12:13 AM
Oct 2014

Tolerant and open minded. I figure they come through us but they are not us and they will find their own way.

cbayer

(146,218 posts)
24. Agree that they come through us but they are definitely their own people.
Wed Oct 29, 2014, 12:24 AM
Oct 2014

Someone posted here that he is an atheist but his brother is a priest.

That says a lot about how people are individuals and find their own paths.

Upbringing can instill values, but not beliefs, imo.

Response to rug (Original post)

 

NYC_SKP

(68,644 posts)
20. Not teaching kids about religion because you don't like it is like not teaching kids about drugs....
Tue Oct 28, 2014, 10:39 PM
Oct 2014

...or guns because you don't like drugs or guns.

Of course we don't want to indoctrinate, but to those who profess it's wrong to even expose them to religion or religions is as mindless and narrow as a point of view could be.

I would want my children to be fully informed and thus best equipped to make independent decisions.

So, in a way, sheltering them from religion could be seen as indoctrination against spirituality in favor of fundamentalist atheism or antitheism.

cbayer

(146,218 posts)
21. Great analogies.
Tue Oct 28, 2014, 10:46 PM
Oct 2014

At the very least, people should refrain from being negative about religion, and even better if they can teach their children that there are many religions and believing or not believing is ok.

I agree with you and the author that indoctrination is not necessarily unique to religion. It can be tricky, but it makes a lot of sense to give kids as much information as you can, and to do it in a nonjudgmental fashion.

Otherwise, you are just as bas as any other "one way" group.

Gore1FL

(21,127 posts)
46. It apparently hurts people's feelings when they actually have to think about what they believe.
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 01:44 AM
Oct 2014

Then they have to spend the rest of the day praying for you.

 

djean111

(14,255 posts)
26. Drugs and guns, when misused, can hurt or kill your children.
Wed Oct 29, 2014, 06:44 AM
Oct 2014

Maybe religion can, too - but for the purposes of your analogy - not a good analogy. Or, at times, way too good of an analogy.

Children will hear about religion from TV, movies, other children, and then will ask questions. The answer would be, in my home, that some people believe in religion, with a nod to the very many different and conflicting religions, but I do not. The conversation - from ME - would stop right there, although my child would certainly be free to investigate on his own.
Comparative religion is taught in college. That's a good place to start making choices.

Another point that someone else brought up - I sincerely doubt that Atheism is taught as a positive choice in very many theist households. Or even mentioned. Families do not need to be infiltrated by religion if the parents are Atheist. I doubt Christian household teach Atheism, Buddhism, or being Muslim as a choice that they will enlarge upon.

When my son was 14, I let him attend Baptist church with the next door neighbors' kids. I was assured it was a social thing.
One Sunday he went with them for an "afternoon party". Turned out they BAPTIZED him, immersion style. And told me that they were afraid to let me know, in case I objected. He told me later that he just wanted to fit in with the other kids.
And he also brought home a flyer inviting us all to see a special movie about how Mormons are the anti-Christ.
My sister was a Mormon at that time. End of relationship with neighbors.

This reminds me of the push, a while back, to start teaching from the Christian bible in public elementary and middle schools. Creationism. In Georgia, I think. The same argument was used, about how children should be "exposed" to religion. As long as it was Christian, of course.
And objections were sneeringly met with "What are you afraid of?"
My answer - proselytize on your own dime, people have a right to raise their children as they wish, as far as religion goes. And if a family is atheist, that really means they don't think about religion at all, atheism is not something that needs to be discussed, attend services, all that sort of thing.For young children, because they are too young to make their own choices, Jesus is pretty much the same thing as the Easter bunny or Santa Claus. Something their parents push. Or not.



 

djean111

(14,255 posts)
31. Yes, they did. This was almost twenty years ago. I had been relocated to Durham from Illinois.
Wed Oct 29, 2014, 10:27 AM
Oct 2014

I think they were covered under "Lying for the Lord".

I think they also knew that their close friend, a tobacco farmer down the road, who built a spec house every winter (countryside north of Durham), had built my house using untreated lumber for the supports and floor (over the crawl space). When I got transferred to Tampa by my big evil telecom company, the relocation inspector would not give the house a passing grade because of wood rot underneath the house, and in the deck where it attached to the house. When he found out who built it, he had a word with him, all visible rot was fixed (not my expense) and the relocation company bought it so I could move. This was a two year old house.
Six months later I saw that the house had sold for more than the relocation company paid me, and called them because I was entitled to part of that profit, after their expenses. The guy I talked to was really pissy - because the buyer inspection revealed that anything heavy like full washer, or refrigerator or full bathtub - would likely have fallen through a rotten floor in the near future, Had to jack up the house and replace a bunch or wood. Small rancher. So there was no profit left.
And everyone involved in that went to church together every Sunday.

Although North Carolina is a beautiful beautiful state, I did not like the politics and the racism, perhaps it is different now, and was different in the cities back then. Jesse Helms! Quite the god-fearing man indeed! And, of course, I was a damned Yankee. Legitimate target, out in the country.

Prophet 451

(9,796 posts)
28. I always said I'd handle it this way
Wed Oct 29, 2014, 09:30 AM
Oct 2014

At the time I thought I'd have kids (I now know I won't), I always said that, when they got to an age to ask about religion, I'd present them with a copy of Bullfinch's Mythology, a copy of the Oxford Encyclopaedia of Religions, an essay about what I believe and tell them that they can pick any one of those. Or none at all. Or invent their own faith. And all of them are valid choices.

riverbendviewgal

(4,252 posts)
29. I raised my kids with no religious beliefs
Wed Oct 29, 2014, 09:40 AM
Oct 2014

We celebrated xmas with a tree and nativity stable under it. It was from my childhood xmases. My kids played with it when they were little. They were exposed to religion through their public school where all religious holidays were acknowledged. Living in Canada's largest city there were kids from all over the world. They thrived and learned and became unbiased. I took them to religious places for weddings and funerals.

One son became engaged to a wonderful jewish girl. He thought of converting. I was supportive and told him to do what he believed in. He died of a brain tumour before they were married. He never finished the conversion. My other son is an atheist, like me and my husband was. My husband died 18 months after our younger son died.


The other day my USA brother said I had no values because I am an atheist. He also hates Obama, Democratics, blacks, hispanics, immigrants, gays and the poor and obamacare. His beliefs are opposite of my beliefs.

I told him that when he said I had no values I am insulted. He has not responded. Yet he signs off on his emails," luv ya".

edhopper

(33,570 posts)
38. Is this a thing to be worried about know?
Wed Oct 29, 2014, 02:06 PM
Oct 2014

not the indoctrination of children by religious parents. Not making kids go to church and religious school and answering all the imponderables with "God".

But when atheist parents tell their kids the irrationality of religion, they don't do it in a way that can be called indoctrination.

Really?

cbayer

(146,218 posts)
40. I think the argument can be made in both directions, to be honest.
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 01:04 AM
Oct 2014

This author is only addressing one side of it, but I definitely think the case can be made for religious indoctrination as well.

AtheistCrusader

(33,982 posts)
41. "we run the risk of creating a generation of anti-religious zealots"
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 01:26 AM
Oct 2014

How does one define 'anti-religious zealots'?

If my kid is just flat out immune to magical bullshit, does that make him a zealot? Or would he have to proselytize to qualify?

 

rug

(82,333 posts)
48. If you indoctrinate your child that religion is no more than "magical bullshit",
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 07:40 AM
Oct 2014

you're spreading your ignorance and bias to another generation.

aikoaiko

(34,169 posts)
49. And the jury results are in...
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 10:03 AM
Oct 2014

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AtheistCrusader

(33,982 posts)
53. itt; critical thinking skills = indoctrination
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 10:17 AM
Oct 2014

Though, honestly, I'm surprised your post drew an alert before mine did.

NeoGreen

(4,031 posts)
59. It is not indoctrination…
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 12:13 PM
Oct 2014

… it is inoculation.

Teaching them the whole story (actually all the various stories), and revealing the internal and external conflicts of each…is not indoctrination.

In fact, it is the opposite.

 

rug

(82,333 posts)
61. "magical bullshit" is an inaccurate and incomplete opinion that requires a child
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 12:34 PM
Oct 2014

to shed it before even beginning a neutral, let alone positive, investigation into religion.

It is indoctrination, the feeding of a parent's debatable and dubious opinions and biases into the mind of a child.

If you don't see the difference, I'd question what you consider "teaching them the whole story".

 

rug

(82,333 posts)
63. Did you miss it?
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 12:52 PM
Oct 2014

inaccurate and incomplete opinion

a parent's debatable and dubious opinions and biases

magical bullshit

NeoGreen

(4,031 posts)
64. No...
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 12:58 PM
Oct 2014

...I just preferred to use terms that are not inherently offensive.

But if I must, please define the "M____ B____" that must first be shed by the child, that was the subject of your comment.

And please, provide an example.

 

rug

(82,333 posts)
65. Scroll up. That wasn't my term.
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 01:03 PM
Oct 2014

All snark aside, if a parent trying to raise a child starts teaching religion, or any other subject, by calling it bullshit, magical or otherwise, the only thing the child will learn will be the prejudices of the parent.

NeoGreen

(4,031 posts)
66. Would you agree...
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 01:07 PM
Oct 2014

...that a parent can teach about religion, all religions, without calling any of them "BS".

I imply the question: does a parent, when teaching about religion, have to implicitly or explicitly favor any one religion?

NeoGreen

(4,031 posts)
73. Then...
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 02:59 PM
Oct 2014

...how does a parent, who is without religion, choose what to teach, specifically as not being "MB", without inherently implying that any one of the other options, is?

You can't, in all honesty, be implying that there are no contradictions between the options.

They can't all be correct at the same time.

 

rug

(82,333 posts)
76. I always tell them what I think. More importantly, I tell them why I think it.
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 03:04 PM
Oct 2014

Then I listen.

NeoGreen

(4,031 posts)
78. How does that not fall into:
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 03:26 PM
Oct 2014

(and I quote)

"...indoctrination, the feeding of a parent's debatable and dubious opinions and biases into the mind of a child..."?

Whether you listen to their responses, afterward, or not?

Why is a review of all religions (or as many as can be reasonably presented in a parent/child conversation), and their internal and external inconsistencies, to be labeled as "indoctrination", but what you described as your modus operandi, not?

 

rug

(82,333 posts)
81. Because by listening, I may learn that I'm wrong.
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 03:32 PM
Oct 2014

As long as there's doubt, there's no indoctrination.

If you have the conversation at all, discuss those religions that interest you, whether you agree with them or not. Or they may ask you bout them.

Got to step out. Catch you a bit later.

NeoGreen

(4,031 posts)
105. You model of presentation...
Fri Oct 31, 2014, 08:14 AM
Oct 2014

... still seems like "indoctrination", based on your definition.

I would still ask, what is a parent to do if none of the current "religions" are deemed interesting?
And what are the criteria used to determine if a particular set of beliefs are "interesting".
Do they have to be held as "true" to be deemed "interesting"?

And, based on your model, you seem to be suggesting that a child's responses are the only means for potentially altering the belief paradigm of a parent and these responses are used for the justification that the process described is not indoctrination.

I reject the notion, that "listening", after the "indoctrination", has any effect on lessoning the "indoctrination" or that it has any potential to altering the content of the indoctrination. It is too late, the indoctrination has already occurred.

 

rug

(82,333 posts)
106. If none of it interests you, there's no need to bring it up.
Fri Oct 31, 2014, 12:09 PM
Oct 2014

But they're likely to.

On the other hand, if you have formed opinions about religion, including negative opinions, how do you not indoctrinate them with your negative, if not hostile, opinions?

NeoGreen

(4,031 posts)
74. Fair enough...
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 03:00 PM
Oct 2014

...but you nixed my plans for a few well chosen Monty Python quotes.

Curse you.

I live to post Monty Python quotes.

NeoGreen

(4,031 posts)
80. Meh...
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 03:31 PM
Oct 2014

... too long winded and too close to normality.

I was going to go with something short and funny, such as:

Maybe you are shagged out from a long long squawk?

CUSTOMER: "Look my lad I've had just about enough of this, that parrot is definitely deceased, and when I bought it not half an hour ago you assured me that its lack of movement was due to it being tired and shagged out after a long squawk"


In juxtaposition to you absence of a response.

But, maybe we will have to agree to disagree on what constitutes "good" Monty Python humor.

AtheistCrusader

(33,982 posts)
89. What do you teach your child about the ancient greek gods?
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 08:36 PM
Oct 2014

Do you frame it in any manner that might suggest they are archaic/myth, somehow different from the religions that are popular today?

 

rug

(82,333 posts)
90. I start with their human attributes and limitations and move on from there.
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 08:54 PM
Oct 2014

Funny you ask, the youngest has been covering it in school for the last week. She had a lot of questions about Persephone.

AtheistCrusader

(33,982 posts)
104. Interesting.
Fri Oct 31, 2014, 02:14 AM
Oct 2014

If one were to ask me if the Abrahamic monotheistic god had human attributes and limitations, I would name quite a few.

How does it differ for you, if I might ask?

 

rug

(82,333 posts)
107. Even in the Old Testament, God is ineffable.
Fri Oct 31, 2014, 12:19 PM
Oct 2014

His name is simply "I Am".

The descriptions we read there say more about the state of humanity at that time and place than it does the nature of God.

The Greek and Roman gods, on the other hand, are anything but ineffable.

longship

(40,416 posts)
57. I prefer the Dennett approach.
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 11:59 AM
Oct 2014

Everybody needs to know about religion. And Dennett is a fierce advocate of learning why and how religion has such a strong grip on culture. To me, and to him, this is not a trivial issue in the world.

If I had kids, I would insure that they would be educated in all religions, and in the sociology, psychology, and culture of religion. They would also have a lifelong course in science, which is a sort of inoculant. I would otherwise not proselytize for either belief or non-belief.

cbayer

(146,218 posts)
67. Agree. Education is the key and the case she makes
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 01:34 PM
Oct 2014

applies to both children raised in religious homes and those raised in non-religious homes.

It is a major issue in this world and impacts everything.

I had a discussion last night with some friends. We were talking about how we are seeing more and more marriages between people of different religions and religious/nonreligious people. Like race, I think we will see a melting pot over time, and imo, that's a good thing.

pinto

(106,886 posts)
72. A simple family experience -
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 02:54 PM
Oct 2014

I was speaking with my niece after her recent wedding and we got to talking about religion in general and religion in my family. She was raised totally a-religious with no exposure to religion of any flavor. Out of the blue she said she would have welcomed some interaction with religions. If only to satisfy her own curiosity.

 

Daemonaquila

(1,712 posts)
77. What a bloody joke.
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 03:11 PM
Oct 2014

There are NO negative consequences to letting kids know that religion is a bunch of hooey. A "risk of creating a generation of anti-religious zealots?" How about all the PRO-religious zealots right now, trying to shove their religions down the throats of non-believers and other religions' believers? No empathy? How about the religious who show no empathy to people of other faiths or non-believers?

Do, by all means, let kids know that there's no god out there. Save them from wasting their time and rotting their brain on the stuff. This article is no better than advising parents not to teach their kids that Alex Jones is a freakshow and they shouldn't believe his conspiracy theories.

Cartoonist

(7,316 posts)
82. Excuse me for using a Hitler reference
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 04:00 PM
Oct 2014

But does this author feel that kids should be taught the tenets of Nazism else they become a generation of anti-nazi zealots?

And rug, do you feel that teaching kids that Nazism is BS is spreading ignorance and bias to another generation?

Here's the hurdle rug and this author can't get over: some of us, maybe just me, sees religion as a force of EVIL, or at least something that has no redeeming value when all its negative aspects are factored in.

 

rug

(82,333 posts)
91. If you think religion, unspecified and unidentified, is the equivalent of nazism,
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 09:01 PM
Oct 2014

you know little about either.

Here's the hurdle you face: assuming you have or will have children, in any lesson you attempt to convey to them, your rhetoric will take precedence over information and fact.

Cartoonist

(7,316 posts)
95. I've made this point many times
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 10:17 PM
Oct 2014

and will do so again and again.

If you think religion, unspecified and unidentified, is the equivalent of nazism, you know little about either.
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Christianity has killed more people over its lifetime than Hitler. No, I don't think Christianity is the equivalent of Nazism, I think it is worse, and the numbers back me up. And you can add all the other deity based religions in with them. No need to specify and identify.

cbayer

(146,218 posts)
99. Yes! There are numbers to support that christianity is worse than Nazism!
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 10:51 PM
Oct 2014

And there are videos of ghosts!

I see a cartoon in your future.

cbayer

(146,218 posts)
101. My mind is quite a bit more open than yours.
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 11:11 PM
Oct 2014

There are far too many good people of faith for you to ignore them.

What do you think we should do with them all?

Cartoonist

(7,316 posts)
102. The good people are welcome
Fri Oct 31, 2014, 12:48 AM
Oct 2014

And if they are truly good, they don't need religion. What you are missing is that people are good, for the most part. It is religion that is evil and unnecesary.

cbayer

(146,218 posts)
103. So gracious of you. Whether they "need" religion or not is not the point.
Fri Oct 31, 2014, 12:51 AM
Oct 2014

People have the right to believe.

What you are missing is that people are good with or without religion and there is much good about religion. While an individuals goodness may not come from religion, it may be reinforced by it.

If it is unnecessary for you, that's fine. But you are totally out of line in saying it is unnecessary for others.

cbayer

(146,218 posts)
94. Omg. You are now comparing religious beliefs to nazism.
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 09:53 PM
Oct 2014

This is even worse than I thought. I am beginning to think that you might be a Poe.

Cartoonist

(7,316 posts)
97. Here's the most apt comparison I can find
Thu Oct 30, 2014, 10:31 PM
Oct 2014
http://www.gilderlehrman.org/history-by-era/imperial-rivalries/resources/doctrine-discovery-1493

The Papal Bull “Inter Caetera,” issued by Pope Alexander VI on May 4, 1493, played a central role in the Spanish conquest of the New World. The document supported Spain’s strategy to ensure its exclusive right to the lands discovered by Columbus the previous year. It established a demarcation line one hundred leagues west of the Azores and Cape Verde Islands and assigned Spain the exclusive right to acquire territorial possessions and to trade in all lands west of that line. All others were forbidden to approach the lands west of the line without special license from the rulers of Spain. This effectively gave Spain a monopoly on the lands in the New World.

The Bull stated that any land not inhabited by Christians was available to be “discovered,” claimed, and exploited by Christian rulers and declared that “the Catholic faith and the Christian religion be exalted and be everywhere increased and spread, that the health of souls be cared for and that barbarous nations be overthrown and brought to the faith itself.” This “Doctrine of Discovery” became the basis of all European claims in the Americas as well as the foundation for the United States’ western expansion. In the US Supreme Court in the 1823 case Johnson v. McIntosh, Chief Justice John Marshall’s opinion in the unanimous decision held “that the principle of discovery gave European nations an absolute right to New World lands.” In essence, American Indians had only a right of occupancy, which could be abolished.
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In other words: Let the genocide begin.
When it was all over, two continents of native Americans were obliterated. The few remaining were herded into concentration camps, called reservations. Adolph was an amateur compared to Pope Alex.
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