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Related: About this forumLearning With Respect vs. Just Asking Questions
May 8, 2017
Greta Christina
On one side: Im just asking questions! Why are you being so harsh? If you want people to learn about sexism and racism and stuff, you should be more patient. On the other side: I dont believe youre asking in good faith. Youre JAQing off: just asking questions as a way of poisoning the well, derailing the conversation, and wasting my time.
In conversations about sexism, racism, and other social justice issues, this meta-conversation is one of the most consistently contentious. And it can be hard to explain exactly whats wrong with just asking questions, or even to precisely define what it is. But my friend and colleague Heina Dadabhoy said something recently about this issue that crystallized it for me:
If we sincerely want to learn from people, we approach them the way we would a teacher. And that means approaching them with respect, even with a certain degree of humility.
If we really want to learn from people, we assume that they know more about the subject than we do. When we dont understand them, or when what they say contradicts things we thought we knew, we dont automatically assume theyre wrong. We think about what theyre saying; chew it over; maybe talk it over with other people in the class, or with other people whove taken the class before. And when we have questions, we ask respectfully. We assume that they have informed, knowledgable answers, and we listen to those answers.
https://the-orbit.net/greta/2017/05/08/learning-respect-vs-just-asking-questions/
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(948 posts)AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)That's about the only connection I can find.
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(82,333 posts)and me neither. I've apparently read none of her works.
Two are interesting to me.