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Eko

(7,281 posts)
Fri Jan 22, 2016, 10:22 PM Jan 2016

I don't care if someone is a socialist, I don't care if banks have given more money to someone.

My dad died just over three years ago. He was getting SS disability to the tune of about $1100 a month. His rent for a one bedroom apt was $700, average price for a place around here. In the state I live in that was too much to qualify for medicare. He was a proud and stubborn man. He was getting sicker and would not go to the hospital because of the bills. He and his girlfriend hid his sickness from me or I would have taken him to the hospital. He died on memorial day, they were shooting fireworks in the sky. I sat there outside the hospital that night after he died watching the fireworks. I didn't grow up with him. He lived in a different state than I did growing up. I visited him probably less than 10 times from age 4 to about 2010, my late 30's. He moved up to my state in 2010. He lived with me for about a year, then his buddies, then had a heart attack. He was in a nursing home for a while, I went to visit him about every other day. Then he got out and got his apartment. Then he died. I sat out there that memorial night right after he died, I felt an immense sorrow and loss. I also felt immense anger, towards myself for not seeing his sickness and doing anything about it, for a state that made a man choose dignity over life. For a public and a government that was saying that a man like that, my dad, did not deserve treatment. The ACA passed too late to help him.I lost a lot of friends who thought it was a hand out while to me it would have saved my dad's life. I decided to do what I could to help my family, I worked hard, moved up, moved up again, and again. I have another promotion coming in about a month. Decent money. Enough to help some of my family. My mom is now on SS disability. She is raising my brothers 2 kids. Last year she worked so she qualified for ACA, this year she doesn't make enough to qualify for the ACA subsidy and makes too much for medicaid. $700 a month is too much. Her insurance is over $700 a month. If I get my promotion I might be able to afford that. If my car with a blown head gasket lasts, if I don't get sick. If I get that promotion. If the food stamps keep going to her, if my brother doesn't get hurt at his job with no insurance. I thought the ACA was supposed to fix this? I know it has helped a lot of people and that is great. I'm glad for that. I don't care if someone is a socialist, I don't care if banks have given more money to someone, I don't care about their age or husbands or emails or if they will break up wall street or any of that bullshit that really isn't going to make our lives better. I care about my mom and my family. I will vote for the person who will fix that. Who will fix that goddamn one thing so I don't loose my other parent to bullshit politics. I know who I will vote for, and I don't feel a bern or whatever Clinton supporters feel. I feel desperation.

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I don't care if someone is a socialist, I don't care if banks have given more money to someone. (Original Post) Eko Jan 2016 OP
I understand, hollysmom Jan 2016 #1
Thanks. Eko Jan 2016 #3
.... Punkingal Jan 2016 #2
knowing how many people are falling between the cracks Armstead Jan 2016 #4
At this point it would be nice if there were hoops for her to jump through. Eko Jan 2016 #5
I have nothing useful for you, other than a hug in solidarity... mak3cats Jan 2016 #6
Thank you. Eko Jan 2016 #8
thank you for sharing this. nashville_brook Jan 2016 #7
Thanks. Eko Jan 2016 #9
My husband lost his dad because his dad couldn't get the proper support after his heart attack. liberal_at_heart Jan 2016 #10
We are one of the wealthiest countries in the world. Eko Jan 2016 #11
I am. Thank you. liberal_at_heart Jan 2016 #12
you have put this is perspective for lots of us. there are so many people like you who have CTyankee Feb 2016 #13

hollysmom

(5,946 posts)
1. I understand,
Fri Jan 22, 2016, 10:34 PM
Jan 2016

and agree , I have a favorite, but I won't let one of those damn idiots who claim to conserve life but really destroy it win, so will work for the primary winner. I think every person here will understand and appreciate your point, it gets to the base of our feelings. Don't let the bickering get to you, people bicker, but it is if they unite afterwards and I think they will.

 

Armstead

(47,803 posts)
4. knowing how many people are falling between the cracks
Fri Jan 22, 2016, 10:51 PM
Jan 2016

Is exactly the reason we need better than the baroque complexities of the ACA and one of the many reasons I support Bernue.

People should not have to jump through so many hoops just to receive affordable health care

Eko

(7,281 posts)
5. At this point it would be nice if there were hoops for her to jump through.
Fri Jan 22, 2016, 10:57 PM
Jan 2016

Medicare for all would be nice. Thanks Armstead.

mak3cats

(1,573 posts)
6. I have nothing useful for you, other than a hug in solidarity...
Fri Jan 22, 2016, 11:04 PM
Jan 2016

...

There are a lot of us around here who want what you want. I'm sorry about your father.

nashville_brook

(20,958 posts)
7. thank you for sharing this.
Fri Jan 22, 2016, 11:08 PM
Jan 2016

i don't know what else to say except that you speak for me...these issues transcend labels.

just...thanks. and, i'm so sorry for your loss.

Eko

(7,281 posts)
9. Thanks.
Fri Jan 22, 2016, 11:33 PM
Jan 2016

I posted this out of frustration, with life, the GOP, and with us democrats. I sometimes feel like if we cant do things without these petty little arguments about our candidates how are we going to do anything meaningful. Maybe we will, hopefully we will but I'm not sure sometimes.

liberal_at_heart

(12,081 posts)
10. My husband lost his dad because his dad couldn't get the proper support after his heart attack.
Fri Jan 22, 2016, 11:45 PM
Jan 2016

His dad died less than a year after his heart attack. My husband had a heart attack and because he has Medicare and a supplemental policy my husband got into a rehab program that taught him how to eat, take his medicine religiously, exercise and manage stress. Seven months later his doctors tell him he is doing great. And because of Medicare and his supplemental policy we never received any medical bills for his care. My husband's heart attack was hard on me. I started having physical symptoms and panicked. I went to the ER a couple of times(it turned out I was having physical symptoms of depression) and because all I have is a private insurance policy I now have $4000 in copays that I cannot pay. I have never thought ACA was good enough. I am glad more people have insurance but we will never be where we need to be until we have single payer. I am sorry you have gone through what you have and hope your mother gets the health care she needs and deserves. Health care should be a fundamental right for everyone.

Eko

(7,281 posts)
11. We are one of the wealthiest countries in the world.
Fri Jan 22, 2016, 11:51 PM
Jan 2016

And we have these problems. Crazy. I'm sorry for you too and hope you are doing better.

CTyankee

(63,903 posts)
13. you have put this is perspective for lots of us. there are so many people like you who have
Thu Feb 4, 2016, 10:25 AM
Feb 2016

such a struggle just to keep it all together. It's a wonder we don't fall apart in this country due to all the desperation...thank you for sharing your story...

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