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Why are you taking this so personally?
From a photo on Feminist India's facebook page.
Why are you taking this so personally?
This entire piece is an answer to that last question. When women are bombarded every day from every direction with questions and statements that lessen their worth as humans, question their intellect, undermine their experiences, and collectively make the very loud statement that what they say and experience matters far less than how they look and what men think, it's damned hard NOT to take it personally, or to not get upset when yet another person cracks sexist jokes without thinking them through.
Women have equal rights now, what's your problem?
Sexism hurts men, too!
If you just took a nicer tone I'm sure more people would listen.
I have lots of female friends.
Don't go and spoil things for everyone else!
At least you're not in ...
Where's your objectivity?
Social change happens slowly, one step at a time, you can't have everything at once.
You're just paranoid.
It's just nature.
Anyway, I've never seen that.
You're afraid of your own sexuality.
I would never do that!
You just hate all men.
You just haven't met the right man.
See, you're sexist too!
I guess I'm just old fashioned.
If you really wanted change you would be trying to educate people, not attack them.
Did you see what she was wearing? She had to expect that something like this would happen.
I never asked for privilege!
Sure, her mouth said no, but her body said something else.
You're just making excuses for your lack of success
You know how women are.
Can't you take a joke?
Of course I take you seriously.
I'm a nice guy, why won't you...
Why are you so angry?
You'd be a lot happier if you...
Why are you taking this so personally?
This entire piece is an answer to that last question. When women are bombarded every day from every direction with questions and statements that lessen their worth as humans, question their intellect, undermine their experiences, and collectively make the very loud statement that what they say and experience matters far less than how they look and what men think, it's damned hard NOT to take it personally, or to not get upset when yet another person cracks sexist jokes without thinking them through.
Women have equal rights now, what's your problem?
Sexism hurts men, too!
If you just took a nicer tone I'm sure more people would listen.
I have lots of female friends.
Don't go and spoil things for everyone else!
At least you're not in ...
Where's your objectivity?
Social change happens slowly, one step at a time, you can't have everything at once.
You're just paranoid.
It's just nature.
Anyway, I've never seen that.
You're afraid of your own sexuality.
I would never do that!
You just hate all men.
You just haven't met the right man.
See, you're sexist too!
I guess I'm just old fashioned.
If you really wanted change you would be trying to educate people, not attack them.
Did you see what she was wearing? She had to expect that something like this would happen.
I never asked for privilege!
Sure, her mouth said no, but her body said something else.
You're just making excuses for your lack of success
You know how women are.
Can't you take a joke?
Of course I take you seriously.
I'm a nice guy, why won't you...
Why are you so angry?
You'd be a lot happier if you...
Why are you taking this so personally?
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Starry Messenger has an OP called " Derailing for dummies" in the Feminist forum which is also very eye opening. I would link to it,but I'm on kindle and still haven't figured out how to do that.