History of Feminism
Related: About this forumShe’s (Rarely) the Boss
We hold ourselves back in ways both big and small, by lacking self-confidence, by not raising our hands, and by pulling back when we should be leaning in, Sandberg writes in the book, called Lean In.
We internalize the negative messages we get throughout our lives, the messages that say its wrong to be outspoken, aggressive, more powerful than men. We lower our own expectations of what we can achieve. We continue to do the majority of the housework and child care. We compromise our career goals to make room for partners and children who may not even exist yet.
*
Sandberg and I discussed the issue on a panel here in Davos, and I think that there is something real and important in what she says. When I lecture at universities, the first questions are invariably asked by a man even at a womens college. When I point at someone in a crowd to ask a question, the women in the area almost always look at each other hesitantly and any man in the vicinity jumps up and asks his question.
*
So, yes, lets encourage young women to lean in, but lets also change the workplace so that when they do lean in and assert themselves, were directly behind them shouting: Right!
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/01/27/opinion/sunday/kristof-shes-rarely-the-boss.html?_r=2&
In_The_Wind
(72,300 posts)left coaster
(1,093 posts)If the lack of widespread interest in threads like this here on DU is any indication..
..doesn't mean we should stop talking though, seabeyond, and I support/appreciate your efforts!
redqueen
(115,103 posts)And that women should strive to be more assertive in the workplace.
On the other hand, I question the value of this competitive model in which aggressiveness is considered a virtue and merit matters less than powers of persuasion. Capitalism is dying and the idea that we are all in a race with lots of $$$$$$ at the finish line has shown to be a destructive, unsustainable one. It is time to start moving past it, not, IMO, learning to exploit it for our own gains.
Articles like these leave so many women out. The audience for this kind of 'how to win at corporate ladder climbing' is a very small percentage of women.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)or not.
it also will effect sales positions and dealing with customers. it also will migrate into personal life and be an advantage in many ways. we train girls to not speak. we can allow them to speak.
redqueen
(115,103 posts)and sales are just one type of job. There are many jobs, but not enough to go around. This isn't related to feminism but economics... the idea that making lots of money = success is killing us.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)redqueen
(115,103 posts)in all aspects of life, in addition to the workplace, though it will financially benefit many women in that context.
That should have been my first response.
ismnotwasm
(41,976 posts)Yet I wish that there could be two versions of Sandbergs book. One marketed to young women would encourage them to be more assertive. One marketed to men (and women already in leadership) would emphasize the need for structural changes to accommodate women and families.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)only allowed FOUR paragraphs, regardless if one sentence makes a paragraph.
thanks.
DURHAM D
(32,609 posts)In fact, the whole program was about women and work.
Senator Gillibrand was on. It was an excellent show and you can watch part of the show here.
http://www.katiecouric.com/
I read somewhere that back in February Katie's producers booked an interview with a psychic. That was the final straw for her as regards the silly stuff they were making her do so she got a new team and sort of started over with her show.
Her inner feminist is now on full display and she has had great guests lately and is definitely doing her bit to raise awareness on women's issues. I am sure that from time to time she will still be required to do some fluff stuff that most of us are not interested in so I would suggest recording it and screening out the silly. In my area each show is shown at least 3 times so check the local listings.
Ok... I sound like a fan. Actually, I am. She is perky alright but that does not take away from her abilities. Watch the clips from the show where they talk about the fact that the more successful a woman is the less she is "liked" while the reverse is true for men.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)when doing work where i cannot read though, i need to have video on. to listen to. generally do maddow. but will put katies show on today.
MadrasT
(7,237 posts)calmly making an emotionless statement of fact.
What was that met with? Hostility and derision.
"You have all these.... opinions!!!"
Like it was a bad thing and I should just stay quiet.
Dude has... issues.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)MadrasT
(7,237 posts)And was yelled at for "HAVING OPINIONS!!!1!1!!".
I said, "WTF, that is what she SAID TO ME, it wasn't an OPINION".
And then I was thinking, "Wait wut? So what if it was an opinion? I am not supposed to have those... at all???"
Asshat.