History of Feminism
Related: About this forumLosing Access to Sisterhood: Tomboys, Masculinity, and the Unmaking of a Girl
(I thought this a good alternative viewpoint to Sea's excellent thread on feminized men)
I used to have a very close-knit circle of female friends; we defended each other from perverts at crowded bars, cried on each others shoulders, told each other we were beautiful whenever the world made us doubt that we were, and gave each other relationship advice, regardless of the gender of the person we loved.
We were sisters. It didnt matter if we were tomboys or not. We were sisters. It didnt matter that some of us wore skirts, and some of us wore shorts. We were sisters. That was all that mattered. Right?
Wrong. The second my gender presentation transitioned from straight girl femininity to queer masculine inbetweener, I lost most of my sisters. Im a different kind of woman now. And all of a sudden women I used to call my sisters dont know how to interact with me. Im still a woman, but the reactions to my expression of womanhood have changed, drastically.
This is the kind of experience that informs my work as a media activist. Im always thinking about which perspectives are missing from political conversations and representations in pop culture: who is being excluded? why? how can our political movements become more self-reflective so that we can identify who among us is being left behind, and become stronger advocates for the kind of progress that includes them. Incidentally, in the fight for womens equality, the people most frequently excluded from consideration and celebration, often enough look just like me.
http://www.spectraspeaks.com/2013/03/womensdaytomboys-masculinity-and-sisterhood/
(Edit: I'm in the middle of a long airport layover *sigh*)
Helen Reddy
(998 posts)Don't forget to take that machete out of your shoe, those Homeland Security guys are ill humored.
Have a non eventful flight.
ismnotwasm
(41,965 posts)Of TSA. We have several unfortunate stories. This time, outbound from Seattle, I had my hair in a twist and they checked my hair. Two bobby pins held it up. Two.
Almost back home, three hours away.
niyad
(113,055 posts)MadrasT
(7,237 posts)But I can't say I feel like I have lost my "sisters".
I transitioned from "straight girl femininity" to neutral-bordering-on-masculine (because when I did straight girl femininity I felt like I was wearing costumes and playing a role).
The women I know seem to take me as I come.
The backlash I got was more from men who knew me "before" and "after'. Many of them were very attentive and kind before, and now they treat me with a layer of contempt. As if... how dare I shun femininity and deprive them of... what, another pretty girl to enjoy?
Fucking pisses me the fuck off, yes it does.
I figure if the reason they were so nice to me before was short skirts, high heels and make-up (and I am no longer interesting to them without those things) then fuck 'em, they weren't the kind of "friends" I really want the have around.
redqueen
(115,103 posts)I know that in the Hispanic community, acceptance of homosexuality is a tough fight, and gender norms are still deeply ingrained.
I bristled at the use of 'masculine' to describe what, to me, seem gender neutral things in this article. Such language, to me, seems to be the most insidious method of reinforcing gender norms.